[jeh_jeh]

(Original post by Lil-Lele)
We didn't get a long a goodbye as usual because my dad was stood there in the car, which is probably why it didn't give me the chance to get emotional as usual. Feels weird not to cry, feel numb instead, rather than intense pain, and it's worrying me :/.

EDIT: Rainbow, yeah I can see your point about counting down the days, even if I stop crossing days off the calendar I know how many in my head, so I'm not sure I could totally forget about it. In some ways when I reach a milestone it's a bit of a boost, I've done 187 so far and 99 to go so in a way I know that however slow it's going that the days are getting less so. When your bf left for the navy what kind of things did you busy yourself with? Especially the first like month? I did a 3.5 month seperation when my bf and I just started seeing each other, uk - oz, but I didn't let myself dwell because I didn't know if we would start an official relationship or not. Now it's a million times harder because it's been more than two years properly together.

I guess there's no set things you can do to make it easier - long-distance is never easy - but maybe throw yourself into new hobbies so that you have lots to talk about, and remember that you do have an end point... this won't be forever. I guess to a certain extent you just have to make yourself be positive, or else you'll just go mad.

[22KT22]

Evening all

How are we all?

I'm ok, managed to get some work done at the boy's today until my laptop refused to work (tis working for now) and then we went to see the hunger games. Thoroughly enjoyed it and may need to buy the books and read them this summer as really enjoyed the storyline (sobbed my heart out too). Had a mini meltdown on the boy re future and prospect of getting a job and placement... just feeling really stressed at the moment as if my best isn't good enough struggling to keep on top of work. Also think the boy wont be able to come to mine for my birthday (I'm back at uni by then) as he has so much work to do on his dissertation it's probably not plausible which sucks especially as my birthday is also surrounded by deadlines, feel like cancelling it as doesn't feel much point in celebrating it this year.

Lil-Lele: I echo what everyone else says, don't keep count... i tend to only count sleeps once its down to 2 weeks as its motivational for me to get work done at that point. Other than that i keep busy. I see friends, work, take up new hobbies, read anything to take my mind off of it. You only have a few days to fill with things between visits so I'm sure you could find something to fill the time, maybe try joining a sports class? May help with the anxiety and boost your confidence.

Nina: Are you and D ok now? I'm sure once you're on your year abroad you'll be fine, you've done it once (and in worse circumstances) so I'm sure you'll fall into the routine again

for all.

[*Interrobang*]

Maybe don't cancel it - just postpone it?

I didn't do anything for my birthday and I'm disappointed that my parents haven't done anything, not even a cake. It wasn't that long ago! We went out for a meal for my sister's birthday

[blinkbelle]

SO ANGRY! Got back from being in Leeds last night, and this morning I noticed my cat's water bowl and water fountain (which was turned off) were both dry. I am SO angry! The one thing I ask him to do is look after my cat, I even said if he couldnt manage it I would get my friend to call in and he leaves him without water! Is he trying to kill him!? SO MAD. xx

[22KT22]

(Original post by *Interrobang*)
Maybe don't cancel it - just postpone it?

I didn't do anything for my birthday and I'm disappointed that my parents haven't done anything, not even a cake. It wasn't that long ago! We went out for a meal for my sister's birthday

Think i may organise an early birthday for my friends at home, i'm doing a joint thing with a friend at uni but im not going to be able to relax and enjoy myself as i have assignments either side of it. Had nothing for months and now its all due the same week

[Lil-Lele]

Barely slept at all last night, it always seems to be the same night I leave the boy, not sure If i get into bad sleep habits or just don't feel as comfortable/safe. Woke up this morning feeling just as numb as yesterday, it's a horrible feeling, I'd much rather be in pain than feel nothing .

[Flo[ProActiv]]

*yawn*
Tiring morning was tiring. I forget just how much effort shopping on Oxford Street involves But I managed to get everything I needed (birthday present for my friend, cards for her, my dad and my brother, and new tights for me. Oh, and a little Lush shower gel for me as well, cause I deserved a treat after spending money on other people )

Going to sit down and attempt to work from 3 til 5. Going to start work on my second essay, which could be interesting, since I have absolutely no idea how to go about writing it

Hope everyone's well

[Stray_talk]

(Original post by Lil-Lele)
Barely slept at all last night, it always seems to be the same night I leave the boy, not sure If i get into bad sleep habits or just don't feel as comfortable/safe. Woke up this morning feeling just as numb as yesterday, it's a horrible feeling, I'd much rather be in pain than feel nothing .

I know it's easier said than done, but try not to fixate. It will do you no favours.

Just spent the Easter weekend in London with Ben and some friends. Had a fab time Went to the zoo and fell in love with squirrel monkeys. I just wantONETHEY'RESOCUTE and then spent Saturday in the National History museum before going out. Great times.

How is everyone?

[rainbow drops]

(Original post by Stray_talk)
I know it's easier said than done, but try not to fixate. It will do you no favours.

Just spent the Easter weekend in London with Ben and some friends. Had a fab time Went to the zoo and fell in love with squirrel monkeys. I just wantONETHEY'RESOCUTE and then spent Saturday in the National History museum before going out. Great times.

How is everyone?

Glad you had a lovely time! I'm very jealous (and of Flo, too) as I barely ever get to go to London.

I'm okay, thanks I'm battling my way through the rest of my French poem translations so I can print them off and take them with me on Thursday to learn on the train. I have a graduate job assessment test on Thurs morning in Manchester, then the boyfriend and I are going to the science museum, staying in the city centre overnight and going shopping and for a meal the next day. Apart from the scary prospect of the AC, it should be a lovely couple of days!

[Flo[ProActiv]]

(Original post by rainbow drops)
Glad you had a lovely time! I'm very jealous (and of Flo, too) as I barely ever get to go to London.

I'm okay, thanks I'm battling my way through the rest of my French poem translations so I can print them off and take them with me on Thursday to learn on the train. I have a graduate job assessment test on Thurs morning in Manchester, then the boyfriend and I are going to the science museum, staying in the city centre overnight and going shopping and for a meal the next day. Apart from the scary prospect of the AC, it should be a lovely couple of days!

Good luck!

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Whoop. Did 1,000/4,000 words of one essay, then 500 words plus references for a second (bringing me to 3,500/5,000), so I'm feeling pretty on top of things

[Stray_talk]

(Original post by rainbow drops)
Glad you had a lovely time! I'm very jealous (and of Flo, too) as I barely ever get to go to London.

I'm okay, thanks I'm battling my way through the rest of my French poem translations so I can print them off and take them with me on Thursday to learn on the train. I have a graduate job assessment test on Thurs morning in Manchester, then the boyfriend and I are going to the science museum, staying in the city centre overnight and going shopping and for a meal the next day. Apart from the scary prospect of the AC, it should be a lovely couple of days!

Ooh, good luck! What happens if you're successful?

[Stray_talk]

(Original post by Discouraged One)
I've just found this thread. I can see it being a really nice outlet for me, just so I don't have to suffer in silence because I don't really have anyone close enough to me other than my boyfriend that I can share my feelings with. Plus, this is quite anonymous so I wouldn't feel silly telling people my thoughts and/or feelings regarding my LDR and I'd find that impossible in real life.

So, hi!

Welcome How long and far is your LDR?

I am quite the poet

[rainbow drops]

(Original post by Flo[ProActiv])
Good luck!

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Whoop. Did 1,000/4,000 words of one essay, then 500 words plus references for a second (bringing me to 3,500/5,000), so I'm feeling pretty on top of things

(Original post by Stray_talk)
Ooh, good luck! What happens if you're successful?

Thank you! If I get through this test (unlikely, from what I've read about it, haha) I have to go to a full-day assessment centre which will have group discussions and roleplay activities, then if I get through that there's a final selection interview. Bit mental. I'm not that bothered about this job anyway, so I'm not pinning all my hopes on it or anything.

Argh, I'm frustrated -__- the boyf goes back to college this weekend, and on every sunny day while he's been here at home, we haven't been together. It's been sunny all day today but he's at his friend's, and last time I was with him it was really windy and rainy. On every other nice day I can remember from this last week and a bit, he's been with his family. Bit petty, but we like going to the park and things together, and we haven't been able to do that once being holed up in my house makes us really restless. No doubt it will rain the whole time we're in Manchester together, too, as it always rains there, haha. Lame.

[jeh_jeh]

Has anyone had any recent experience with Three? Tempted to move when my contract expires, but they're being slated on Facebook.

[hbandtr4eva]

(Original post by blinkbelle)
SO ANGRY! Got back from being in Leeds last night, and this morning I noticed my cat's water bowl and water fountain (which was turned off) were both dry. I am SO angry! The one thing I ask him to do is look after my cat, I even said if he couldnt manage it I would get my friend to call in and he leaves him without water! Is he trying to kill him!? SO MAD. xx

I can understand your anger, I would be furious. Have you spoken to him and explained the situation? Male cats are prone to urine infections too so I'd be freaking out

[jeh_jeh]

(Original post by Discouraged One)
I haven't personally but my brother was on Three until a month or so ago. I suppose it depends whereabouts you live but he was always complaining about the coverage. He found it really hard to get a signal most places he went.

Oh. I went on their website and the coverage looked fine, but we live in the middle of nowhere so I'd say their checker's probably not very accurate. It's a shame, 'cause I could get an iPhone 4 for £29/month (1,000 mins and unlimited texts and data). I suppose there's a reason it's so cheap, hah!

Hi, btw! I "survived" international long-distance, so I know how hard it is being seriously far away/infrequent visits.

[Lil-Lele]

My bf is logged onto fb chat but I'm crying and generally down and depressed as usual because he's not here so I haven't really said anything, feel guilty but I have nothing to say other than depressing crap that he's not going to want to hear. Even though he's trying to make conversaiton with me.

[Stray_talk]

(Original post by Discouraged One)
That could explain the good prices. You never know though, others may have had a better experience with them, so don't rule it out just yet.

How long did your international long-distance last for? I personally have no idea how long this distance thing is going to last for me. I know he's definitely worth every heartbreaking second of it, but I will be absolutely ecstatic when we can finally be closer together.

Next year will be seriously tough for us though because he'll be 1700ish miles away with a huge ocean in the way.

Ouch, that's tough! What's he going to be doing over there?
How long have you two been together?

Questions, questions!!

[jeh_jeh]

(Original post by Discouraged One)
That could explain the good prices. You never know though, others may have had a better experience with them, so don't rule it out just yet.

How long did your international long-distance last for? I personally have no idea how long this distance thing is going to last for me. I know he's definitely worth every heartbreaking second of it, but I will be absolutely ecstatic when we can finally be closer together.

Next year will be seriously tough for us though because he'll be 1700ish miles away with a huge ocean in the way.

My contract doesn't end for a few months, so I might get a cheap Three SIM and £10 handset from Tesco and see how the signal is before I commit to a contract.

It lasted a year. But it was tough because I left a month after we got together, and we only saw each other every six weeks when we were in the honeymoon phase.

Oooh, where's he going, etc?

[Flo[ProActiv]]

(Original post by Discouraged One)
I've just found this thread. I can see it being a really nice outlet for me, just so I don't have to suffer in silence because I don't really have anyone close enough to me other than my boyfriend that I can share my feelings with. Plus, this is quite anonymous so I wouldn't feel silly telling people my thoughts and/or feelings regarding my LDR and I'd find that impossible in real life.

So, hi!

Welcome
Your distance is impressive. How long have you guys been together?

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Whoop. Supersize vs Superskinny so trashy but so good!

Need to paint my nails, the polish on there is all chipped and nasty.




EDIT: Just saw the post above. Hopefully you guys will be able see each other (semi) regularly. How did you guys meet? *is nosey*