At what age does it become weird to still be a virgin?

Hmm I lost mine at 21 (I'm 21 now) to a guy I was seeing (who became my boyfriend later) and he didn't care in the slightest that I was a virgin. I struggle to see how it wouldn't "wash" with people. If you were dating a person you got on really well with and discovered they were a virgin because they hadn't felt ready prior to that or the opportunity hadn't arose, I don't think many people would be shallow enough to immediately drop them. Or maybe I was just lucky?!

i think if you love the person a lot (i.e. you would strongly consider moving in with them and spending your life with them) then you wont care much.

i think it differs between boys and girls. boys wont care much and even find it admirable 'cos for a girl there is no skill in getting sex. if she is quite an old virgin (which 21 is), then it shows she had control over her urges and waited for the right person.

for a boy, being an old virgin will invariably be seen as a bad thing. it shows he is poor with women, he might be creepy, he might be downright ugly. it could mean several things but all of them are bad. boys (many will claim the contrary) want lots of sex. they dont care much about waiting for the right girl. if they say they care, they will almost always be lying. that is purely an excuse for their lack of social skills/skills with women that has prevented them having sex.

Well yes, but how do you know if you're sexually compatible until you've had sex with them? I just think it'd be strange to shun somebody who you had a connection with after hearing they were a virgin. Even with 2 people who arn't virgins and who get together, it's always a learning curve to see what the others like. A virgin, after the first couple of times, is no different.

Age doesn't matter.
You should have sex when you're ready, if that's 16 or 60 it doesn't matter!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5lLshTBfZ2A

Just to show that not everyone loses it at 14/15 etc...

I'd have thought it'd be the other way around

Well to be honest, I have had crushes on virgins before and the fact that they're virgins didn't affect my feelings for them. However I know that to get into a relationship with them, it would be unlikely to work out because I like to be the submissive one sexually so I want them to be the person with the most experience. This is just a personal thing. We're all different and I'd rather make that distinction then get into a relationship with someone who might end up getting hurt. I don't want to be teaching a guy how to have sex - to me that's a violation of traditional romance roles.

I have to disagree with you when you say that "a virgin, after the first couple of times, is no different". Sexual experience counts for a lot and I've noticed the difference. It's more than just sticking it in there. My face dropped when I had sex with a guy who didn't know where the clit is.

Another point is that non-virgins are more likely to know themselves sexually because the floodgates (perhaps blocking any sexual repression) will have opened and I might be able to determine if we have similarly matched sex drives. You can't really have an idea of your sex drive until you've had sex for the first time.

For many people losing their virginity is quite a deeply emotional experience. Sex isn't as emotional for me as it used to be although I prefer to have it when I'm in love. Because of losing virginity having so much meaning for that person, I don't want to be the one to take it when I think they'll find a more meaningful experience with someone who is also a virgin. If the girl isn't a virgin and the guy is, it puts a lot of pressure on him to perform.

EDIT: Why'd I get negged for this? Please give me a response - I want my views to be challenged. Also, before I get accused of being narrow-minded, I actually used to believe in abstinence but my views have changed with age and experience to pretty much the opposite. As a result I have to say that I'm quite understanding about this stuff. What I wrote is my opinion and I have never suggested otherwise.

Most guys who are virgins are sexually frustrated, and will watch lots of porn to make up for it (my friends certainly do). Therefore they're clued up in terms of positions/where everything is etc, it's just a case of someone giving them a chance and not judging them for their virginity.

See you say you like to be the submissive one, but it would be a shame if you were unable to take control a few times for sex that may turn out to be fantastic later on.

Most guys who are virgins are sexually frustrated, and will watch lots of porn to make up for it (my friends certainly do). Therefore they're clued up in terms of positions/where everything is etc, it's just a case of someone giving them a chance and not judging them for their virginity.

See I was a virgin till I was 21 because between the ages of 16-20, the only friends I had were girls. It took my to get to uni to actually start interacting with guys for the first time, and at first I was naturally quite nervous around them. However I'm now totally fine around guys, and it just took 1 guy to show me the ropes and now I feel fully confident.

I would be fine taking a guys virginity if I really liked him and he's happy for me to take it.

I also don't embark on relationships thinking it's going to last forever, so therefore would be happy to have sex with someone I got on really well with with the potential for a relationship, rather than only ever having sex when I'm in love.

I don't understand how people can assume virgins will be rubbish sexually and take ages to pick things up when they're a bit older, just because they're virgins in their 20's.

Like I said, for most people it's a case of a total lack of relationship opportunities and not having the desire to lose it to a random.

I do agree that completely writing someone off for being a virgin/unexperienced is a tad harsh, but it will be a bit of a sticking point for many. And it also might say something about that person.

I know what you mean. Sometimes I do feel harsh and wonder if I write off virgin guys too much but at the same time I'm trying to be honest about myself and what attracts me and I think that, ultimately, that's what is best for both parties. When you say that "it also might say something about that person" what do you mean? Do you think women with sexual experience and who prefer their men to have more, are being unfair about those with less experience? Interested to hear your views.

How many virgin guys do you meet?

I meant that it says something about the virgin. Because men who say they're waiting for the right person are lying.

Sometimes I do feel harsh and wonder if I write off virgin guys too much but at the same time I'm trying to be honest about myself and what attracts me and I think that, ultimately, that's what is best for both parties.

Do you think women with sexual experience and who prefer their men to have more, are being unfair about those with less experience?

I meant that it says something about the virgin. Because men who say they're waiting for the right person are lying.

Of course you can speak in the behalf of all men

Maybe they're not lying as such, but are just prepared to sleep with many people BEFORE the right person comes along.

For me you always gave the impression that you demand too much and offer too little. For me, that's a person that I would avoid and probably some potential bfs might avoid you due to that reason. Probably if you drop a few standards you might be luckier and who knows, happier.

Terribly unfair. It's logical to think that the first time for a virgin will be crap. However, once this person will get enough experience they might be the best sexual partner you ever had. You said that you don't want to teach a guy to satisfy you and perhaps this is the reason you won't get an orgasm. In my opinion this teaching preconception of yours is just plain stupid. By expecting a guy to read you like a book you are definitely losing out. Men do not have the ability to read minds ffs.