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    (Original post by Pi!)
    I just found this game/animation about being MTF and I thought you might find it interesting. I did.
    I've never seen anything like this before, it's cool to see a game be able to explain something so well.
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    Hey, Im not sure if any of you are interested - or what the rules are, but this may be of interest to some of you:

    http://equalmagazine.tumblr.com/

    Its a new magazine thats being set up, and they are looking for LGBT+ contributors,

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    (Original post by fallen_acorns)
    Hey, Im not sure if any of you are interested - or what the rules are, but this may be of interest to some of you:

    http://equalmagazine.tumblr.com/

    Its a new magazine thats being set up, and they are looking for LGBT+ contributors,

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    Thank you - I've registered my interest
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    (Original post by Anomaly11)
    Thank you - I've registered my interest
    awesome how are you?
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    (Original post by fallen_acorns)
    awesome how are you?


    I'm OK, just insanely tired at the moment (too much work :sigh:), thanks for asking! I'm very close to getting my first appointment at a gender clinic now - I've only got to reply to an email - which is the main thing keeping me going...

    How're you doing?
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    I'm OK, just insanely tired at the moment (too much work :sigh:), thanks for asking! I'm very close to getting my first appointment at a gender clinic now - I've only got to reply to an email - which is the main thing keeping me going...

    How're you doing?
    ah ok, well its still great news about the gender clinic im very happy for you,

    Im doing ok, gender stuff is going pretty well, now almost completly out - im out to everyone that matters now, so thats good, --- just working on the rest of my life now, trying to get that in order
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    (Original post by fallen_acorns)
    ah ok, well its still great news about the gender clinic im very happy for you,

    Im doing ok, gender stuff is going pretty well, now almost completly out - im out to everyone that matters now, so thats good, --- just working on the rest of my life now, trying to get that in order
    That's brillant! I'm really happy for you too - it's such a relief when you can just get on with living life how you need to, without having to deal with reactions (as much)... Especially if it's mostly taken well

    My appointment's on the 31st. I don't know what I'm actually going to have to talk about, but I'm still excited
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    Hi again, I'm going to have to create another account so I can post freely on here but at the moment I just need to discuss this...

    I need some help/advice:

    - Last March (2011) I saw my GP, told them I had gender issues.
    - GP referred me to a psychologist.
    - Saw the psychologist in November 2011.
    - Since then I have been waiting for a referal to a gender clinic.
    - I rang my doc to see what was going on because November was ages ago.
    - The psychologist has dianosed me as Gender Dysphoric and mentally well.
    - I have NOT been refered to gender clinic because my PCT will NOT fund the treatment.
    - There is nothing my doctor can do.

    What can I do now?

    My doctor said if I can find ANOTHER gender clinic and bring him the details, he will refer me. But - won't other clinics want my PCT to fund it too? So it won't matter which clinic he refers me to, my PCT won't fund it.

    Thanks for any help.
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    Hi again, I'm going to have to create another account so I can post freely on here but at the moment I just need to discuss this...

    I need some help/advice:

    - Last March (2011) I saw my GP, told them I had gender issues.
    - GP referred me to a psychologist.
    - Saw the psychologist in November 2011.
    - Since then I have been waiting for a referal to a gender clinic.
    - I rang my doc to see what was going on because November was ages ago.
    - The psychologist has dianosed me as Gender Dysphoric and mentally well.
    - I have NOT been refered to gender clinic because my PCT will NOT fund the treatment.
    - There is nothing my doctor can do.

    What can I do now?

    My doctor said if I can find ANOTHER gender clinic and bring him the details, he will refer me. But - won't other clinics want my PCT to fund it too? So it won't matter which clinic he refers me to, my PCT won't fund it.

    Thanks for any help.
    I'm pretty sure it is illegal for PCT's to have a blanket ban on treatment for gender stuff. I think if you contact Press for Change http://www.pfc.org.uk/ they may be able to advise you on your legal standing! Where in the country are you/what PCT are you under/ what Gender clinic, if you are comfortable saying so, I may be able to give you better advice!
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    I'm pretty sure it is illegal for PCT's to have a blanket ban on treatment for gender stuff. I think if you contact Press for Change http://www.pfc.org.uk/ they may be able to advise you on your legal standing! Where in the country are you/what PCT are you under/ what Gender clinic, if you are comfortable saying so, I may be able to give you better advice!
    Not really comfortable saying. Thank you for the link - I'll check that out . I'm going to give my doc a clinic name, ask for a referal and see what the PCT says. If they say no then I will fight it.

    I feel really let down by the NHS right now - it's lucky that I'm not seriously depressed/vulnerable because a more sensitive person who had waited this long (12 months!) and ended up being told 'no' might not take this quite as well as I'm doing. I can very much see how people slip through the cracks.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi again, I'm going to have to create another account so I can post freely on here but at the moment I just need to discuss this...

    I need some help/advice:

    - Last March (2011) I saw my GP, told them I had gender issues.
    - GP referred me to a psychologist.
    - Saw the psychologist in November 2011.
    - Since then I have been waiting for a referal to a gender clinic.
    - I rang my doc to see what was going on because November was ages ago.
    - The psychologist has dianosed me as Gender Dysphoric and mentally well.
    - I have NOT been refered to gender clinic because my PCT will NOT fund the treatment.
    - There is nothing my doctor can do.

    What can I do now?

    My doctor said if I can find ANOTHER gender clinic and bring him the details, he will refer me. But - won't other clinics want my PCT to fund it too? So it won't matter which clinic he refers me to, my PCT won't fund it.

    Thanks for any help.
    Oh god, this is exactly what I'm scared of happening. If you don't mind me asking, what's your PCT?

    Twitter is possibly your best bet here; it has a relatively large and helpful trans community. https://twitter.com/#!/Mrs_Transman is the wife of a guy who was denied testosterone by Nottingham PCT, and managed to fight and repeal that successfully; she might know what to do and how she won, or she might be able to put you in touch with people who do know. Outside of that, I can ask on Twitter for you if you like - I'm pretty active in trans tweeting.

    In the meantime, is there any way you can start to save up a little bit of money in case you end up needing to go private? I know it's hideously expensive and a total last resort, and I can't even afford to save up for it, but if you're financially stable it may be worth preparing for.
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    Hello again, everyone...

    I was just wondering if anyone's had any experience with Dr Lorimer, as I've got an appointment coming up in just over a week's time and I'm getting kinda nervous...

    He's really nice (judgement made solely through email correspondence ) and has a similar sense of humour to me, but I just want to get an idea of what to expect. If anyone's already done the Initial Hoop Jumping Bit (which I do understand is necessary, please note ), I'd appreciate any help I can get.

    Thanks
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    He was pretty chill, when I went he mostly just asked me about my general life, what I was up to, who I was living with, out to, if I'd changed my name yet etc. Asked what I was hoping to get (eg hormones, surgery etc) and basically just gathered all the background information! Also asked about allergies, illness, history of suicide in family, things like past operations, if I drink/smoke, if I'd ever been pregnant.. asked about my sexuality.. uh that's all I can remember! The one thing I was scared of was that he might try and grill me trying to challenge if I was really trans or not, but nothing like that, they pretty much accept coming in that you are so all they're doing is making sure you're in the right place in your life/living situation etc to be starting hormone treatment/surgery/etc.!
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    (Original post by Anomaly11)
    Hello again, everyone...

    I was just wondering if anyone's had any experience with Dr Lorimer, as I've got an appointment coming up in just over a week's time and I'm getting kinda nervous...

    He's really nice (judgement made solely through email correspondence ) and has a similar sense of humour to me, but I just want to get an idea of what to expect. If anyone's already done the Initial Hoop Jumping Bit (which I do understand is necessary, please note ), I'd appreciate any help I can get.

    Thanks
    I have no tips, but can I just ask when you were referred? I was referred in November and am yet to hear anything.

    (Also, off-topic, but could you PM me your email address? You gave me it on tumblr, but it got lost in my inbox )
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    (Original post by kerily)
    I have no tips, but can I just ask when you were referred? I was referred in November and am yet to hear anything.

    (Also, off-topic, but could you PM me your email address? You gave me it on tumblr, but it got lost in my inbox )
    Aw, that sucks

    I went to my GP in August (I think), but I'm going private - I've barely got the funds to cover it, but I've got an arrangement with my parents - the appointment's come after a long email exchange via the enquiry forms on their website.

    Where were you referred to? I hope you don't have to wait much longer, anyway - I know the effects waiting can have all too well. Sigh.

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    If it helps any, I think you've done just about everything they'll expect of you, hoop-jumping-wise, so you shouldn't have to wait that much longer for T once you've seen them for the first time

    Yep, sure - Tumblr's done that to me before as well :sigh:
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    Aw, that sucks

    I went to my GP in August (I think), but I'm going private - I've barely got the funds to cover it, but I've got an arrangement with my parents - the appointment's come after a long email exchange via the enquiry forms on their website.

    Where were you referred to? I hope you don't have to wait much longer, anyway - I know the effects waiting can have all too well. Sigh.

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    If it helps any, I think you've done just about everything they'll expect of you, hoop-jumping-wise, so you shouldn't have to wait that much longer for T once you've seen them for the first time

    Yep, sure - Tumblr's done that to me before as well :sigh:
    I can't afford to go private, parents or no parents, so I'm going via the NHS. I've jumped through every hoop except a deed poll, which I mean to get round to very shortly So hopefully I can procure T when I've had an appointment. I was apparently referred to Charing Cross.
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    (Original post by kerily)
    I can't afford to go private, parents or no parents, so I'm going via the NHS. I've jumped through every hoop except a deed poll, which I mean to get round to very shortly So hopefully I can procure T when I've had an appointment. I was apparently referred to Charing Cross.
    Fair enough

    They're notorious for their waiting lists, aren't they? But I'd say you've damn well waited long enough evil NHS. Calm. If you got referred in November, you should get an appointment fairly soon, I hope...? Maybe it's worth phoning to see how far off it is? Sorry - I'm still pretty clueless about how it all works, to be honest

    I hope it's not taking its toll too much though... and :hugs: if you need one!
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    Hi, I'm a cis guy
    Not sure if this is the right place to be posting this, but basically I find trans girls really attractive, and I'd like to know where I can meet some, I did find a trans dating site, but there weren't too many girls on there. Just curious
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    I got referred roughly around january/february of 2011, got a letter in about june, giving me an appointment in october. it doesn't always take quite that long but it gives you an idea.. they aren't exactly efficient, that's for sure.
    Once you get referred, usually T comes on appt number 2. My second appointment was earlier this month. Appointments are usually 4-6 months apart.

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