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How do I get over this?

Im 20 and at university. About a year ago my ex broke up with me after two years together. During those two years she lied and cheated (not that I knew). I wish I had found out and broke up with her.

Even though its been a year I still think about her everyday and I get down a lot because of it. I cut all contact after we broke up, she was my first girlfriend/love. I treated her well and got very little back.

Im having real trouble getting over this because it gets me down so much. Although I cut all contact I still see her every now and then on facebook since we had a lot of mutual friends and she seems happy which makes me feel worse.

Most of this has been triggered more recently when I found out she has started seeing/sleeping with one of my friends who stopped speaking to me after we broke up and started just hanging around with her!

I work hard, I socialize lots, I exercise, play sports, ive dated attractive Intelligent, nice girls but don't feel anything towards them. Feels like life sucks even though I've got so many good things in my life.

Does anyone have any suggestions as to what I can do to get over this? Would therapy help?

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username355614

Personally, i'd recommend lots of time and an extra dose of socialising. But if you think that it's not getting any better, maybe not therapy, but talk to somebody you trust...(or a total stranger online, as I once did when in a similar situation). Sometimes just getting it all off your chest helps.

Hope it works out, just remember it can take time to get over stuff like that, it's not rare to still feel bad a year later.