Clubbing is only fun if you're attractive (guy) or easy (girl)

OP

Obviously its flattering getting female attention. Its a nice bonus to going out especially in some clubs where from my experience its almost guarenteed to happen, but i don't go out hoping to get off with someone. If it happens then i'll happily go along but i haven't gone out aiming to pull, hardly anyone who i've been out with has. I'm not deluded though and i know a lot of guys DO go out aiming to bring someone home. When i go out i just want to enjoy myself with my friends, anything else is a bonus. So i usually come back from a night out in a good mood having enjoyed myself, this would not be the case if i go out aiming to pull.

do you get a lot of female attention at clubs? realistically how good looking do you consider yourself (are you tall, do you work out, do you have a good face)?

the problem i have is if i go out to have a good time, its impossible because all the girls dressed the way they are and being more liberal/more horny after alcohol means that sex is on my mind even when i try to blank it from my mind. it doesnt help when i am so sexually inexperienced at my age. :redface:

Reply 21

The_Jammy_Witch

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Original post by HP15

You're easy aren't you?

Is your figure in the 100s?

No need to get nasty. Salmon ***ger. :biggrin:

Reply 22

lolasland

There's an element of truth in what you say, I enjoy being chatted up. Never in a million years would I call myself easy. But sometimes when you sound your time with no makeup on it's nice to look nice and go out.
But there's more to it than that, it's nice to let your hair loose and be with friends and dance and have fun, clubbing isn't ENTIRELY about sexual encounters

Reply 23

SuarezAlonso

To be perfectly honest, I agree with most things said.. Accept height.

I'm a male and I'm 5'8. I still get a decent amount of action.

Reply 24

HP15

Original post by The_Jammy_Witch

No need to get nasty. Salmon ***ger. :biggrin:

Im a guy fishface, tryharder.

Im better than anything you'd get! :biggrin:

Reply 25

The_Jammy_Witch

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Original post by HP15

Im a guy fishface, tryharder.

Im better than anything you'd get! :biggrin:

I got some porn for you, 23-is-fine.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDj7DuHVV9E&ob=av3e

Fishy delights, see? Ain't I good to you? :biggrin:

Haha

Reply 26

newts2k

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Original post by xoJessicaAnn

Some of my friends say they're not happy if they go clubbing/to a party and DON'T make out with someone, even if it's someone they don't even like the look of. Oh being an 18 year old.... :|

haha, really, it seems that girls are a lot more fussy and reluctant to just randomly pull/sleep with a man. Whereas men always feel worse if they get nothing and mates normally put pressure on you to pull birds, i.e rib you if you 'dont get any.'

Reply 27

newts2k

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Original post by PointeShoes-x

Maybe it's different because I'm a girl but I'm now slightly worried that I don't understand clubbing at all! I go to dance and have fun with my friends. I know I could do that at home too but I like the atmosphere of most clubs - I actually enjoy it being crowded (maybe more so because I'm normally slightly drunk) and you can't get away with playing music that loud in a house. I have a boyfriend and I enjoy clubbing with or without him. When I was single I would sometimes kiss guys (and once went further) but that was never my aim when I went out and more of a result of being too drunk. Do a lot of guys really only go out to get action? I've never got that impression from my male friends but I could be wrong!

yes most guys go out and hope to get action, prob cos men have higher sex drives than women. But yeh, I think girls generally go out to dance, Im not sure that many go to just hook up

Reply 28

lalala1

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Making quite a few assumptions here! I have lots of fun dancing in clubs. I don't go out with intentions of pulling, but IF it happens, it happens!

- not saying i'm "into" one night stands though, i'd never go that far.

(edited 12 years ago)

Reply 29

xoJessicaAnn

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Original post by newts2k

haha, really, it seems that girls are a lot more fussy and reluctant to just randomly pull/sleep with a man. Whereas men always feel worse if they get nothing and mates normally put pressure on you to pull birds, i.e rib you if you 'dont get any.'

Yeah, this guy announced in our common room that he'd slept with a girl he'd been meeting up with, and some guy commented 'nice one mate! and you didn't even have to get in a relationship with her...!' and high fived him. :eek:

Reply 30

Movember

OP

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Original post by Schroedinger's Pandora

You are completely and utterley deluded my friend. This is not the case at all.

no need to get so defensive! every guy at least has this thought at the back of his mind. a lot of girls do too but i think a lot of them show it in a different way plus they are more fussy. like i said if you are frigid and prudish which most tsr girls seem to be, of course they will disagree.

Original post by xoJessicaAnn

Yeah, this guy announced in our common room that he'd slept with a girl he'd been meeting up with, and some guy commented 'nice one mate! and you didn't even have to get in a relationship with her...!' and high fived him. :eek:

thats because its a challenge for a guy to get a girl to sleep with him and guys want sex an awful lot. guys understand this so they respect the guys who get sex regularly (not many guys do). they are seen as the alpha males. they dont like to pretend they are in love, they dont care about being viewed as slutty, they dont care so much about reputation. they dont want all this silly game playing. every guy wants as much free sex as he can get.

(edited 12 years ago)

Reply 31

xoJessicaAnn

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Original post by Movember

thats because its a challenge for a guy to get a girl to sleep with him and guys want sex an awful lot. guys understand this so they respect the guys who get sex regularly (not many guys do). they are seen as the alpha males. they dont like to pretend they are in love, they dont care about being viewed as slutty, they dont care so much about reputation. they dont want all this silly game playing. every guy wants as much free sex as he can get.

So... no guy actually 'loves' a girl, it's all 'silly game playing' just so that they will sleep with them? Hmmmm.. Erm.
And the guy who had sex with this girl out of a relationship actually lost his virginity to her, so not TOO much of an 'alphamale' hahaha.

Reply 32

HP15

Original post by The_Jammy_Witch

I got some porn for you, 23-is-fine.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDj7DuHVV9E&ob=av3e

Fishy delights, see? Ain't I good to you? :biggrin:

Haha

Your failure to insult me made me LOL whilst I did some math stuff.

You cant pull anything as good as me, just accept it. Pulling as a girl is easy as piss. Even a 90 year old granny can pull on a night out.

Women on a night out only get chatted up because they have a fanny between their legs, who gives a crap about what they think? :smile:

You know its true cupcake so dont hate.

Reply 33

The_Jammy_Witch

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Original post by HP15

Your failure to insult me made me LOL whilst I did some math stuff.

You cant pull anything as good as me, just accept it. Pulling as a girl is easy as piss. Even a 90 year old granny can pull on a night out.

Women on a night out only get chatted up because they have a fanny between their legs, who gives a crap about what they think? :smile:

You know its true cupcake so dont hate.

Huh? Yeah I know. I agree. Is that what this is about?

See I thought you were just insulting me for the sheer pointlessness of it.

Anyway you sound quite woman-hating and frustrated about things. I hope you feel better soon, because all that contempt is what's keeping you where you are. Kiss kiss and goodnight.

Reply 34

Kerny

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The clubbing "scene" is about listening to awful music, buying crappy overpriced drinks, and getting packed like a sardine on a "dancefloor" whilst spazzing about (or, "dancing").

Reply 35

newts2k

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Original post by xoJessicaAnn

Yeah, this guy announced in our common room that he'd slept with a girl he'd been meeting up with, and some guy commented 'nice one mate! and you didn't even have to get in a relationship with her...!' and high fived him. :eek:

oh right, lol, muppets, typical teenagers I think, I thought you meant girls.

Reply 36

Nizza123

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Yes i go out with the intention of sex at the end of the night.
More often than not i get it, and pat myself on the back the next morning with a big grin on my face. It's more addictive than the sex itself.

Original post by Movember

do you get a lot of female attention at clubs? realistically how good looking do you consider yourself (are you tall, do you work out, do you have a good face)?

the problem i have is if i go out to have a good time, its impossible because all the girls dressed the way they are and being more liberal/more horny after alcohol means that sex is on my mind even when i try to blank it from my mind. it doesnt help when i am so sexually inexperienced at my age. :redface:

A suprisingly high amount when you consider that i'm nothing special in terms of physical appearance or build. Half the time i'm not even looking for it, i'm just with my friends, turn around and theres a girl eyeing me up. Quite weird because the majority of the group i go out with are girls, i thought that would put a girl off doing anything? I mean i wouldn't go up to someone if she was with a load of guys. Maybe its because i appear confident or something :s-smilie: