[TheCasual]

(Original post by InnerTemple)
Look, I'll do you a favour - but just this once.

Give me her number and I'll satisfy her needs. That way she will stop trying to get her leg over you and you don't have to betray your friend.

That did make LOL, but its not about sex. I just love spending time with her and having a laugh.

[InnerTemple]

(Original post by TheCasual)
That did make LOL, but its not about sex. I just love spending time with her and having a laugh.

You've twisted my arm. I will spend time with her as well.

On a serious note - You may have to just mark her as the one that got away. From the sounds of it, you had a lucky escape too.

There are other women out there, go get em.

[Nepene]

(Original post by TheCasual)
That did make LOL, but its not about sex. I just love spending time with her and having a laugh.

When you're aroused it's much more fun to spend time with people and have a laugh.

[TheCasual]

I Just don't know how I can go from having her as prominate part of my life to not having part of my life

One thing I don't get is why she gets so jealouse when I mention some I use to have feelings for and why gets so moody if I don't text her straight back.

[D.Darko]

This chick sounds slutty and manipulative. Avoid like the plague. Your closest friends are forever bro, chicks come and go. Once she gets bored of you, she will come up with another evil scheme. Forget about her man.

[TheCasual]

I just don't get her game. Why get with my mate after she could have got with me? Then go through all this

[Unknown?]

Remember, she is just a gold digger. She will take you for all your worth and leave you with nothing.

[TheCasual]

I really don't know how to deal with it. Its doing my heading, I can't sleep and its all I think about.

[appletizer]

(Original post by TheCasual)
I just don't get her game. Why get with my mate after she could have got with me? Then go through all this

If she's making it awkward and really pursuing you, as it sounds as though she is, I would ask her directly.

Why did she get with your friend? Her actions with you don't sound like those of someone in a new relationship with another man (as in I'd expect her to be besotted with him). She's behaving strangely and I guess if you can't get it out of your head, to unearth the truth might be the best option - approached sensitively of course.

She might be enjoying the fact that you're giving her so much attention, but that's not fair. You need to know where you stand.

[TheCasual]

(Original post by appletizer)
If she's making it awkward and really pursuing you, as it sounds as though she is, I would ask her directly.

Why did she get with your friend? Her actions with you don't sound like those of someone in a new relationship with another man (as in I'd expect her to be besotted with him). She's behaving strangely and I guess if you can't get it out of your head, to unearth the truth might be the best option - approached sensitively of course.

She might be enjoying the fact that you're giving her so much attention, but that's not fair. You need to know where you stand.

Something I found quite strange was he came back from camp last Friday(It costs him £140 in fuel for the round trip) We had few beers at the girls house, we ended up going at 4am. If I was him I'd wanted to stay the night, concidering he won't be back until October. But there nothing from ethier side.

I'm not sure I have the bottle to risk losing my friend and her. She does know how I feel though

[appletizer]

This is such a horrible situation for you.

If you did ask her directly, that's not necessarily grounds for your friend to be upset.

She's flirting with you, she knows you like her, so if the feeling was reciprocated (as she's implying it is) why did she get with your friend? and why is she putting you in a situation where you feel you can't win?

To be honest I had a slightly similar situation a few years ago, only I was the girl. I got really close with my housemate and maybe we were a bit flirty, but then I got back with my boyfriend despite our difficulties. Although I did like my housemate and maybe sometimes thought we had something, it wasn't an option for me to pursue. The fairest thing was to talk about it so everyone knew where they stood.

I know its not the exact same situation, but if she values your friendship she wouldn't want you to think there's a possibility something might happen if it won't.

[TheCasual]

(Original post by appletizer)
This is such a horrible situation for you.

If you did ask her directly, that's not necessarily grounds for your friend to be upset.

She's flirting with you, she knows you like her, so if the feeling was reciprocated (as she's implying it is) why did she get with your friend? and why is she putting you in a situation where you feel you can't win?

To be honest I had a slightly similar situation a few years ago, only I was the girl. I got really close with my housemate and maybe we were a bit flirty, but then I got back with my boyfriend despite our difficulties. Although I did like my housemate and maybe sometimes thought we had something, it wasn't an option for me to pursue. The fairest thing was to talk about it so everyone knew where they stood.

I know its not the exact same situation, but if she values your friendship she wouldn't want you to think there's a possibility something might happen if it won't.

I honestly feel a bit flirting and banter is good in a relationship, but I think some of the stuff shes said is very OTT. Like asking how long I last in bed, asking how many people i've slept with, saying about having dreams about, but won't tell what its about and when I ask about it and I said stop teasing me about, she said oh you love me teasing you.

She was posting rubbish on my FB wall(I lost a bet with her and had to give her password) But I changed my password and I sent her a text saying i'm waiting for a abusive text from you and sent back 'You best not of change your password'. So I put you're a cleaver girl arne't you. She then wrote on my FB wall and said 'I'm so disapointed in you' So I wrote back ''you're not the first girl to say that? She wrote back You're admitting girls say that that alot? Guess you need more practice ;-)

[Merinda]

I think she's playing with you.

You have to put things into perspective if she is playing with you, all you'll get is sex and you said you want more because your feelings are invested in this. The truth always outs so you could be ruining a friendship for one night that could have and most preferably should have happened with any randomer.

If she isn't playing with you, then you should talk to her, talk to your friend about how you feel and find out where you all don't mind going next with it.

[TheCasual]

(Original post by Merinda)
I think she's playing with you.

You have to put things into perspective if she is playing with you, all you'll get is sex and you said you want more because your feelings are invested in this. The truth always outs so you could be ruining a friendship for one night that could have and most preferably should have happened with any randomer.

If she isn't playing with you, then you should talk to her, talk to your friend about how you feel and find out where you all don't mind going next with it.

Thing is how do I find out what her feelings are? I wouldn't sleep with her without knowing if she felt the same way.

What would other guys think of there GF's behaving in this way??

[TheCasual]

This is part of a convo we had FB last night

HER -shush entertain me

ME - Oh how do I do that? :O

HER - Guess u can't... My entertainer is away!! Haha.. Guess its a bit of loney Top Gun 2nite for me :O

ME Oh I could! I just can't :-( Top Gun is ace on your own haha

Her :O (My name)!! U shouldn't be sayin that! Awww!!! Haha nah its not I prefair to have a Top Gun partner!! xx

ME You was the one asking me to entertain you! Yeah its better with a partner! xx

HER I didn't mean it like that tho lol Shush anyway I'm asleep now! With the light on! hahaha night xx

ME Whuss! night :-) xx

Top gun is a running joke between our group of friends, it means sex

I really not sure what to read into that convo. To me it seems like shes flirting with me

[InnerTemple]

She is messing you around. She must know how awkward this is for you. Either she thinks you are taking it as a big joke or she does not care how much this is hurting you and causing you stress.

I would bail. Ok, you have feelings for her but she does not sound like a nice person and I am sure you can do much better. You will find someone who is single and who you can be happy with. There will be no need for you to ruin a friendship.

If you do not mind being mucked around then fine, otherwise - tell her to sling her hook and have the decency to be faithful to her boyfriend.

I would also be careful with these facebook conversations. In some people's eyes, cheating does not always have to be sex. During any future contact with her, imagine if you were her BF and you caught her talking like that to another guy - how would you feel? If you think you would feel anything other than happy, that is a sure sign the contact is unhealthy.

[TheCasual]

I don't get why though, she says he cares about me and that where best friends. She also said she regrets not saying propaly in contact with wile she was with her ex. I think its best I try and cut contact with, even though it'll break my heart. She's already text me twice today, but not replied to any texts.

[Sophie_girl]

(Original post by TheCasual)
I don't get why though, she says he cares about me and that where best friends. She also said she regrets not saying propaly in contact with wile she was with her ex. I think its best I try and cut contact with, even though it'll break my heart. She's already text me twice today, but not replied to any texts.

She's a cheating slag. She is messing you about because she is attention seeking and loves the fact that you're infatuated with her. If she dumped your mate for you and you got together, i'd place a healthy bet that you'd be cheated on.

Edit: Also, if I was your best friend and I discovered these texts and facebook conversations, I'd punch you in the face. Dick.

[TheCasual]

(Original post by Sophie_girl)
She's a cheating slag. She is messing you about because she is attention seeking and loves the fact that you're infatuated with her. If she dumped your mate for you and you got together, i'd place a healthy bet that you'd be cheated on.

Edit: Also, if I was your best friend and I discovered these texts and facebook conversations, I'd punch you in the face. Dick.

Hang on a minute. I've said or do nothing nothing to encourage this behavior from her wile they have been together.

She rang me, but I ignored the call. I can't help the way I feel.

[sophisticated]

(Original post by Sophie_girl)
She's a cheating slag. She is messing you about because she is attention seeking and loves the fact that you're infatuated with her. If she dumped your mate for you and you got together, i'd place a healthy bet that you'd be cheated on.

Edit: Also, if I was your best friend and I discovered these texts and facebook conversations, I'd punch you in the face. Dick.

This post is spot on.

Some best friend you are....