[Anonymous]

It's ramadan and every year my mum complains about how she has to do all the housework during the month and gets no help at all. She gets annoyed every year over the fact. Now this year as my sister has got a job and it's just me and my brother at home I decided to give my mum a break and do all the chores she's been doing, myself. So for the past 3 days I've cooking, cleaning, doing all the housework, ironing etc the works basically. Today I go downstairs to the kitchen and find my mum making breakfast for my brother and forcing him to eat something that she knows I can't make. I then attempt to do the housework and she comes rushing down from upstairs to stop me with a stupid excuse that she has to clean the vacuum cleaner. My brother has been complaining and pissing me off frankly about how last nights pizza wasn't cooked right, IT WAS!! I've been making a real effort these past 3 days to do my best and give my mum a break, but no one is appreciating it. I'm constantly being criticised for what I do, my mums annoying me, like right now she's cleaning the whole house just to show me she can do it better. It's ridiculous, she complains about not getting help and when I do help you don't like it! URGHH! I'm a guy btw, and an atheist hence why I am not fasting and brother is young and is at work all day and comes back from the office late because of meetings etc. So annoying, it's really making me sad. I just went down to dust the shelves and mum goes, you don't use that cloth to clean and making a stupid excuse that it's the wrong polish to clean the house. FFS THERE'S ONLY ONE POLISH IN THE HOUSE!!! Urgh soo annoying, hate it!
What should I do. Sorry it's long.

[acat]

People like to do things sometimes even though they complain about them. Though you've already worked that out... You're just letting some steam off on TSR

[Prokaryotic_crap]

Do what I do, clean when she's not there. Like what I do for example, say she goes out shopping and you are at home, hoover the house whilst she's away, or clean the dishes or something. so when she's back, she'll have less work

[Little_missy01]

Haha, I know how you feel. Well I'm not as good as you, I don't cook but I've been doing alot of housework. Just let your mum rant, and take little notice, she's probably just feeling her fasts. Atleast you can say you've played your part.

[Little_missy01]

(Original post by Prokaryotic_crap)
Do what I do, clean when she's not there. Like what I do for example, say she goes out shopping and you are at home, hoover the house whilst she's away, or clean the dishes or something. so when she's back, she'll have less work

this too
I prefer to clean when mums not there so she can't complain, or get in the way, and its nice for her to come to a clean house
yet, i like her to see me work, or else she doesn't really acknowledge i've done anything, as its just expected cos i'm a girl

[merryhappy]

(Original post by Anonymous)
It's ramadan and every year my mum complains about how she has to do all the housework during the month and gets no help at all. She gets annoyed every year over the fact. Now this year as my sister has got a job and it's just me and my brother at home I decided to give my mum a break and do all the chores she's been doing, myself. So for the past 3 days I've cooking, cleaning, doing all the housework, ironing etc the works basically. Today I go downstairs to the kitchen and find my mum making breakfast for my brother and forcing him to eat something that she knows I can't make. I then attempt to do the housework and she comes rushing down from upstairs to stop me with a stupid excuse that she has to clean the vacuum cleaner. My brother has been complaining and pissing me off frankly about how last nights pizza wasn't cooked right, IT WAS!! I've been making a real effort these past 3 days to do my best and give my mum a break, but no one is appreciating it. I'm constantly being criticised for what I do, my mums annoying me, like right now she's cleaning the whole house just to show me she can do it better. It's ridiculous, she complains about not getting help and when I do help you don't like it! URGHH! I'm a guy btw, and an atheist hence why I am not fasting and brother is young and is at work all day and comes back from the office late because of meetings etc. So annoying, it's really making me sad. I just went down to dust the shelves and mum goes, you don't use that cloth to clean and making a stupid excuse that it's the wrong polish to clean the house. FFS THERE'S ONLY ONE POLISH IN THE HOUSE!!! Urgh soo annoying, hate it!
What should I do. Sorry it's long.

If your mum is asian the sooner you realise asian parents need an excuse to moan the better. They're not exactly going to be thankful and applaude your efforts, mines do but most asian parents don't.

Tell her you're trying your best, and if she starts complaining that your not doing something right ask her how to do it properly so she can't complain again.
Do they know you're not fasting?

[dunnicare]

Lol at Ramadam.

Ask her to show you how to do it. And then say "oh wow, thanks mum. Now I know I'll be good at cleaning because you taught me so well". Sort of like sucking up but only so she can let you clean the house.

[Manzzzzz]

Boo hoo