[Fail Whale]

Read through my full diagnostic report the other day and there's a few parts I'm not very happy with ... there are mistakes, like saying that I studied archaeology at uni (I didn't), that I used to cut my arms (I didn't), that I carry pebbles in my pockets (I don't) and some stuff that I just don't think is relevant, like the fact that I buy furniture from Ikea. She also mentioned the subject of my "special interest" despite the fact that I said I was embarrassed about it. There was really no need for her to say specifically what it is and now it's in my medical records and everybody involved in my care can see it.
(In case you're curious, it's Spongebob Squarepants. No joke.)

[Palatial Veranda]

(Original post by Fail Whale)
(In case you're curious, it's Spongebob Squarepants. No joke.)

Hey, not an interest I share but that's alright.

I remember when I was studying for my AS levels I was fixated on Chucklevision. I couldn't revise properly for being compelled to watch and read about the Chuckle Brothers. Although I am obviously still fairly intrigued by the Chucklevision it hasn't been an enduring intense interest.

Concerning your diagnostic report, a draft copy should have been sent to you for perusal and for suggestions of any amendments or omissions. If it is your final report and the information within is wholly pertinent to your condition then I wouldn't worry yourself too much about it. The very nature of medical records is confidentiality and secrecy when applicable. It won't be being bandied around here there and everywhere. Hey, mine says some proper strange stuff from what I can remember, I think there is some part which makes reference to my interest in sexual paraphilias at that time!

[ashermj]

Hi Everyone,

First time back on The Student Room for a good while and came across this thread, so I thought it was worth introducing myself.

My name is Ashley and I've just finished my AS-Levels. I was diagnosed with Asperger's when I was 2/3, and first knew of it when I was 9. (Presumably when I was old enough to understand, I still remember being told and talking about it with my parents and the SENco). My main academic interest is Economics, the subject that I want to study at University, but not one which my school provide at A-Level :L Academic-wise, I'm pretty successful. In my GCSE's I got A*A*A*A*A*A*AABB and I'm taking six subjects at AS (dropping down to four to complete at A2). I took Maths, Further Maths, Applied Business, Geography, IT and Critical Thinking if you're curious. Though when it comes to social things, I still feel so clumsy.

When I get into a conversation, it's easy. But starting them is the problem. I just feel like I don't have any real confidence to start talking with someone/ a group, I get anxious, tongue-tied, chest tightens etc. Some days I end up loitering about at social times not knowing what to do or who to talk to, and get so frustrated with myself. Even asking for help I got scared sometimes, I'd rather stay quiet than put my hand up. However, I've gained a lot of confidence this year; I'm a member of the school paper, made a few great friendships and played a sport (hockey) on the school team for the first time Does anyone else on here feel this anxiety to talk? If so, what do you do to reduce it and thinking about it... how do you start a decent conversation face-to-face without coming across as awkward? (I know, I'm a bit of a social dunce). I just envy how other people seem to do it and make friends so easily.

Another thing with me is my memory; I can remember a vast array of information without even trying. I can name every single state of the USA, the capital cities of over 140 countries and so on. I've had a few people or so ask me in the past 'whether I know everything?', to which I didn't know how to answer bluntly; I clearly don't. It does feel good putting it to use, like helping people with Geography revision (that was a good opportunity for social interaction too).

When I try my best at something, and don't get what I want, I feel so dirty and disappointed with myself. Looking at the mark schemes on here, I think I got a B in Maths and I got into such a state about it, retakes it is How do you forget about exams and how you think you've done until results day? I just can't it out of my head.

That's me covered, hope to hear from you guys soon

[OU Student]

(Original post by ashermj)
When I get into a conversation, it's easy. But starting them is the problem. I just feel like I don't have any real confidence to start talking with someone/ a group, I get anxious, tongue-tied, chest tightens etc

Same. I'm ok if others start the conversation first. I remember meeting a friend in real life for the first time (he has Aspergers too) and it was awkward. He talks a lot and I don't. At the time, we'd know each other for several years. I am meeting him on Friday, I hope. (he doesn't seem that keen though; from his response)

[Morgsie]

I can't take it any longer. I am appalled at people's reluctance to take action. If it carries on, I may be asking for temp ban

[cpdavis]

(Original post by Morgsie)
I can't take it any longer. I am appalled at people's reluctance to take action. If it carries on, I may be asking for temp ban

what happened?


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[ashermj]

(Original post by OU Student)
Same. I'm ok if others start the conversation first. I remember meeting a friend in real life for the first time (he has Aspergers too) and it was awkward. He talks a lot and I don't. At the time, we'd know each other for several years. I am meeting him on Friday, I hope. (he doesn't seem that keen though; from his response)

One thing that makes it difficult is thinking of a subject to talk about, I want to talk, but sometimes can't think of what as I don't know some people's interests or what they want to talk about. Breaking into a group conversation is difficult as well, I can never tell the right time to speak!

I'm the only person in my school year (12) to have Asperger's. There are other people who have it in other years though I don't really talk to them. I do feel alone in that respect, in that there isn't anyone I really know like me. (Another thing that drew me to this thread, to gain an insight to other people's perspectives of having AS)

[OU Student]

(Original post by ashermj)
One thing that makes it difficult is thinking of a subject to talk about, I want to talk, but sometimes can't think of what as I don't know some people's interests or what they want to talk about. Breaking into a group conversation is difficult as well, I can never tell the right time to speak!

It's the same with me. I will happily talk about music, sports or film for hours. But, I know that isn't what everyone else wants to talk about.

[nmr1991]

I found it easy to get along with new friends when I first started secondary school, i broke up with most of them and eventually all of them, I don't think it was due to the autism or aspergers but I think we all have different interests and/or habits and thats what separates us, though I had seen my old friends (from 2 years ago) still together and talk to each other, i've fallen out of their friendship to the point where we don't talk to each other anymore and the only time I did see them is when they were in the 6th form recreation/leisure room.

Now in college, most of my class are a year below me and they find it pretty easy to bond with each other and share interests, whereas I only made small amount of friends, but I won't consider them friends just colleagues, there's always the odd annoying guy in the class who's hating on me for no apparent reason and another whos just plain odd. In my experience, I know now that I tend to make friends who are about same age as me or older, but I have the challenge of making friends when I go university and in hope that these friends will stay as friends no matter what my interests or dislikes are or what kind of person you are without judging what disability you have.

[Morgsie]

(Original post by cpdavis)
what happened?


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I was called an idiot yesterday.

[cpdavis]

(Original post by Morgsie)
I was called an idiot yesterday.

By someone on tsr? If so, don't let it get to you


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[Morgsie]

(Original post by cpdavis)
By someone on tsr? If so, don't let it get to you


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Yes and this morning I got crap in the Sub Chat box. A Sup;er Mod is investigating it all.

Looks like this is the one place I can seek refuge

[OU Student]

Hope it all gets sorted, Morgsie.

[Fail Whale]

Has anybody here had a community care assessment? In my report it says I should have one but since I live with my parents anyway I'm not sure what the point would be. It's not like I need a carer to come and wash me or something.

[louthelion]

hey guys..I was diagnosed about 4 years ago and since then i've really improved. I can now just about hold a full one on one conversation (still working on eye contact) and I am finding it easier to relate to other peoples' interests. At first my friends had no idea there was anything 'wrong' and I was too afraid/ashamed to tell them, because I didn't know how to cope with their reactions but they have stayed with me and are very patient, which I appreciate. There are only 5 of us in the friendship group which isn't too bad either. My brother is aspie too, we have a whole housefull. Hope you guys are ok.

[cpdavis]

(Original post by Morgsie)
Yes and this morning I got crap in the Sub Chat box. A Sup;er Mod is investigating it all.

Looks like this is the one place I can seek refuge

Hope that it all gets sorted soon

[Oli-Ol]

(Original post by Morgsie)
Yes and this morning I got crap in the Sub Chat box. A Sup;er Mod is investigating it all.

Looks like this is the one place I can seek refuge

I'm not going to offer you a 'hug' emoticon, not only because I find them cloying, but also because I have no desire to offer unnecessary impromptu contact over the internet to someone whom I have never met. However I offer you my sympathies and hope that you will continue to seek refuge in the company of our merry band of misfits.

[Morgsie]

Due to recent events I am taking some time out from TSR. I feel this is the safest option for me and I will return to TSR when it is safe. There are some people on here who are determined to drive me out, If I quit etc then these people have won.

[OU Student]

Take care morgsie

[avhhs]

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