Muslims that still live with parents + going out

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Another trick would be... Do what you want, and then fill your parents in later.
My parents are not keen on the idea of clubbing or drinking, so obviously being the rebel that i am i had to try it. Told my parents after and now they think i'm super awesome because i don't keep anything from them. Oh how wrong they are. Moral of the story, seek forgiveness, not permission. :tongue:

Reply 21

ak137

Original post by tsrstar

I come from a Muslim household, I’m not religious myself and I’ve never been given any strict curfews. I've moved back home now, and commute to uni which isn’t so bad because my parents are (Almost) awesome.

They've never given me a strict curfew, but they prefer i tell them where I’m going, and what time i might be back by. (For their peace of mind)
I've never given my parents a reason to enforce any strict rules.. Well, no reasons that their aware of anyway :wink:

There’s only one thing i doubt my parents would be 'cool' with, and that’s the boyfriend issue. *Sigh* I'll forever remain alone. :sad:

I take back my earlier comment. My parents aren’t awesome. They’re evil dictators.

Original post by Ayah

^I know tell me about it. They never bring up the subject;marriage, but remind me that it's haraam to date and have a boyfriend..
I don't wanna be aloneeeeeeee!

The fact that your parents bought you into this world as a muslim, is a blessing in itself :smile:

cherish it :smile:

Reply 22

tsrstar

Original post by ak137

The fact that your parents bought you into this world as a muslim, is a blessing in itself :smile:

cherish it :smile:

They bought me into this world as a muslim, but i shall leave it as an atheist :smile:

Reply 23

Luxray

Original post by HumiT

I don't get why you have to go out at night?

to socialise, go to concerts, experience the night life and also this may sound a bit sad but also to stay at the library during early hours of the morning.

Reply 24

Anonymous #1

Original post by Luxray

I feel your pain. Its always leads to them using a random story about how a muslim guy become a 'yob' and started drinking and partying. And I just think to myself 'why can't you trust me!'
Then they use the 'community issue'.... what if someone they knew saw me and started gossiping, I'd bring shame to them even if the gossip was dramatised.
I think you should do what I do and just play their pathetic life controlling game and bide your time for your second or third year and ask them that you need to live in because you will concentrate better at uni. I mean amongst all the social problems you get for having unreasonable parents, commuting itself takes up quite a lot of time and can become very frustrating.

I would have thought your parents would be more lenient because you're a guy. My dad would not stop telling me to apply to all the local unis, that way I can commute to uni and not have to move out. When I dared to suggest I wanted to be more independent he kept saying it was a waste of money etc.
I don't even have the community issue. There are very few Moroccans living in my town, and we're not aquainted with many of them. (My parents claim they look down on those less religious than them. They know my dad drinks and a few don't approve, apparently).

Reply 25

ak137

Original post by tsrstar

They bought me into this world as a muslim, but i shall leave it as an atheist :smile:

Fair enough :smile:

Spoiler

Reply 26

Anonymous #1

Original post by HumiT

I don't get why you have to go out at night?

It's symbolic of growing up. I feel like I've earnt the right be able to go out at night like others my age. Somehow it feels more exciting too. It feels different going out at night compared to during the day. Also, it's not necessarily that I want to go out all the time, but it would be nice to have the option to.

Reply 27

Xotol

Well, I used to be a Muslim.

My parents were never really strict. They were and ARE insanely strict in terms of education (especially my mum), but they realise that going out is necessary to relax. So, they usually trust me to do whatever the hell I want and come back in one piece.

They raised me well. I don't drink, smoke or take drugs. The latest I've ever come home was about 1.00 am and my parents didn't even care. They trust me enough to do my own thing.

So yeah, my parents are cool. However, I know a lot of Asian, especially Muslim, parents who are extremely uptight. I sympathise, but hey, it's probably for your own good.

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Anonymous #5

Original post by Anonymous

I'm an 18 year old girl living with muslim parents (I plan to move out for uni though) and was interested to hear curfews and rules from others with muslim parents. I just want to say that I myself do not consider myself a strict muslim. I believe in God but I'm not sure I agree with a lot of muslim rules etc. My parents don't pray, my dad drinks, but they've always been kinda strict with my sister and me. I have to let them know a couple of days before I go out where I'm going, when I'll be back, and sometimes they'll say I can't go for practically no reason. When I was 16 they wouldn't let me go out for a meal with friends at 6pm on a Friday because the city centre would be full of 'drunk hooligans'. I'm allowed out occasionally until around 10pm with friends if I'm going out for a meal or something, but they seem pretty intrusive with it and I can tell they don't approve. (My dad often asks why I don't just go out earlier). :rolleyes:

My mum would probably be a bit stricter with me, but she never got to go out with friends when she was my age and she wants me to have that opportunity, I don't have much to hide but due to the awkwardness I tell her VERY vaguely where I'm going/what I'm doing

Reply 29

HumiT

Original post by Luxray

to socialise, go to concerts, experience the night life and also this may sound a bit sad but also to stay at the library during early hours of the morning.

is the library seriously open during the early hours of the morning? My uncle always used to come home at 4 am and claim he was in the library and my grandma always believed him (no one else did though).

Reply 30

tsrstar

Original post by ak137

Fair enough :smile:

Spoiler

Haha

The thought crossed my mind. Your spoiler made me laugh though. :yy:

Reply 31

Dirac Delta Function

Original post by tsrstar

But only if you get caught - don't volunteer info. :biggrin:

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Besakt

My parents are pretty relaxed about me and my sisters about going out. We don't have any curfews. I should also mention my parents are pretty strict Muslims but it may just be the fact that they trust us alot.

I'm 17 if that matters.

Reply 33

ak137

Original post by tsrstar

Haha

The thought crossed my mind. Your spoiler made me laugh though. :yy:

no worries sis, its all cool in the hood :cool:

Reply 34

HumiT

Original post by Anonymous

Yeah I understand what you mean. It would be nice to know that they trust you.

Reply 35

Anonymous #1

I should probably add my dad is a paranoid person anyway. My parents split up years ago because he thinks she had been cheating. No he has no proof. He doesn't trust me either. :frown:

Reply 36

Besakt

Original post by Xotol

Mine are pretty much the same.

Reply 37

tsrstar

Original post by Dirac Delta Function

But only if you get caught - don't volunteer info. :biggrin:

Give a little to gain a little. Risky move telling my parents that i drank alcohol and went clubbing, but it worked out in my best interest. If they react badly, then you pull out the 'but...but.. my friends made me do it' card and BAM! They believe you and all is well.
Granted you may have to cut all ties with the friend you blamed.