[kerily]

(Original post by ZZ9)
I hope that happens for you. And me, and everyone else out there I'm still undecided on whether I'm going to tell my parents or not. I mean, if I transition, they'll probably realise, but... well, they don't need to know at the moment. I'm actually a bit worries that I'll tell them after I've seen the gender clinic and they'll be accepting and upset that I didn't tell them sooner. But I suppose it's a bit of a no win situation, and not telling them has less risk.

I decided to break it to mine because I thought they might notice if I came home with a beard Plus I couldn't stand being referred to by my birth name for a second longer. Not that that worked

I reckon you should only tell your parents when it's unavoidable. I don't want to be negative, but you can't really work on the assumption that they'll react well, because it's not all that likely.

The last thing I want to do is regret transitioning. I'm busy questioning my decision and thinking and talking to counselling people, so I'll keep you posted I'm angry that people have messed with 'feeling male' for me (I can't explain, but all the ****tiness that I associate with being perceived as male).

Do question your decision. I mean, don't doubt something you know to be true, but equally... you need to know that what you're doing is the right thing for you.

[fallen_acorns]

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[kerily]

(Original post by fallen_acorns)
small victory today: for the first time - completely hair free (well you know.. nearly..) least masculine ive felt in a long long time...

Congratulations

Have you considered waxing instead of shaving? (Assuming you shave your body hair in the first place and haven't yet discovered waxing ) I've never waxed (I crave leg hair ) but it's meant to be a lot longer-lasting than shaving, and leave you a lot smoother.

[fallen_acorns]

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[kerily]

(Original post by fallen_acorns)
mm, waxing is what i wanted to do... but due to some scabs/cuts, i felt it wasnt possible...

next time though

& id have given you mine if i could... so so hairy, it was truely discusting

Things that I wish: that transmen and transwomen could just magically swap. It's just ridiculous that each of us has, broadly speaking, the sort of body the other wants, and yet there's precisely nothing that either of us could do about this

I don't know about waxing if you have scabs or cuts, but given that it basically rips out your hair follicles () it probably wouldn't be a great idea - the packet on hair removal cream, even, tells you not to do it on broken skin

[fallen_acorns]

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[ZZ9]

MY MUM JUST USED 'HIS' IN REFERENCE TO ME, **** YES. She did then apologise and say that she mixed up her words, and everyone else did laugh, BUT **** YES, HIS.

[Cool Cat]

(Original post by ZZ9)
How would you describe your gender and sexual identity?

Male-ish and straight-ish. I realise that there are actual words for this (pansexual would probably be it), but that's the description I like.

What are your preferred pronouns?

He/his/him etc

Are you out to anyone in real life/offline?

A couple of people, but that's it.

Do you have any long-term plans with regards to surgery/hormones/similar?

Sometimes yes, definitely, other times I'm not so sure. In an ideal world, I'd start on hormones soon (got an appointment at a gender clinic in a bit over a month ) and also have surgery, but in the real world, I'm not so sure that that will happen

You're in edinburgh? awesome me too (well just outside of)

and kerily and co.

I feel odd outing myself here

[ZZ9]

(Original post by Cool Cat)
You're in edinburgh? awesome me too (well just outside of)

and kerily and co.

I feel odd outing myself here

I'm not in Edinburgh at the moment- Christmas holidays, but 4 DAYS TO GO

And hi

[Cool Cat]

(Original post by ZZ9)
I'm not in Edinburgh at the moment- Christmas holidays, but 4 DAYS TO GO

And hi

ahh I came back earlier as I have exams this week

also, have you heard of transmen scotland? they meet in edinburgh and they are a decent bunch

[ZZ9]

(Original post by Cool Cat)
ahh I came back earlier as I have exams this week

also, have you heard of transmen scotland? they meet in edinburgh and they are a decent bunch

I had all mine before Christmas, hope yours went well

I have, I've never been though- I felt a bit scared But I suppose I should probably give it a shot.

[Cool Cat]

(Original post by ZZ9)
I had all mine before Christmas, hope yours went well

I have, I've never been though- I felt a bit scared But I suppose I should probably give it a shot.

ah lucky you, thanks, I've had 2 so far (1 before christmas) but still 2 to go

Really stressed atm because of them

ah, I was scared (I went all the way there and almost turned back) but then thought that it was better than feeling lonely in my thoughts so I went and found it quite good, nice bunch of guys

If you want to go in the future let me know because I might be going then also.

[ZZ9]

(Original post by Cool Cat)
ah lucky you, thanks, I've had 2 so far (1 before christmas) but still 2 to go

Really stressed atm because of them

ah, I was scared (I went all the way there and almost turned back) but then thought that it was better than feeling lonely in my thoughts so I went and found it quite good, nice bunch of guys

If you want to go in the future let me know because I might be going then also.

If it's any consolation, I've failed my exams in a spectacular fashion (there was one paper that I left blank), so you probably haven't done as badly as I have.

Hmm, maybe I will. I'm not sure if there are any other trans people in the LGBT society- I'm not there much, and if there are, I haven't met them/realised that I've met them.

Is it the second Saturday of the month? If it is, I might go in February

[Boobies.]

(Original post by kerily)
We have 426 views. Dear Lord! Hello everyone

This reassures me that I wasn't the only one to click on this out of interest and wanting to know more, but feeling too out of place to actually comment.

..until this comment, that is.

[Cool Cat]

(Original post by ZZ9)
If it's any consolation, I've failed my exams in a spectacular fashion (there was one paper that I left blank), so you probably haven't done as badly as I have.

Hmm, maybe I will. I'm not sure if there are any other trans people in the LGBT society- I'm not there much, and if there are, I haven't met them/realised that I've met them.

Is it the second Saturday of the month? If it is, I might go in February

oh dear poor you

you should, they're meeeting on the 11th Feb iirc

It's nice to be in the company of other people who feel the same, I'm still questioning though (or maybe just in denial) and feel like the only one there who doesn't pass but mehh

I'm really feeling **** about myself though, can't stand to be in this 'woman's' body and being constantly referred to as she or her or ladies when I'm with a group of girls.

[Revd. Mike]

Hey all Don't mean to intrude or anything, but I just wanted to mention that you're all of course very welcome to join the TSR LGBT Society and chat with us in our chat thread: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=1787074

We don't have many regular non-cisgender folk (aside from CC ), but you are very welcome and we're all super friendly

[ZZ9]

(Original post by Cool Cat)
oh dear poor you

you should, they're meeeting on the 11th Feb iirc

It's nice to be in the company of other people who feel the same, I'm still questioning though (or maybe just in denial) and feel like the only one there who doesn't pass but mehh

I'm really feeling **** about myself though, can't stand to be in this 'woman's' body and being constantly referred to as she or her or ladies when I'm with a group of girls.

I'm doing a different degree next year (I really, really hope), so it'll be fine

I'm sort of questioning and sort of not- it varies. I definitely don't pass though, so you're not alone (although, once I've got round to getting my hair cut and getting a binder, that will hopefully change). But I'm 5 feet tall and have a high voice, so.. ah.

Oh, I know

[Cool Cat]

(Original post by Revd. Mike)
Hey all Don't mean to intrude or anything, but I just wanted to mention that you're all of course very welcome to join the TSR LGBT Society and chat with us in our chat thread: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=1787074

We don't have many regular non-cisgender folk (aside from CC ), but you are very welcome and we're all super friendly

and I can vouch for the friendliness yep

[Cool Cat]

(Original post by ZZ9)
I'm doing a different degree next year (I really, really hope), so it'll be fine

I'm sort of questioning and sort of not- it varies. I definitely don't pass though, so you're not alone (although, once I've got round to getting my hair cut and getting a binder, that will hopefully change). But I'm 5 feet tall and have a high voice, so.. ah.

Oh, I know

which degree are you hoping to do?

ahh I have a boyish haircut (kinda grown out version of the style i have in my profile pics) and I bind (bit stretched now though so I have to rely on carefull clothing choices) I'm also a short guy(5foot 3- bane of my life )

it's funny, I seem to pass in all sorts of bizarre situations (eg to the odd old person or in a dark nightclub) but only once in every while
Jealous of those transguys that can pass most times even without T

Doesn't help that I look 12 ha

[Anonymous]

Thanks for this thread! I'm going anon - at least for now...

How would you describe your gender and sexual identity? Gender identity: Male. Sexuality: Bisexual. Though if I'd have been born biologically/physically male then I'm pretty sure I would simply be a gay man. My Mum calls me 'camp' which makes me smile.

What are your preferred pronouns? Unsure. It's not an issue for me right now - it's my body that messes with my head mostly. Pro-nouns are a non-issue for me at least at the moment. It's one less thing to think about if I just see pro nouns as a completely semantic/abstract issue.
My birth name doesn't bother me either.

Are you out to anyone in real life/offline? Yes, I told my parents and close family last year. Also my doctor and therapist know.


Do you have any long-term plans with regards to surgery/hormones/similar? I'm just taking it day by day right now. I'm having therapy, and coming out helped tremendously - as did simply dressing in a manner that I was actually comfortable with. I've just basically been honest with myself and done what I feel comfortable with so far.

I'm in a much much better place mentally than I was at this time last year. If it gets to a point where I hit a wall and my progression towards feeling 'okay' is stalled due to not being able to accept my body any further then I'll consider hormones/surgery. But I'm making sure that I get the right treatment before and if I even get to that point - I don't feel like I've spent enough time exploring everything yet. If I could have been born male I'd be happy but I'm uncomfortable with accepting being a transsexual. I'm comfortable with accepting myself as
transgender but I don't know if I want to make any changes to my body - I'm basically petrified of the social implications and how it will affect my life in general, I'm also petrified of surgery and the affects of long term testosterone injections (plus, I like having hair and don't want to go bald - seems trivial I know).