My current boyfriend only ever watches anal porn. He's made no secret of the fact that he loves anal sex and it is a big thing for him. He told me that his ex loved it, went wild when he did it and had orgasms from it without any other stimulation.
Thing is, I'm really a fan of penis-in-vagina sex, and, although I've tried anal with several boyfriends, it really isn't my thing. I get no pleasure from it, and to be crude it just feels like having a **** which isn't really a sexy feeling for me. I don't want to do it with him, I don't want to have anal sex as part of my sex life, he can have as much oral sex and intercourse as he likes, but I'm just not up for anal.
He doesn't push me into it because he says that he's only up for it if a woman gets actual physical pleasure out of it and wants it enough to demand it.
It makes me feel really insecure though that it is this big thing for him, that his ex loved and and he loved having with her and I hate. I can't understand it - my ex wasn't into anal porn at all. I'm not a prude about porn, me and my ex used to talk very openly and show each other what we liked to watch. We had similar taste in porn and liked the same things in bed. But - anal and nothing else?! I just don't know how to deal with his love of anal and my insecurity over his ex!
tl;dr: My boyfriend loves anal sex and so did his ex. I hate it and feel insecure and like he must have enjoyed sex with his ex more than me.