I don't quite understand why this nagging feeling won't go away because he's amazing in every way. But some things gave me a little cause for concern from the start.
On one of our early dates he joked about 'not being gay' (and this immediately set alarm bells ringing, as the only person I know that used to repeat this has just come out!). He talked about an 'attractive' male he knew, and when I joked about being concerned, he said he was comfortable enough in his sexuality to say so. He has done the same with some male actors, and never comments on hot females (although he is quite shy as it is). At one point he put up a profile pic on fb with a guy with his arm around him...I just got an odd feeling which I couldn't shake off, then when he went away for a weekend and returned, I found out a gay friend had been with him (as long as other friends, people that I know too). I eventually expressed the concern and he was quite taken aback, saying 'wow...I didn't know you'd actually been thinking about this seriously' and said that having gay friends didn't make him gay (not that I said it did). He then joked that I had something against meterosexuals...
About a week later at a party a mutual male friend tackled another friend to the ground and he joked that it was 'hot'. I looked at him with complete disgust, and he just said 'oh come on!' as if I was taking it too seriously. I'm lucky in the way that he's the most romantic boyfriend, ie. arranging candles for me but will say things like 'I'm not sure how the scent blends with the other candle...
' and I'll just be thinking...what.
Aside from all this, he's incredible in every way (also gives me the best orgasms), maybe more so than any past boyfriend, so maybe I'm just picking holes. I hear from him every day, he's always planning great things for us to do, and he's assured me there is nothing more to his jokey comments but still. What do you think?