(Original post by Anonymous)
Today must be the worst day of my life.
I'm so so so sick of my parents.
I'm a black female who grew up in a predominantly white area so obviously most of my friends are white.
Today I brought my boyfriend round for dinner because we had planned this for soooo long. My parents know his white but seem to just think I'm joking and stuff.
My mum is the WORST my mum came here as an immigrant in the 70's and just has this concept that all white people are racists and the enemy and they wanna destoy blacks and keep blacks down, ruin their self esteem etc etc.
In her eyes any white person is a racist who should be steered clear of. She see's them as 'devils' who ruined the lives of Asians and Blacks during the British Empire era to build themselves up blah blah blah.
My dad is better but he just thinks I should be 'careful' with white people and see's them all as evil too .
I have been seeing my boyfreind for about 6 months and have told my parents over and over and over that his white. I think they judged it as a phase.
Today he met them for the first time and immediately my mum started speaking in yoruba (Nigerian language ) saying 'why did u bring this pink pig to our house'.
It was bad because he couldn't understand what they were saying. Through out the dinner my mum made so many mean and snide remarks in our language to my dad then they'd both start laughing. It was sooo awful and awkward. My boyfriend knew something was up and left early. They clearly showed him he wasn't welcome.
Anyway his gone now and my mum, dad, older brother and my uncle who is also a 'pastor' (ironic as hell) all gathered me in the living room for about 30 minutes saying all sorts to me calling me an 'oyinbo lover' 'coconut' 'disgrace' my uncle even tried to say I need to come to church for a prayer because my mind 'is not right'. They are also sure this is a result of me mixing with 'bad influences'.
To be honest, I'm just clueless. I love my boyfriend but being an african I can't do the typical 'leave me alone let me live my life' thing, they already think I need prayer, I can imagine them calling all my family and 'pastors' to 'pray for me'.
Now they are talking about EVERYTHING, how they think I should stay home for uni, how they will ship me back to Nigeria blah blah blah blah, this has just opened a can of worms.
Do u think I should dump my bf and just forget everything to avoid any further trouble ????
I don't know any yoruba boys I like
Please I'd appreciate responses from Asians/Blacks/People with strict parents who understand going against the rules isn't really an option.