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Aromantic? Am I an aromantic sexual?

Heya,

Recently, something has been brought to my attention - a term called 'aromantic'. A term that I'm pretty sure describes me.

According to most definition - aromantic people are not interested in romance. This is the AVEN definition:

'An aromantic is a person who experiences little or no romantic attraction to others - where romantic people have an emotional need to be with another person in a romantic relationship, aromantics are often satisfied with friendships and other non-romantic relationships. What distinguishes romantic relationships from a non-romantic relationships can vary diversely, but often includes physical connection (holding hands, cuddling, etc.) and monogamous partnership. The aromantic attribute is usually considered to be innate and not a personal choice, just as the lack of sexual attraction is innate to asexuals. It is important to note that aromantics do not lack emotional/personal connection, but simply have no instinctual need to develop connections of a romantic nature. Aromantics can have needs for just as much empathetic support as romantics, but these needs can be fulfilled in a platonic way.
It is possible for an aromantic individual to be involved in, and enjoy, a devoted relationship with another person, but these relations are often closer friendships, naturally reflecting the closeness of the two individuals and not a purposely initiated monogamous separation as is often found in romantic couples. Aromantics may experience squishes which are the aromantic or platonic equivalent of a romantic crush.
People anywhere on the sexual spectrum (sexual, asexual, grey-A, etc.) may be aromantic.'

I've just never really felt the need to be in love. I experience attraction to guys, and I do want to have sex (which does rule asexuality out) but have never really had a crush, nor can I imagine myself ever having a relationship.

It's just that there are aspects of romantic relationships which I find almost repulsive - I don't find them repulsive in terms of others - I think it's really sweet seeing other couples holding hands, or kissing or doing other romantic gestures - but when it comes to me - the thought of me doing it makes me cringe!

I was really just wondering if anyone had heard of the term - or even if anyone is like me? I don't even know if I am aromantic - and maybe someone who is can tell me their experience? I'm a little confused by it all, really :s

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