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Even though Si and I have to be apart a lot, the only time I've ever cried about it was when he went to sea (well, I cried for about four days straight that time, but still). I'm good at keeping myself together during LDR, which is very useful! I always make sure to keep busy and distract myself, too. It's best to just get on with things, I think.

I'm also the same as a lot of you in that I could see him a lot more, but we choose not to; we could quite easily have scrimped and saved on other aspects of life this term to be able to have seen each other every weekend, but I like having some weekends to be around my uni friends, and since I know for a fact that seeing the boy every weekend this term would have had a negative effect on my final year uni work, I chose not to.

I completely disagree with what some of you have said about shorter bursts of separation being harder, though :tongue: not seeing or even really speaking to Si for four months was the hardest thing I've ever been through relationships-wise, so I now see havng to be apart for three or four weeks at a time as easy in comparison.
Sorry I haven't replied to stuff - I'm too drunk to take anything in right now.

But basically, I feel like crap. I've started finding it harder and harder to he apart now we have am end date. And tonight I got drunk, which makes me feel it more - all I want is someone to fall asleep with me, and to be held. My friends are here, which seems to be making things worse - one of thwm is very attention sekeng, and wants everything to revolve around her, which makes socialising with my uni friend realltly hard. It's only til tomorrow, but I rarely see some if these people thanks to third year...
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Re saying goodbye/missing OHs: I'm in the middle of a 5 weeks seperation, could have been 3 but went away last weekend and we decided being together for our 5 year would be awesome hence why we're not seeing each other this weekend. In theory i could see him more but with the amount of work we have on it isn't a good idea as we need to focus on that and on uni first and foremost. The worst for me was him going away the first time to spain and not knowing when or if i'd get to see him between January and May, thankfully we did twice :smile: but that long time of limited convos and not speaking for days at a time when he had to go away were horrible i really don't know how army wives cope. As for goodbyes i used to be able to hide my tears and cry once he'd left or i'd walked through the barriers... now i tend to cry on him at the station and him the same. I guess we're both more open about crying and miss each other more than before.

Random point: could i possibly have more comments on the links i posted a few days ago, need to make a decision and i'm struggling.
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Re saying goodbye/missing OHs: I'm in the middle of a 5 weeks seperation, could have been 3 but went away last weekend and we decided being together for our 5 year would be awesome hence why we're not seeing each other this weekend. In theory i could see him more but with the amount of work we have on it isn't a good idea as we need to focus on that and on uni first and foremost. The worst for me was him going away the first time to spain and not knowing when or if i'd get to see him between January and May, thankfully we did twice :smile: but that long time of limited convos and not speaking for days at a time when he had to go away were horrible i really don't know how army wives cope. As for goodbyes i used to be able to hide my tears and cry once he'd left or i'd walked through the barriers... now i tend to cry on him at the station and him the same. I guess we're both more open about crying and miss each other more than before.

Random point: could i possibly have more comments on the links i posted a few days ago, need to make a decision and i'm struggling.


I like the Spanish one better - I think it's more 'masculine' and has more relevance to you guys.
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Original post by 22KT22
Re saying goodbye/missing OHs: I'm in the middle of a 5 weeks seperation, could have been 3 but went away last weekend and we decided being together for our 5 year would be awesome hence why we're not seeing each other this weekend. In theory i could see him more but with the amount of work we have on it isn't a good idea as we need to focus on that and on uni first and foremost. The worst for me was him going away the first time to spain and not knowing when or if i'd get to see him between January and May, thankfully we did twice :smile: but that long time of limited convos and not speaking for days at a time when he had to go away were horrible i really don't know how army wives cope. As for goodbyes i used to be able to hide my tears and cry once he'd left or i'd walked through the barriers... now i tend to cry on him at the station and him the same. I guess we're both more open about crying and miss each other more than before.

Random point: could i possibly have more comments on the links i posted a few days ago, need to make a decision and i'm struggling.


Boy's only just admitted to being sad/crying when I used to leave for Italy. Makes me well up thinking about it! :sad:

I think you should go for the Spanish one - it's a little bit out of the ordinary, it is possibly more symbolic for you guys given that he's spent a lot of time in Spain, and personally I think that foreign languages are amazing! :love: I got the boy a silver guitar pendant with Ti amo (I love you) inscribed on it for one of our anniversaries.

Flo, hope you're feeling better soon. If it's any consolation, my three closest friends at uni all have boyfriends who either live with them, or very close by (in the same block of flats), so I understand completely. And when I'm drunk I just want snuggles, too. :hugs: Hope you're feeling not too hung over today!
Exhausted.

Work will be hell today. Sometimes I wish I was still a student so I could stay in bed.
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thanks :smile: I was hoping for no stalls today, but I'll just make that tomorrow's aim

Don't want to put a downer on it - but you never stop stalling! I get days where I stall, move about 5 inches and stall again and again and again :p: Other days I don't stall once, and then the next I'm stalling here there and everywhere! I was always paranoid about it, but now I just accept that I'm gonna stall at some point!
Oh good god. redecorating the junk room during my holiday, and currently getting the junk out of it - how the hell do i have so much crap?? It's just unbelievable! One tiny room (Not even 2m long by 1m wide, with a metre square alcove at waist height) hold so much stuff that the rest of the flat now is ridiculously cramped!
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Boy's only just admitted to being sad/crying when I used to leave for Italy. Makes me well up thinking about it! :sad:

I think you should go for the Spanish one - it's a little bit out of the ordinary, it is possibly more symbolic for you guys given that he's spent a lot of time in Spain, and personally I think that foreign languages are amazing! :love: I got the boy a silver guitar pendant with Ti amo (I love you) inscribed on it for one of our anniversaries.

Flo, hope you're feeling better soon. If it's any consolation, my three closest friends at uni all have boyfriends who either live with them, or very close by (in the same block of flats), so I understand completely. And when I'm drunk I just want snuggles, too. :hugs: Hope you're feeling not too hung over today!


Thanks :smile:

I really need to learn to not get so drunk. Last night was ridiculous - I was really stupid, and barely ate all day (slice of toast, a yoghurt, and a mini sushi pack), then hardly ate any food at the formal (had about half of each course). It's really bad, my friend doesn't eat that much, and whenever I'm with her, I seem to subconsciously try and eat less.

I'm not as hungover as I deserve to be today :tongue: about to head into town with my friends, then one is going back to Glasgow, and thhe other one and I are going into Newcastle - I'm singing evensong there later with choir, so we're gonna go in early and wander around a bit :smile:

As much as I love them, I'm kinda looking forward to getting my room back - 3 girls in one room make a lot of mess!
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Hi! Welcome! :smile: (And I think everyone always manages to find someone worse off LDR-wise than them, and feel guilty. I know I do! You really shouldn't, it's hard for everyone, but the guilt can be very good for you in terms of cheering you up a bit sometimes :tongue:)

I'm actually really looking forward to this week, thoguh I know I've got a lot of work to be doing. I pity you finalists so badly (though you are making me feel a bit better!) :hugs: to all


Hellooo :h: haha yeah, I just felt kind of guilty complaining about a two week wait when for a lot of people, that's not much :tongue: but it does put things into perspective so that's good, like you said :smile:

As for saying goodbye, usually I'm okay with it but the past two visits I've cried quite a bit and let myself get all emotional :colondollar: the goodbyes have definitely got harder to deal with, that and the few hours after are horrible!

and thanks Jelly too :hugs:
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Still two nights to go :frown: I'm so impatient, just want him here now.
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Hellooo :h: haha yeah, I just felt kind of guilty complaining about a two week wait when for a lot of people, that's not much :tongue: but it does put things into perspective so that's good, like you said :smile:

As for saying goodbye, usually I'm okay with it but the past two visits I've cried quite a bit and let myself get all emotional :colondollar: the goodbyes have definitely got harder to deal with, that and the few hours after are horrible!

and thanks Jelly too :hugs:


Welcome to the soc :smile:

I had my last university contact hours ever earlier! So weird. It was my French class so we had wine and croissants and brioche and things. It was really nice :smile: then I came home and made some banana bread without scales, because ours have broke :sigh: but it turned out fine! Now I suppose I'd better do work. I've been putting it off all day, ugh.
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Dads been rushed in with a possible heart attack... times like this wish my bf was here.
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Dads been rushed in with a possible heart attack... times like this wish my bf was here.


I hope he's okay KT. Surely if it's an emergency he will come to support you? Stay positive, so many people get admitted with possible heart attack and it's angina or indigestion or chest wall pain. Hope everything goes well.
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Whats the point of him coming here though? Home is 6 hours away... plus i dont know whats going on. Well its highly likely it is one and they're doing tests to see if its an underlying condition.
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Dads been rushed in with a possible heart attack... times like this wish my bf was here.


:hugs: I know it's basically impossible, but try not to worry too much. As Lil said, there's always a possibility it's something else, and even if not I can at least say that my dad had a heart attack (possibly 2) when I was 13, and he's absolutely fine now. There's an awful lot they can do :smile: All my best wishes to you and your family though. I really hope he's okay.
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Original post by 22KT22
Dads been rushed in with a possible heart attack... times like this wish my bf was here.


:hugs: i'm so sorry! I hope he's ok! We're all here if you need us :hugs:
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Original post by miraclemile
:hugs: I know it's basically impossible, but try not to worry too much. As Lil said, there's always a possibility it's something else, and even if not I can at least say that my dad had a heart attack (possibly 2) when I was 13, and he's absolutely fine now. There's an awful lot they can do :smile: All my best wishes to you and your family though. I really hope he's okay.


Yeah i suppose although my dad has a long term chronic illness so heart attack on top of that wont help.
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Don't want to put a downer on it - but you never stop stalling! I get days where I stall, move about 5 inches and stall again and again and again :p: Other days I don't stall once, and then the next I'm stalling here there and everywhere! I was always paranoid about it, but now I just accept that I'm gonna stall at some point!


Oh I know! I just mean for it to not be a regular (i.e. daily) thing. Didn't stall today :biggrin: And I drove to the supermarket!

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Dads been rushed in with a possible heart attack... times like this wish my bf was here.


Massive :hugs: if you want to txt, you can do
I LOVE having an italian girl in my flat! I had no idea how to write something in spanish but i knew exactly what it was in italian (infuriating doesn't even cover it) but having her here to help me is amazing :biggrin:

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