Why do some girls act like this??!!!
I am a guy and i got rejected by my female friend last week.
Didn't really expect that to happen since she said she was trying to move to me, laugh at my jokes, initiating hugs, just talking about stuff.
It's been nearly a week and when she rejected me, she said its because she doesn't see me in that way, too much of a friend blah blah
It was so ironic today when I saw two of her ex's walking in front of me and all I could think of was that they pulled her and I couldn't
Anyways, we agreed to be normal and act like anything didn't happen but we haven't spoken properly in a week. No hugs, no eye contact, no smile.
I'm pissed off coz I'm trying to get back to normal but she gives 1 word replies plus today, we were going home in a group and she didn't even talk to me
I was so mad so I didn't say bye when I left
Any explanation from this stupid behaviour she's putting, I'm the one that's licking my wounds, I don't know why she's not acting normal. The awkwardness had grown and grown and I can't be bothered with her.
It's a shame coz we were really good friends before but it's like were strangers
Tl;dr rejected by my female friend, we agreed to be normal again but she's not engaging with me which make me confused and angry.
PS: I didn't ask her out, I admitted my feelings to her
Didn't really expect that to happen since she said she was trying to move to me, laugh at my jokes, initiating hugs, just talking about stuff.
It's been nearly a week and when she rejected me, she said its because she doesn't see me in that way, too much of a friend blah blah
It was so ironic today when I saw two of her ex's walking in front of me and all I could think of was that they pulled her and I couldn't
Anyways, we agreed to be normal and act like anything didn't happen but we haven't spoken properly in a week. No hugs, no eye contact, no smile.
I'm pissed off coz I'm trying to get back to normal but she gives 1 word replies plus today, we were going home in a group and she didn't even talk to me
I was so mad so I didn't say bye when I left
Any explanation from this stupid behaviour she's putting, I'm the one that's licking my wounds, I don't know why she's not acting normal. The awkwardness had grown and grown and I can't be bothered with her.
It's a shame coz we were really good friends before but it's like were strangers
Tl;dr rejected by my female friend, we agreed to be normal again but she's not engaging with me which make me confused and angry.
PS: I didn't ask her out, I admitted my feelings to her
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Well, that kind of thing is bound to change a friendship. Some survive, others don't. And those that survive might recover straight away, whereas others might take a while.
Sounds to me like you're being hugely impatient. Your confession is probably still fresh in her mind and she probably feels quite uncomfortable around you at the moment. Give her more time to get over it. (:
Sounds to me like you're being hugely impatient. Your confession is probably still fresh in her mind and she probably feels quite uncomfortable around you at the moment. Give her more time to get over it. (:
Original post by KaydeeYaleni
Well, that kind of thing is bound to change a friendship. Some survive, others don't. And those that survive might recover straight away, whereas others might take a while.
Sounds to me like you're being hugely impatient. Your confession is probably still fresh in her mind and she probably feels quite uncomfortable around you at the moment. Give her more time to get over it. (:
Sounds to me like you're being hugely impatient. Your confession is probably still fresh in her mind and she probably feels quite uncomfortable around you at the moment. Give her more time to get over it. (:
??!!
What about me? Surely she should be okay by 1 week now
She said we would be normal but now she doesn't acknowledge me anymore
What about you? Surely you must have realised you were taking this risk when you confessed. You can't go around telling people you like them as more than a friend and then think, oh well, if they don't like me, things just won't change at all. Wrong. Things do change. Things get awkward, it's a risk you chose to take.
You can't force her to 'acknowledge' you or talk to you 'normally'. If she feels awkward, she feels awkward. There is nothing she can do about that. If she said you two would be normal, then that means she wanted to try to make it normal. She wanted to make an effort. But it IS difficult for someone in that position. Try to be more understanding. =/
You can't force her to 'acknowledge' you or talk to you 'normally'. If she feels awkward, she feels awkward. There is nothing she can do about that. If she said you two would be normal, then that means she wanted to try to make it normal. She wanted to make an effort. But it IS difficult for someone in that position. Try to be more understanding. =/
I kinda did the same thing.
I sent 'I've had a crush on you for years' to every girl in my facebook. I didn't even talk to half of them anyway.
Some went good, some went bad.
I sent 'I've had a crush on you for years' to every girl in my facebook. I didn't even talk to half of them anyway.
Some went good, some went bad.
Original post by KaydeeYaleni
What about you? Surely you must have realised you were taking this risk when you confessed. You can't go around telling people you like them as more than a friend and then think, oh well, if they don't like me, things just won't change at all. Wrong. Things do change. Things get awkward, it's a risk you chose to take.
You can't force her to 'acknowledge' you or talk to you 'normally'. If she feels awkward, she feels awkward. There is nothing she can do about that. If she said you two would be normal, then that means she wanted to try to make it normal. She wanted to make an effort. But it IS difficult for someone in that position. Try to be more understanding. =/
You can't force her to 'acknowledge' you or talk to you 'normally'. If she feels awkward, she feels awkward. There is nothing she can do about that. If she said you two would be normal, then that means she wanted to try to make it normal. She wanted to make an effort. But it IS difficult for someone in that position. Try to be more understanding. =/
Perhaps I should be more understanding
but I took her word for it- we would act normal, I guess notI'm not sure why I've gotten over it so easily
but she did the dumping, not me so I don't see why she should feel awkward I'll give her another week but if I don't see any changes, i'll know what I'll do
Thanks for your advice btw
Original post by Nick Longjohnson
I kinda did the same thing.
I sent 'I've had a crush on you for years' to every girl in my facebook. I didn't even talk to half of them anyway.
Some went good, some went bad.
I sent 'I've had a crush on you for years' to every girl in my facebook. I didn't even talk to half of them anyway.
Some went good, some went bad.
Haha, that is class
Original post by Nick Longjohnson
I kinda did the same thing.
I sent 'I've had a crush on you for years' to every girl in my facebook. I didn't even talk to half of them anyway.
Some went good, some went bad.
I sent 'I've had a crush on you for years' to every girl in my facebook. I didn't even talk to half of them anyway.
Some went good, some went bad.
Legend
Bump
Anymore?
Anymore?
Bump...
Original post by KaydeeYaleni
What about you? Surely you must have realised you were taking this risk when you confessed. You can't go around telling people you like them as more than a friend and then think, oh well, if they don't like me, things just won't change at all. Wrong. Things do change. Things get awkward, it's a risk you chose to take.
You can't force her to 'acknowledge' you or talk to you 'normally'.
If she feels awkward, she feels awkward. There is nothing she can do about that. If she said you two would be normal, then that means
she wanted to try to make it normal. She wanted to make an effort. But it IS difficult for someone in that position.
Try to be more understanding. =/
You can't force her to 'acknowledge' you or talk to you 'normally'.
If she feels awkward, she feels awkward. There is nothing she can do about that. If she said you two would be normal, then that means
she wanted to try to make it normal. She wanted to make an effort. But it IS difficult for someone in that position.
Try to be more understanding. =/
That was your answer. And a real good one. so what about 'bump' 'bump' ??
Original post by The Polar Dude
Bump...
Original post by The Polar Dude
Perhaps I should be more understanding but I took her word for it- we would act normal, I guess not
I'm not sure why I've gotten over it so easily but she did the dumping, not me so I don't see why she should feel awkward
I'll give her another week but if I don't see any changes, i'll know what I'll do
Thanks for your advice btw
but I took her word for it- we would act normal, I guess notI'm not sure why I've gotten over it so easily
but she did the dumping, not me so I don't see why she should feel awkward I'll give her another week but if I don't see any changes, i'll know what I'll do
Thanks for your advice btw
Because she now knows you like her. So she looks at you and there's a voice in her head going 'Eee, he likes me. But I don't like him. Awkward.'
Original post by KaydeeYaleni
Because she now knows you like her. So she looks at you and there's a voice in her head going 'Eee, he likes me. But I don't like him. Awkward.'
Oh come on, we are old enough to put this behind us and carry on but yeah I know what u mean, but she needs to adapt to it sooner or later
It's not really a matter of age. Any girl would react like that, I'd say. It's uncomfortable.
Original post by KaydeeYaleni
Because she now knows you like her. So she looks at you and there's a voice in her head going 'Eee, he likes me. But I don't like him. Awkward.'
Original post by KaydeeYaleni
It's not really a matter of age. Any girl would react like that, I'd say. It's uncomfortable.
Yes.
believe me OP, and I'm a girl, I should know.
Original post by sarah_who
Yes.
believe me OP, and I'm a girl, I should know.
believe me OP, and I'm a girl, I should know.
So is this reversible? Or has the damage been done
Original post by KaydeeYaleni
It's not really a matter of age. Any girl would react like that, I'd say. It's uncomfortable.
So is the action reversible? Or has the damage been done
Sorry I couldn't multi quote ;/
It's reversible if you give it a LOT of time, usually. All depends on the person, really.
She might have been hugging and all the other stuff because she was sort of practising on you. Ok that sounds weird but I believe a lot of women learn to socialise with men around non-threatening characters so they know what to do should they like someone in a romantic way. A lot of things women do don't mean what you'd think they'd mean which is confusing for pretty much every guy.
She is behaving that way around you now because she doesn't want to look like she's reciprocating feelings. It's quite possible given time that you can get back to being good friends. I know of people who've been in this situation and got back to where the friendship was because no one has made it more awkward than it should be.
She is behaving that way around you now because she doesn't want to look like she's reciprocating feelings. It's quite possible given time that you can get back to being good friends. I know of people who've been in this situation and got back to where the friendship was because no one has made it more awkward than it should be.
Original post by The Polar Dude
So is this reversible? Or has the damage been done
First of all give her time.
If you are clearly over it and are relaxed, non-hurt and non-awkward yourself, then she'll eventually ease again and gets back to normal.
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