[Anonymous]

I'm a 23yo male, she's 22. We've been texting each other for about a month and a half (five weeks of which she was abroad) and we've been on three dates - coffee, a local cultural event, and a movie - but we still haven't kissed. This is the first person I've ever asked out, she has a great personality and it feels like our interests are a perfect match - but I don't want to get stuck in the friend zone! She's kind of shy, and I'm not sure how to go about it. I want to make the situation comfortable enough that it feels natural to go to the next step. Any suggestions?

[Cheese_Monster]

If you're shy about it, just wait until the end of the date and just grab her arm and kiss her. If you both want it, it'd be perfect.

[rj1990]

Your 23 and you don't know how to kiss a girl?

Bloody hell. All you do is when you take her back to her house in your car, when you say bye, hand just below the jaw and kiss. Simple. Or when you're just sat talking somewhere, and there is a quiet moment when you look in each others eyes (if there has been none of these moments, then...well, there can't be that much chemistry) then the same, guide her face to yours with ur hand and kiss.

Doesn't have to be nothing special, with tongues and ****. Just a simple kiss to break the ice. And then you'll have sex on tap

**** sake man!

[Climbontoyourseahorse]

Ok more info needed I think. Have you held her hand yet? To be honest, it sounds like coffee wasn't the ideal opportunity to make a move anyway. You need to do something that is most definitely a date. I know the cinema is generally a more than friendly thing to do if it's just the two of you, but it's a waste of time if it's their company you want to enjoy. Take her out for a meal, in the evening. Walk her home, hold her hand or put your arm around her and when you get to her door (this is so classic) you do the 'I've had a great time' thing and then kiss her on the cheek first if you're feeling shy, and gently put your hand on the small of her back. Pull away very slightly and then kiss her again on the lips and put your other arm around her shoulders or on the back of her head to gently bring her towards you.

[kat91s]

At the end of my first date with my current boyfriend, I went in for a hug ie. my face to the side of his, but instead he just grabbed me and kissed me and said 'I've wanted to do that all night.' Just do it. It worked on me.

[Yawn11]

Slip in soke juice in her juice to loosen her up.

[gazzz89]

honestly? just take her to a bar and get a few drinks down her. I often do this on second/third dates and it works a treat. You'll both become more relaxed/flirty, and you'll be kissing in no time

[Silver Arrow]

Just kiss her bro. She's let you have 3 dates so it's fair to say that she likes you. Go for it, she's just waiting for you to do it.

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wtf man I thought a girl started this thread what's wrong with you?

[hayzelle]

I'm a 22yo female, he's 23. We've been texting each other for about a month and a half (five weeks of which I was abroad) and we've been on three dates - coffee, a local cultural event, and a movie - but we still haven't kissed. This is the first person I've ever really connected with, he has a great personality and it feels like our interests are a perfect match - but does he just want to be friends or more? I don't understand why he won't kiss me or just give me a sign he wants to be more than friends, I thought our dates all went well but still no kiss! I don't want to make the first move unless I'm wrong and he doesn't actually like me in more than a friend way. Any suggestions?

[IlexBlue]

[Picnic1]

(Original post by hayzelle)
I'm a 22yo female, he's 23. We've been texting each other for about a month and a half (five weeks of which I was abroad) and we've been on three dates - coffee, a local cultural event, and a movie - but we still haven't kissed. This is the first person I've ever really connected with, he has a great personality and it feels like our interests are a perfect match - but does he just want to be friends or more? I don't understand why he won't kiss me or just give me a sign he wants to be more than friends, I thought our dates all went well but still no kiss! I don't want to make the first move unless I'm wrong and he doesn't actually like me in more than a friend way. Any suggestions?

Not your thread sweetcheeks. But you do have a lot in common with the OP!

[damilola]

well none of ur dates sound very intimate, u should do something more cosy, where u're not in plain view of many people cos well u say she's shy she probably doesn't want to share ur first kiss with the whole world. Maybe rent a DVD or summn. Good luck bro!

[HJV]

Cafés are a bit crappy except for a first date because you'll be sitting opposite each other with a table in between. Go sit in a park or something, you can start by putting your arm around her. If she responds positively, then go for it.

Go somewhere where you can initiate touching (I don't mean grabbing her private parts but more like her hand, putting your arm around her, stroking her arm). It will all follow from there.

[Runninground]

(Original post by HJV)
Cafés are a bit crappy except for a first date because you'll be sitting opposite each other with a table in between. Go sit in a park or something, you can start by putting your arm around her. If she responds positively, then go for it.

Go somewhere where you can initiate touching (I don't mean grabbing her private parts but more like her hand, putting your arm around her, stroking her arm). It will all follow from there.

[Anonymous]

Thanks to everyone for replying!

Ok more info needed I think. Have you held her hand yet? To be honest, it sounds like coffee wasn't the ideal opportunity to make a move anyway. You need to do something that is most definitely a date.

No, I've not held her hand yet, just hugs so far. We met for coffee the first time as she was getting a plane the next morning, so I didn't want to suggest something in the evening/with drinks.

She likes stand-up, so I was thinking of taking her to a comedy club - good idea?