[22KT22]

(Original post by happydinosaur)
Thought the really amazing job deadline had passed but have been told it has been extended.

Want to apply...

This is me being selfish with my relationship and probably putting my other half in a horrible position by constantly choosing to do things that take me further away.

Apply for it, its not selfish and tbh if you don't you'll always wonder what if! Do it.

(Original post by Lil-Lele)
When does he leave for Spain?

21st July I think, I'll find something to do Like go swimming and to the pub etc.

[happydinosaur]

(Original post by Smoosh)
Nooo, you're not being selfish! I think it's important, even in a relationship, to still put yourself first (that kind of sounds really harsh written down, but I mean, I don't think anyone should feel like they're missing out on their dreams/things they want to do because of someone else). You have nothing to lose by just applying right?

I would put myself first. It's not the boy that's stopping me from applying, its worry about quitting my current job.

With the boy we don't have a really serious relationship where we talk about the future and stuff tbh. It's easier not to let ourselves get into that stage. I don't think I can do any of that until we've lived in the same city and done the normal distance relationship thing. Don't want to let myself get too emotionally involved in case I never move to where he is because other stuff being more important. Similarily I don't think he would ever move to be near me so at least we are on the same page.

Being a grown up is really hard.

Already seriously thinking about how cool a move to Birmingham would be so maybe I will apply. Shall discuss with the partents this weekend. Feel a loyalty to my job but I don't enjoy it. The main worry is wasting time applying for something that is fixed term but them thinking I'm not comitted because I've only just started a fixed term project job.

[Smoosh]

(Original post by happydinosaur)
I would put myself first. It's not the boy that's stopping me from applying, its worry about quitting my current job.

With the boy we don't have a really serious relationship where we talk about the future and stuff tbh. It's easier not to let ourselves get into that stage. I don't think I can do any of that until we've lived in the same city and done the normal distance relationship thing. Don't want to let myself get too emotionally involved in case I never move to where he is because other stuff being more important. Similarily I don't think he would ever move to be near me so at least we are on the same page.

Being a grown up is really hard.

Already seriously thinking about how cool a move to Birmingham would be so maybe I will apply. Shall discuss with the partents this weekend. Feel a loyalty to my job but I don't enjoy it. The main worry is wasting time applying for something that is fixed term but them thinking I'm not comitted because I've only just started a fixed term project job.

That completely makes sense.

Yep, it is!

I like Birmingham, it's a nice city It's important to do a job that you can enjoy!


Why is it as soon as I decide I want to go to uni job interviews and offers start flying in from everywhere

[Flo[ProActiv]]

It's been quiet in here today. Hope everyone's well

I made dark chocolate and peanut butter rock cakes this afternoon. Probably wasn't the best idea, as I've now got to try and resist eating them all. Especially since I got on the scales this morning and they were several lbs higher than I'd hoped Definitely need to make the most of my gym membership, cause I find it so hard to control my eating while I'm at home and the cupboards are full...

[Smoosh]

(Original post by Flo[ProActiv])
It's been quiet in here today. Hope everyone's well

I made dark chocolate and peanut butter rock cakes this afternoon. Probably wasn't the best idea, as I've now got to try and resist eating them all. Especially since I got on the scales this morning and they were several lbs higher than I'd hoped Definitely need to make the most of my gym membership, cause I find it so hard to control my eating while I'm at home and the cupboards are full...

Sounds yummy! I feel like that when I got home to visit my parents, my mum stocks up the cupboards sooo much even when we're only there for a few days I have a couple of over ripe bananas, so think I'm going to make cinnamon banana bread

[Lil-Lele]

Did a 4.5 hour shift at work this morning and handed in my hours for the month (93! the most so far, even though that probably sounds like nothing to full-timers). Then got a bus to my friends house and just got in. Feeling pretty bad today, as I usually do this time of month, but having an extremely difficult time living in this house with my family at the moment.

I had a skin test done at a salon today where I normally have my hair dyed (they changed the dye they use so suggested I have one before my app on Friday). I'm concerned...there is no redness, uncomfortableness, or itching or anything of that kind, but about 20 minutes after they put it on my cheeks and eyes felt puffy. This also happened when I dyed my hair at home. I didn't know if it could be related even though there's no skin reaction. Makes me paranoid and worried about having it dyed, plus I really should be saving to move out of here and not spending money on my hair - I was thinking of compromising and just having a wet cut. Then maybe buying some natural hair dye without PPD in at home. This week has just reminded me that I very much need to be financially independent so that I never have to rely on this family for money or support. Ever.

Does anyone else have a terrible relationship (if you can call it that) with their parents? And would never go back to living with them if they had the choice or is it just me?

[Flo[ProActiv]]

Lele

Want boy snuggles while watching TV together now plz.

[Lil-Lele]

Im ****ing fuming, he left his phone charger at home, so hes in bristol with no charger and no working phone and he flat out refuses to buy another charger and says we can email instead, what for 5 fking days omg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! im a control freak, i need to be able to reach him, hes in a hostel and doesnt even have a solid internet connection. if i need him now i cant even fking contact him I HATE LDR

[Stray_talk]

(Original post by Lil-Lele)
Im ****ing fuming, he left his phone charger at home, so hes in bristol with no charger and no working phone and he flat out refuses to buy another charger and says we can email instead, what for 5 fking days omg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! im a control freak, i need to be able to reach him, hes in a hostel and doesnt even have a solid internet connection. if i need him now i cant even fking contact him I HATE LDR

You can reach him, perhaps not by the method you'd best like but email is available. This might be a good test for you to try and cope with things a little more independently.

[22KT22]

Evening all

How are we all?

I'm good got an email back from a potential placement so am really excited as it would be doing family work in a museum! Would be running family days and planning trails so very exciting! Hopefully will be able to do 2 days a week so would still be able to work so can afford it!

(Original post by Stray_talk)
You can reach him, perhaps not by the method you'd best like but email is available. This might be a good test for you to try and cope with things a little more independently.

This! Rainbow was lucky to get emails when her boy was away and i have had weeks where an email was all i got. Yes its sucks but 5 days isn't too bad, just keep busy and try not to stress about it too much.

Laura: That's understandable, i would feel the same about letting down a commitment i made but you'd be crazy not to at least go for it. After all applying doesn't mean you'll get it.

[Flo[ProActiv]]

(Original post by 22KT22)
Evening all

How are we all?

I'm good got an email back from a potential placement so am really excited as it would be doing family work in a museum! Would be running family days and planning trails so very exciting! Hopefully will be able to do 2 days a week so would still be able to work so can afford it!

That sounds awesome I volunteer on the quiz desk at a museum near me, and it's so much fun!

[Lil-Lele]

I flat out refuse to not be able to contact him as and when I want. I will order one and send it next day to his workplace.

[22KT22]

(Original post by Flo[ProActiv])
That sounds awesome I volunteer on the quiz desk at a museum near me, and it's so much fun!

Yeah plus the museum is http://www.tudorhouseandgarden.com/ and has recently been renevated, went with the boy and loved it!

[Flo[ProActiv]]

(Original post by 22KT22)
Yeah plus the museum is http://www.tudorhouseandgarden.com/ and has recently been renevated, went with the boy and loved it!

Oooo lovely

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Someone come eat my rock cakes so I don't eat any more?

[hbandtr4eva]

(Original post by Lil-Lele)
I flat out refuse to not be able to contact him as and when I want. I will order one and send it next day to his workplace.

I'm sorry, do you realise how crazy you sound right now? It's not like you can't contact him at all, you can, just less than you normally do. A few days will not kill you, it will probably be the making of you. It's not even like you won't be seeing him soon, you'll be seeing him in what, 5 days or less? Seriously, get over it. I'm sorry but you sound incredibly high maintenance. I could understand it more if you weren't going to be able to contact him at all but you can. If my boyfriend acted like you're acting over a simple, human mistake you can bet I wouldn't be thrilled about spending my entire summer with him.

I know I sound harsh but the thing is, I did this 3 years ago and it was NOT GOOD. You will end up driving him away and screwing yourself up in the process and no-one is worth that. Take some deep breaths and re-read what you just wrote. It's 5 days, not a life sentence.

[Stray_talk]

(Original post by Lil-Lele)
I flat out refuse to not be able to contact him as and when I want. I will order one and send it next day to his workplace.

I think you must be feeling pretty emotional about it all. I imagine if you came back tomorrow with a clearer head, you'd see how controlling that looks.
You've admitted you're a control freak but you're going to push him away with it, if you're not careful.

You're in danger of crowding him out, Lele.

[22KT22]

(Original post by Flo[ProActiv])
Oooo lovely

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Someone come eat my rock cakes so I don't eat any more?

Deal

[Jellybean91]

(Original post by Lil-Lele)
I flat out refuse to not be able to contact him as and when I want. I will order one and send it next day to his workplace.

I'm sorry but I agree with everyone else! You really need to take a deep breath, take a step back and get some perspective on all this. Its not like you can't contact him at all, I know so many people who completely relied on just email to talk to their OH while they lived abroad! And you're going to be able to see him soon! I would understand if it was going to be a month before you saw him, but you can do 5 days (in fact it'll do you some good!) and to be honest, if he doesn't see a need to buy a new phone just because a charger isnt working, you shouldn't just get up and buy him a new one esp when youve JUST talked about saving all your money so you can get out of your house! I wouldn't do it, its a good way to suffocate someone and push them away!

(Original post by Flo[ProActiv])
Oooo lovely

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Someone come eat my rock cakes so I don't eat any more?

MEEEE PLEASEEEEEE screw the diet

Its the boys and my anniversary today we had a nice long skype before I went out to see the Olympic torch in town

[happydinosaur]

(Original post by Lil-Lele)
I flat out refuse to not be able to contact him as and when I want. I will order one and send it next day to his workplace.

I have to agree with everyone else. You are massively overreacting. It was a simple mistake. Things like this happen. It might seem the end of the world now, but 5 days is nothing really. Perhaps if you just tried to accept the situation you would surprise yourself with how easy 5 days with only email contact can be.


Had a horrible day at work today so think I will apply for the job just to see what happens. I'm in no way experienced enough so I won't even get an interview but got to take all the chances I can get.

Been showing people round the house tonight. One housemate leaves in 2 weeks and another took redundancy at work so might be leaving soon too. Don't like the effort that showing people round takes, especially after a horrible day at work.

[Flo[ProActiv]]

*Throws rock cakes at thread*

Enjoy