The Ugly Duckling

I feel so low at the moment, I have been single for nearly a year which I don't have a problem with but I get rejected when I like someone. I have been interested in 3 guys throughout this time at different periods. The one kept talking about his ex and he even told me he finds it hard to trust women (our mutual friends know he was being truthful). We only met up as mates and he said he wasn't ready for a relationship, 2 months later then he got a girlfriend off the internet.

The next guy was an old friend from years ago, again we were just hanging out as mates and he kept talking about his ex and said he wasn't over her (he has told our friends this too), has depression and bad debt. I admitted I liked him but he told me to walk away as he needs to sort himself out and that I can do better than him, again he got with someone else 2 months later.

Then another guy who has been out a few times at the pub tried to get to know me but I stupidly didn't tell him I liked him and this guy was definately a keeper . The other night he told me he recently got with someone else but his words and actions were telling me he knew he missed his chance with me. I just feel awful because I am not an ugly girl and my friends have said men feel threatened and think they don't have a chance so go with the safer option.

I feel so low at the moment, I have been single for nearly a year which I don't have a problem with but I get rejected when I like someone.

The one kept talking about his ex and he even told me he finds it hard to trust women (our mutual friends know he was being truthful). We only met up as mates and he said he wasn't ready for a relationship, 2 months later then he got a girlfriend off the internet.

The next guy was an old friend from years ago, again we were just hanging out as mates and he kept talking about his ex and said he wasn't over her (he has told our friends this too), has depression and bad debt. I admitted I liked him but he told me to walk away as he needs to sort himself out and that I can do better than him, again he got with someone else 2 months later.

Then another guy who has been out a few times at the pub tried to get to know me but I stupidly didn't tell him I liked him and this guy was definately a keeper . The other night he told me he recently got with someone else but his words and actions were telling me he knew he missed his chance with me. I just feel awful because I am not an ugly girl and my friends have said men feel threatened and think they don't have a chance so go with the safer option.

can i ask how old you are?

Aw that's a shame that you weren't able to show your interest. You don't necessarily have to be explicit either because you can show it in your actions/behaviour/body language. If they aren't thinking they have a chance with you and are going for the safe bet then that says more about them than it does about you.

I think it's simply a case of you not meeting the right guys. Don't think you're not enough or anything like that. You deserve to find a good guy.

I feel so low at the moment, I have been single for nearly a year which I don't have a problem with but I get rejected when I like someone. I have been interested in 3 guys throughout this time at different periods. The one kept talking about his ex and he even told me he finds it hard to trust women (our mutual friends know he was being truthful). We only met up as mates and he said he wasn't ready for a relationship, 2 months later then he got a girlfriend off the internet.

The next guy was an old friend from years ago, again we were just hanging out as mates and he kept talking about his ex and said he wasn't over her (he has told our friends this too), has depression and bad debt. I admitted I liked him but he told me to walk away as he needs to sort himself out and that I can do better than him, again he got with someone else 2 months later.

Then another guy who has been out a few times at the pub tried to get to know me but I stupidly didn't tell him I liked him and this guy was definately a keeper . The other night he told me he recently got with someone else but his words and actions were telling me he knew he missed his chance with me. I just feel awful because I am not an ugly girl and my friends have said men feel threatened and think they don't have a chance so go with the safer option.

27!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! common, I honestly thought you were 17 or 18.. common...get some confidence lady!!!especially since you claim to be pretty.... common!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

lets see your picture.

I am 27, I know I am old to be asking for advice - have been out of the dating game for a while.

How can I get confidence when I keep getting rejected?