Still not over ex after four months?

hmm well keeping busy doesn't mean that you've erased the feelings - it's just that you've put them on the back burner....

it might be an idea to actually sit down one day and just think about why it ended - i'm sure there's things about her that make her less than perfect.....yes it sounds a bit touchy feely but it seems like keeping busy isn't helping so try combining it with another approach? The very fact that she's saying things like that, which are pretty hurtful, just shows you what kind of person she is - i mean, aren't you glad that you aren't with someone as spiteful?

WAIT - you broke up with her???.....

Well it's quite hard, we only really argued about one thing. That was her going to the pub all the time with her new best friend who I had never met, seeing loads of guys from her work at the pub too. I didn't mind it once or twice but she use to go every single Friday night and sometimes on weekdays too. And she used to work during the weekends so I didn't see her much then.

Yes, I broke with her. I confronted her about the messages and she said they were all true and she wanted to end it. That was it, no more. When I text her now she shows no emotion to wanting me back not even liking me. We never cheated on each other.

Her reason was "we have both changed, your more confident now a days and I'm friends with different people who you won't like".

ah i had a feeling...

hmm...it's going to take a while. 4 years is a huge chunk of your life so you can't expect it all to erase so quickly. Keep trying as hard as you are, eventually things will get better

i guess from what you've said that you are upset about the way she has thrown everything back in your face....i'd say maybe this was her way of dealing with it. she may be over you, but she may not and is just putting up a front....focus on yourself instead of her, as you have been.

time and more time .......(possibly the most annoying word ever in terms of break-ups)

She said to me last night, "We both want different things, leading totally different things and I could never go back there now" Which makes me think she use to want to!?

It's so hard everyday all I do is spend most of my time thinking about her.

Just takes time

But I'm afraid because I'm at uni first year, getting over a long term girlfriend will hinder my chance of getting another girlfriend.

I pulled this amazingly fit girl in a club on Friday, but I didn't follow through with it as I wasn't ready.

I think about her all the bloody time. Every little thing remind me of her so all I ever seem to do is be like "oh when I was with my ex we did this, she did that etc".

It's so bad but it's all I can talk about?!

It's been four months, I'm in despair!

To be honest, 4 months isn't that long and to say you'd been together for 4 years! Someone once told me that it takes half the length of the relationship to get over someone, but that definitely wasn't true for me. I dated someone for 4 years and was over him in less than a month, but another guy I was with for 2 months and it took me over a year to get over him. Just keep yourself busy and it'll happen when it happens