never had a boyfriend or been kissed

Hi,
i'm 17 and have never had a proper relationship..i know that ''i'm young and have the rest of my life etc...'' but my parents have always been strict with me having boyfriends since from a very young age and because of this i have always shyed away from male attention as i did not want to disappoint them and as a result i have never even kissed anyone not even in primary school lol.

As I'm getting older...i think i can make the decision of whether i want to have a relationship with someone by myself now.. however i get really shy and talk too much and then everything seems awkward any advice?

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Reply 1

abc:)

Original post by Anonymous

Wait and it'll come to you, even Susan Boyle's been kissed now!

Reply 2

damilola

i'm in this situation right now, i'm out of school now and i just want to get my first boyfriend/kiss over and done with but it's so awkward. Even when i go on dates, i dnt do anything right, i still think kissing is 'yucky' and all romantic gestures are automatically turned down. But everyone says it'll happen when it does, so, i'm just hoping it does :P

Reply 3

Computerised

Original post by abc:)

Wait and it'll come to you, even Susan Boyle's been kissed now!

NO WAI

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

OP it doesn't matter that you've not been kissed yet or had a boyfriend. I had my first kiss at 16, but didn't get a boyfriend until I was 21 :smile:

It's all in your own time, there is no need to rush.

Reply 5

Lucia.

It'll happen. Just don't overthink it. :smile:

Reply 6

SugarPuffs

Well you could become a slut if you want to be with the other cool people that have lost their virginity so badly.

Just be patient, sorround yourself with potential male buddies and then wait until one of them shows interest.

Reply 7

gingerben

wait till you see someone you actually want to kiss =]

Reply 8

Lucia.

All these guys speak the truth. :smile:

I think your future man will adore you for not being slutty like some other girls and treating intimacy as something which is meaningful. I think guys will find your shyness endearing so don't worry too much about it. Sooner or later someone will come along. I was saying this myself when I was 17 then by the time I turned 18 I had a boyfriend and my first kiss. The fact that you haven't had either up until now doesn't strike me as unusual and I don't think it makes you seem strange or anything like that. Your parents obviously wanted to protect you, as many young men are really immature. My dad's always been protective of me for this reason. I'm sure someone lovely will come along and it's quite likely to be someone who starts off as a friend so do what SugarPuffs said and keep an eye out for male friends.

Reply 9

Cdash

I am actually interested in a girl like you at the moment, who has never had a boyfriend for similar reasons. I really like the fact that shes so innocent and different as I am sure guys will think about you.

In terms of being nervous when you speak to guys, it will definitely get better with time, the more you speak to guys you find attractive the more relaxed you will feel. As for the time being, don't worry if you feel nervous, confidence is a lot less important to guys as it is to girls in terms of the person they are attracted to. I know I wouldn't be put off if a girl seemed a bit shy.

Reply 10

no_one001

Ive never had a boyfriend either, I have no problem with this

Reply 11

katypurples1012

OP, I'm 18, and exactly the same....

It gets me down sometimes, but at the moment I am happy to focus as to where I want to be in my life... My career, getting in to nurse training, generally being happy with building my life.... And I place my faith in that when the time is right the perfect man will come along....

Be thankful, so many youngs girls rush in to relationships for the sake of it... I know of a young mum who hates the father, and she pretty much just wanted him for his sperm.... You have a good head on you! You really needn't worry....

I sometimes even wonder if I am even ready for a proper relationship. I mean, I could really do with building my self confidence/ image etc.... Maybe I am saving a few guys some hastle for the time being :tongue:

Reply 12

The_Lonely_Goatherd

If it makes you feel any better, I'm 23 and have never had a boyfriend or been kissed :nah:

Reply 13

Belizibub

It's really not the end of the world. More important thing's than the opposite sex, despite what your hormones indicate.

Reply 14

ufo_01

Don't rush into it otherwise you will regret it.

Reply 15

petparadise123

I am 18 and am the same. My cousin is 22 in Jan and as far as i know she has also never had a bf.

Reply 16

Anonymous #3

Original post by katypurples1012

totally agree with this! i'm 18 and never had a boyfriend and gets me down too sometimes but then i think about the stress of having a boyfriend lol! and also i'm trying to focus on my own personal goals that i want to achieve and i hope mr. right comes along one day :smile:

just wait for him to find you!

Reply 17

katypurples1012

Original post by Anonymous

just wait for him to find you!

Well I do believe you also have to make an effort to socialise and surround yourself with a few men at some point.... But absolutely! I think life has a way of working itself out, and right now I can't be doing with all the 'rules' and potential heartbreak...

Also, I want to have a serious relationship which could lead to marraige.... Young men rarely share that goal :colondollar: