Ok so apologies for the length of this in advance, i'll do bullet points to make it easier to read: (if you must just skim read, sorry for huge block of text)
- Firstly, I do love her so much, and I cant imagine being with anyone else and i want to have a future with her - but it's getting out of hand now.
- Me and my girlfriend have been in a relationship for nearly a year now
- About 6 months ago she became extremely smothering, controlling and jealous
- Now it's gotten to the stage where we fight every single day really badly over the smallest things
- She's so jealous that we fight if I go shopping with my dad and recognise one of our friends, who happens to be female.
- I'm not allowed to watch basically any TV shows except cartoons, and any programme i want to watch HAS to be passed by her; films like American Pie are forbidden and if I go to my friends house and they decide to watch it i have to go home.
- We fought over me playing GTA because apparently it's all about half naked girls (though i did explain how i simply mess around with mods) but admittedly she's apologized for this
- Facebook - I'm never ever ever allowed on, if i go on when i'm talking to her she flips out, and apparently the only time I'm allowed on is when she's out somewhere (but even then I shouldn't go on). Should also add she goes on when i'm out but I'm not allowed when she's out.
- I'm not allowed to talk to girls at all in short
- Not allowed to browse internet because of possible images that might come up
- Can't watch music videos in case theres a split second of a half-dressed girl in which case she goes ballistic
- Btw I go to a boys school and have had relatively little (not none though) experience with girls. She on the other hand is one of those really hot popular girls who's had far more relationship experience than me, and admitted to flirting with half her school which is mived (and they flirt back). But apparently this doesnt stop her from accusing me of being really close to ****loads of girls.
- I once sent a happy birthday message to someone saying 'it's been ages [since we talked]
' and we fought for days because she's jealous of the girl who i've known for years and since then she has referred to me as a 'beg' for girls
- I HAVE to look away from the screen if theres a girl dressed inappropriately, preferably i should change the channel.
- Currently she's calling me a really s*** boyfriend because apparently Deal or no Deal is full of sluts wearing low tops and I don't look away from them.
- I wanted to do half an hour texts on weekdays after school (as opposed to 5 minute texts) and she flips out about that claiming we never talk
- the idea of 'me time' is imaginary to her, she thinks every free second should be spent talking with each other
- She was insecure about me wanting to be an Actuary (basically an office job, some people argue its really boring) in case i 'had to talk to females and theyd be dressing slutilly and would want to have sex with me' [even though she wants to be a high school teacher, which i don't have a problem with, but all the guys will be perving on her]
- All my moves are monitored to the minute. If i take more than 15 minutes to eat a meal, even if i take 16 minutes, we fight for hours about me taking too long to eat. Same goes with showering.
- We already fight about when i go to university next year and how much she thinks i'm going to start having sex with other girls or whatever (note i've rarely ever been hit on by girls at all, whereas she's lost track of how many guys have asked her out, let alone hit on her).
Theres probably twice as many things i've left out, but i think you get the general idea... she's becoming ridiculously controlling and jealous. I trust her despite her 'past' and despite how she would never ever trust me to be in her position. How can i show her that she's being too smothering and jealous? thanks in advance