[Derfel]

I'm more worried about the kids the OP may eventually have.

[rosiemaphone]

How can they have kids? Well, when a mummy and a daddy love each other very much...

Seriously, though. I'd rather have an obese parent who could never have run around after me, than an abusive mother and father, however physically healthy, and even if they were able to "run around" after me, in order to catch me for a beating. Just trying to put things into perspective here.

Obese or overweight parents may be unable to run around, etc with their children. However this does not mean children will be unable to participate in physical activity. I know of an overweight parent who plays a trampoline game with his child. The child jumps on the trampoline and has to catch a ball in the process. The kid loves it. Is he missing out on physical activity with his father? No. Anyway, friends, siblings, and family friends are always willing to go for a kickabout with him - family friends which are there because the parent is a person they like and respect, despite being overweight.

It's like saying a less educated parent should not have children because they will not be able to intellectually stimulate their child. But if the parent is in a loving relationship, is a caring person and has a good home, who can say this will be damaging?

The kind of people who shouldn't have kids, unfortunately, usually only get discovered when the damage is done.

[Le_Bow]

(Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
I'm extremely informed on this subject, and I'd just like to say that you, OP, are talking crap. LadyRowena has it exactly right.

Informed how?
Talking crap? Oh please, You think it's wrong to say fat people who are parents are more of a bad influence than normal sized people?
What I said was true.

[PinkMobilePhone]

(Original post by Le_Bow)
Informed how?
Talking crap? Oh please, You think it's wrong to say fat people who are parents are more of a bad influence than normal sized people?
What I said was true.

My husband is 29 stone. We have three children. I'm therefore far more informed than you, it's just a given. And I stand by what I said - you are talking crap. I don't need to discuss it further.

[Le_Bow]

(Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
My husband is 29 stone. We have three children. I'm therefore far more informed than you, it's just a given. And I stand by what I said - you are talking crap. I don't need to discuss it further.

You know nothing about me and yet you think you know more than me? Bless.

29 stone? Why is he that large?
I know that obesity means limitations as to childcare. That much is obvious.

[PinkMobilePhone]

(Original post by Le_Bow)
You know nothing about me and yet you think you know more than me? Bless.

29 stone? Why is he that large?
I know that obesity means limitations as to childcare. That much is obvious.

okay, so prove me wrong. Why are you so qualified as to be an expert on the subject.

Why he is so large is not your concern. I don't go asking you why the people you know are the size that they are. It's a very rude question.

[Le_Bow]

(Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
okay, so prove me wrong. Why are you so qualified as to be an expert on the subject.

Why he is so large is not your concern. I don't go asking you why the people you know are the size that they are. It's a very rude question.

I know people who are obese and have been restricted when it comes to parenting. Plus it's a bad influence.

Its not rude, it's inquiring. You want to know my experience but contribute little else to the conversation except to say I know little and am being rude.
Now you try making an argument for your case.

[PinkMobilePhone]

(Original post by Le_Bow)
I know people who are obese and have been restricted when it comes to parenting. Plus it's a bad influence.

Its not rude, it's inquiring. You want to know my experience but contribute little else to the conversation except to say I know little and am being rude.
Now you try making an argument for your case.

you know people who are obese but that's entirely different to actually LIVING with somebody who is obese, and raising three children at the same time. You don't experience day in and day out what it's like to see the interaction between them. It's not quite the same if they are just friends or distant family members or whatever.

I'm not going to discuss my husband's obesity with you because, well frankly, I don't actually think the reasons behind his obesity are relevant to the topic.

I will say this though, YES life is difficult with my husbands obesity, and I don't deny that it would be more pleasant for us all as a family if he weren't as big as he is. BUT, that is not to say that our kids aren't happy kids, because they are, and they love their dad and he loves them, and none of our children are overweight either. I don't feel even for one second that we were selfish for having them simply because my husband is obese, and if you asked my kids you can be damned sure they'd tell you the same thing.

[drbluebox]

(Original post by Le_Bow)
Exactly

My parents are overweight but I am a good person, I also dont smoke and very rarely drink alcohol dont get into massive debt and I am very friendly.

Like someone else has talked about why would them being overweight mean they are a worse parent than a thin person who cares less about their kids, I mean you get fat kids and thin parents and often parents arent that strict these days and even do things like let little kids play 18 rated games, go on internet unchecked etc.

Is all that ignored since their parents are thin?