But I know racism when I see it. It feels cold. When someone sees you but looks through you. It's about excluding someone for no reason at all. And I came across half a dozen people in that in Norwich.
The other type of racism is, when you accept someone as being equal to you, in theory, but you wouldn't think of including them in your friendship group because you think they don't drink and party because they might be muslim, or assuming that they don't speak English, or thinking that they're an international student and will only stay for a year so there's no point in becoming friends.
There are different layers of racism, the most subtle of which isn't at all visible to the majority group, who think that there's nothing wrong.
On the other hand, I went to visit my friend at Goldsmith's uni in London and she was similar to me, but having so much fun and meeting lots of people.
I only started to have a proper university experience in my second year because I was getting tired of not being included, so I decided to stop being sensitive when people were rude to me and just meet people, chit chat with anyone and everyone. I avoided the kinds of people I didn't want to hang out with and went for the people who I did want to hang out with.
It all worked out well but only because I decided to ignore rude people. On my graduation day, my family, who thought that I was making it all up and finding excuses to not be outgoing, were shocked at how racist people were in Norwich - a barmaid didn't serve my sister even though she was clearly first in line, looked through her and then asked the next person what they wanted.
I ended up feeling hurt that they didn't like my beloved Norwich and were in no mood to walk around the city so that I could show them my favourite places because they wanted to get out asap lol.