[Flo[ProActiv]]

I'm just about to take mine to the station

[Danielle89]

Just to say, so much respect to everyone here carrying on an LDR long term. Having been back to "normal" since October, I'm finding not seeing him for 4 nights tough enough, so here's hoping that we never go long distance again. Though doesn't help that my best friend and her boyfriend just broke up recently.

She did annoy me slightly though. They never used to argue about anything at all, and she said something along the lines of "cant believe we haven't lasted when you and Marc bicker all the time and argue about everything"..... made it clear to her that we might argue but it's pretty much expressing our feelings about things and not putting up with crap. And we've been through a hell of a lot more than her and her bf had considering we'd managed to see each other despite both being in our final years and living 2.5hrs away from each other...

[jeh_jeh]

(Original post by Danielle89)
Just to say, so much respect to everyone here carrying on an LDR long term. Having been back to "normal" since October, I'm finding not seeing him for 4 nights tough enough, so here's hoping that we never go long distance again. Though doesn't help that my best friend and her boyfriend just broke up recently.

She did annoy me slightly though. They never used to argue about anything at all, and she said something along the lines of "cant believe we haven't lasted when you and Marc bicker all the time and argue about everything"..... made it clear to her that we might argue but it's pretty much expressing our feelings about things and not putting up with crap. And we've been through a hell of a lot more than her and her bf had considering we'd managed to see each other despite both being in our final years and living 2.5hrs away from each other...

I honestly think it's relative. I'm not really going to see boy (apart from the odd morning or afternoon here and there) for the next seven weeks now; and while that was a standard amount of time while I was in Italy, it feels horrible now we've been seeing each other for four nights a week for the past two months.

Pft, I can't stand people like that! They should just take responsibility for their own relationships, instead of comparing and bitching with and about others!

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SIBLINGS ARE ANNOYING. Two of them had a 9am-12pm rehearsal at school, so I dropped them off at 9am and said I'd see them later. One of them then informed me that a friend would be picking them up. I told her to text her to tell her not to, because this friend is pretty unreliable. I just answered the house phone (bearing in mind I was running late so should have already left) to say that friend is there to pick them up so I shouldn't bother. And then I've come back into the dining room to do some work and there's a missed call on my mobile, too - as if I'm going to answer my phone in the car! I'm seriously just treated like a taxi service, planning my time around them for them to just change plans at the last minute. My mum seriously never put up with this when I was younger (we lived in the middle of nowhere, none of us could drive and getting anywhere was quite a long way in the car). Raaage.

[Danielle89]

Yeah, this was her first relationship and she thought it was all great because he never voiced any concerns that he'd obviously had. Just because you pretend everything's great doesn't mean it is... She actually said that she didn't think she could carry on in a relationship if they argued because it would be too much stress. She thinks he's been excellently honest with her in calling time on the whole thing, but she was devastated because she couldn't see it coming.

I get stressed out when I bicker with Marc but prefer that to having to keep my mouth shut about things that bug me.

Jeh-Jeh, I know the feeling with younger siblings being treated more favourably. My 19 year old sister goes out at least once a week, usually more, and tells all sorts of stories about how drunk she's been. I go out maybe once a month and Mum gives me a disapproving look if I get up hungover the next day. I think older siblings just get the rubbish deal, because if we turn out to be a success then it doesn't matter what the younger ones do...

[jeh_jeh]

(Original post by Danielle89)
Yeah, this was her first relationship and she thought it was all great because he never voiced any concerns that he'd obviously had. Just because you pretend everything's great doesn't mean it is... She actually said that she didn't think she could carry on in a relationship if they argued because it would be too much stress. She thinks he's been excellently honest with her in calling time on the whole thing, but she was devastated because she couldn't see it coming.

I get stressed out when I bicker with Marc but prefer that to having to keep my mouth shut about things that bug me.

Jeh-Jeh, I know the feeling with younger siblings being treated more favourably. My 19 year old sister goes out at least once a week, usually more, and tells all sorts of stories about how drunk she's been. I go out maybe once a month and Mum gives me a disapproving look if I get up hungover the next day. I think older siblings just get the rubbish deal, because if we turn out to be a success then it doesn't matter what the younger ones do...

To be honest, how's she ever going to have a healthy relationship if she finds it too stressful to voice issues/have arguments? In my opinion, it's part of growing together as a couple - we laugh about the vast majority of our arguments now!

I think people think that I view my childhood through rose-tinted spectacles, but I am aware that I was a hormonal horror, but at the same time all three of my sisters (and ultimately my little brother) are afforded much more freedom simply because there's now four drivers (and cars) in the family when there was two (one of whom, my dad, worked unsociably long hours) when I was growing up.

My mum was talking about how some of my sister's friends have turned on her because they're friends with the ex she cheated on last night, and how it's not fair because she was in a similar situation when she was young... err, love, still doesn't mean it's right! I'd be fuming if boy cheated on me! Sister's new boyfriend is coming round to cook dinner for my mum tonight (my dad's on holiday), which is weird... HE HAS HIS OWN MOTHER, and we're capable in this house... my mum is basically the head of our house, anyway, so it's not like we're particularly lacking a male figure in my dad's (week long) absence. So strange.

[*Interrobang*]

(Original post by blinkbelle)
Oo is this the gift card you won in a competition a while back?

Have my boy for 3 more hours but got the Sunday blues already xx

Yep

And I know all about younger siblings getting away with more too

[blinkbelle]

(Original post by jeh_jeh)
Sunday blues are the worst. I saw B from Thursday night to yesterday evening this week, and I just feel so unmotivated to do anything!

thanks xx

[Flo[ProActiv]]

Back at home now Kinda at a loss of what to do - the boy normally doesn't leave until about 4, so usually I have less time to fill He was a gentleman at the station - my friend was there going home, and was really struggling with her backs, and the boy helped her get them on the train without me having to even ask ^^

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The boy and I have never had a proper argument. It's quite hard to argue with someone who's so laid back that they're practically horizontal Most of the time, we're able to sort things out before they become an issue. There have been a couple of times I've got really upset, but I wouldn't really class them as arguments - generally, I throw a strop/have a massive cry, he waits for me to calm down, then we talk through what's bothering me.

As for siblings, my brother has to much more freedom than I do. He'll go out, and will refuse to let my parents know what time he's getting home. He'll often stay out until 2/3 in the morning. I would never have got away with that when I was his age, and tbh, I doubt I would even now It's very frustrating.

[rainbow drops]

(Original post by jeh_jeh)
PRSOM, but thanks! Did you get yours in-store or online? I'll probably end up going to the Bullring, anyway, so hopefully they'll have a good selection there. Some of them are so prettyyy!

I got mine in the store, so I'm sure Birmingham will have a good selection since the Debenhams in my home town did! I have dropped arches as well and I find them SO much more comfortable than other heels, because they're wider and they have a layer of soft material in between your foot and the rest of the shoe sole. I hope you manage to find a pair!

Aaah, stress. I have so much to do before I go home tomorrow evening. Since I'm the last one here, I've just done all the washing up (which wasn't even mine ), cleaned the kitchen surfaces and put the bins out, and I still have to finish my essay, tidy my room a bit more, write a packing list, actually pack, and nip into town quickly tomorrow morning to buy the other half of my mum's present. I hate end of term travel stress so much.

[hannahdaisy]

How strange, I have those Clarks shoes that Flo posted, and my ex bought me that Tiffany ring that Katie has just bought!

Had a really nice day yesterday, went out in London. Went to the aquarium, had lunch and then went shopping on Oxford St til about 9.30. So achey today after all that walking! Just back home for a bit to see my mum while my bf watches the football, then back to his for cuddles later

Hope everyone's ok

[Sephrenia]

Eurgh. Yesterday was a horrible, horrible day. Nearly broke up with J. =/ It's better now, but I think he was having a bit of a commitment phobic panic attack and stress monster man period. Just a horrible, horrible day

[jeh_jeh]

(Original post by Sephrenia)
Eurgh. Yesterday was a horrible, horrible day. Nearly broke up with J. =/ It's better now, but I think he was having a bit of a commitment phobic panic attack and stress monster man period. Just a horrible, horrible day

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My mum's had a Kobo for Mothers' Day, and I'm SO jealous. I really want the Vox - it's an e-reader/iPad combination that runs the Android operating system (hi, apps!). Pfft, maybe not, seems it doesn't run Android Market - but its own version, GetJar - which will mean a smaller selection of apps. Faaail. It's still beautiful, though!

[*Interrobang*]

Trish, glad you've sorted it out

And that's weird Hannah!

[hannahdaisy]

It's a shame Katie, because I loved that ring. He put me off wearing it!

[Stray_talk]

(Original post by Flo[ProActiv])

The boy and I have never had a proper argument. It's quite hard to argue with someone who's so laid back that they're practically horizontal Most of the time, we're able to sort things out before they become an issue. There have been a couple of times I've got really upset, but I wouldn't really class them as arguments - generally, I throw a strop/have a massive cry, he waits for me to calm down, then we talk through what's bothering me.

Ben and I are the same. I imagine as we're together a bit longer it might happen from time to time, but he's so relaxed barely anything ruffles his feathers. I'm not the complete opposite but certain things do bother me! We seem to be like you two, he lets me calm down first before attempting to talk!

[New...Romantic]

(Original post by Flo[ProActiv])
I haven't even thought about what I'm wearing for graduation

Same, it hasn't even crossed my mind. I've not even enrolled for it yet but I've got till May. I'm just going to worry about getting the work done first, I can sort clothes once I've got all my exams out the way (in less than 2 months ). How come people are thinking about it already? Or do you have a really early graduation Jess? I seem to remember people being told they had to wear a certain kind of outfit anyway (might have been people on here?) so I'm not going to worry.

(Original post by Flo[ProActiv])
The boy and I have never had a proper argument. It's quite hard to argue with someone who's so laid back that they're practically horizontal Most of the time, we're able to sort things out before they become an issue. There have been a couple of times I've got really upset, but I wouldn't really class them as arguments - generally, I throw a strop/have a massive cry, he waits for me to calm down, then we talk through what's bothering me.

We're like that too. I have a really bad temper and could argue about anything but he just doesn't argue. Well, didn't. We've started fighting more now but I suppose that happens after a while, especially living together.

(Original post by Sephrenia)
Eurgh. Yesterday was a horrible, horrible day. Nearly broke up with J. =/ It's better now, but I think he was having a bit of a commitment phobic panic attack and stress monster man period. Just a horrible, horrible day

Glad things are better.

(Original post by jeh_jeh)
SIBLINGS ARE ANNOYING.

Yessss they are. My sister is an absolute horror, she's so lazy and spoilt. Every time you speak to her or ask her to do something she snaps and can't unset the table or whatever cos she has soooo much work to do. And yet she spends half her time round at her boyfriend's house..?

for everyone.

[jeh_jeh]

(Original post by New...Romantic)
Or do you have a really early graduation Jess?

Not especially early, no (17th July), but with having such ****ed up feet, formal shoe hunting is an absolute nightmare, so by extension so is dress shopping - I have to make sure I can match what I can find shoe-wise with the dress, so I always need absolutely loads of time when I need a new outfit. Quite annoying, really, as I still have a mountain of work to do!

(Original post by New...Romantic)
Yessss they are. My sister is an absolute horror, she's so lazy and spoilt. Every time you speak to her or ask her to do something she snaps and can't unset the table or whatever cos she has soooo much work to do. And yet she spends half her time round at her boyfriend's house..?

Sounds like my sister: can never do stuff with the rest of the family because of revision, but has time to see the boyfriend.

[blinkbelle]

Hi guys!

Had a lovely lazy weekend with the boyfriend apart from heading to Oxford St to buy him a new jumper, and into Brixton to buy vegan cupcakes, we pretty much spent all weekend chilling, watching tv and films and eating! Made both of us cooked breakfasts - me the vegan version of course, and he treated us to a takeaway curry last night which was also yum! Probably doubled my body weight in the space of two days but it was so worth it!

Re: arguing - me and the boy argue quite a lot. We've been through quite a lot despite not being together very long, which has inevitably cause lots of falling out but we've got through it now and are stronger than ever. I think it varies from couple to couple how you deal with conflict and stuff. Me and my ex never argued but ended up having the most awful, devastating break up ever because he'd kept so much inside. Me and my boy argue about once a week but its never over anything serious, and I think its just to blow off steam. I've never been happier with someone so it's definitely something I don't think is a problem for us
xx

[Flo[ProActiv]]

(Original post by blinkbelle)
Hi guys!

Had a lovely lazy weekend with the boyfriend apart from heading to Oxford St to buy him a new jumper, and into Brixton to buy vegan cupcakes, we pretty much spent all weekend chilling, watching tv and films and eating! Made both of us cooked breakfasts - me the vegan version of course, and he treated us to a takeaway curry last night which was also yum! Probably doubled my body weight in the space of two days but it was so worth it!

Re: arguing - me and the boy argue quite a lot. We've been through quite a lot despite not being together very long, which has inevitably cause lots of falling out but we've got through it now and are stronger than ever. I think it varies from couple to couple how you deal with conflict and stuff. Me and my ex never argued but ended up having the most awful, devastating break up ever because he'd kept so much inside. Me and my boy argue about once a week but its never over anything serious, and I think its just to blow off steam. I've never been happier with someone so it's definitely something I don't think is a problem for us
xx

Sounds like you had an awesome weekend I really like weekends like that - I love just chilling out with my boy, and especially cooking together (it does me good to let go of control sometimes - I do sometimes get frustrated when he doesn't so things EXACTLY like I would )

And the bold bit, it's this exactly. It's so dependent of personality types - a couple where both people like to get things out in the open and deal with things head on is almost invariably going to have more arguments than a couple where one person is very laid back, and doesn't let things get to them. The problem comes when you get one or both people who ignore problems and don't talk at all about what's upsetting them. I mean, my boy is incredibly laid back, but I know (or at least I like to think that I know) that if he had a problem, he'd talk to me about it. We have discussed how hard we find the distance, and how it makes communication type things more difficult/it means we need to work harder at some things, so I'd like to think that we would be able to talk about things and tackle them.

[jeh_jeh]

(Original post by Flo[ProActiv])
Sounds like you had an awesome weekend I really like weekends like that - I love just chilling out with my boy, and especially cooking together (it does me good to let go of control sometimes - I do sometimes get frustrated when he doesn't so things EXACTLY like I would )

And the bold bit, it's this exactly. It's so dependent of personality types - a couple where both people like to get things out in the open and deal with things head on is almost invariably going to have more arguments than a couple where one person is very laid back, and doesn't let things get to them. The problem comes when you get one or both people who ignore problems and don't talk at all about what's upsetting them. I mean, my boy is incredibly laid back, but I know (or at least I like to think that I know) that if he had a problem, he'd talk to me about it. We have discussed how hard we find the distance, and how it makes communication type things more difficult/it means we need to work harder at some things, so I'd like to think that we would be able to talk about things and tackle them.

It used to be either my way or the highway, but I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that it doesn't really matter in the long run if you put pasta in cold or boiling water.

And I agree with the arguing thing, too. I probably expect him to be a mind reader sometimes, but he's getting much better at telling me when he's upset or frustrated, so we balance each other out somehow.