[Anonymous]

Does anybody else on here have people lying about them all the time?

Ive been looking back at my life recently and I see this recuring pattern of people telling bare faced lies about me...especially to people in authority. It's as though they sense a difference in me and it sets off a reflex in their brains that means they cant help themselves. How do you handle it? Simply pointing out that it is a lie doesnt work if the authority figure shares that same reflex and wants to believe that it is true. If you complain then you just get told that you dont understand.

[morecambebay]

(Original post by Anon420)
Thinking of just giving up on a social life altogether...

Constantly get let down, people run late... obvious excuses etc. It's not just the odd person either, it's the majority of people. Especially being late and giving excuses for things.

I always do feel better alone, as I can do my own thing etc. But ever since I got diagnosed with Autism I've tried very hard socially to compensate and no know apart from my family knows I have it. But now I'm like... what the heck, I actually don't want to people in my life as they dictate and let me down all the time.

You should just make friends with other autistic people...it's simpler that way.

[OU Student]

(Original post by morecambebay)
You should just make friends with other autistic people...it's simpler that way.

Not always. I've found I argue a lot more with one of my Autistic friends. The fact that I'm obsessed with him doesn't help at all though.

[cpdavis]

(Original post by Anonymous)
2 months on and I'm still waiting for my report. Getting ridiculous now. They lost it, apparently.

That's like my assessment from my council for a pass. I sent off an application since November and every time I call give me the same excuse -_-


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[ashermj]

Had a bad day today Started off with an enrichment session supervising dodgeball with the Year 10 students in the sports hall (This was done instead of first period for some reason, and Year 12's had to supervise activities). I loathed every moment of it, flying dodgeballs, 200 people around me and the sheer amount of noise, it was as if all my senses were being overloaded. This coupled with worries over my IT work, which I'm getting really anxious over as I don't know whether to do it or Further Maths as my fourth A2, it's been on my mind for weeks.

It developed into the worst feeling as the morning progressed; my chest got so tight, felt really dizzy and I got too timid to speak. Ended up sitting on my own at break again, and snapped some rulers when no one was around. I just wanted the feeling to go away, I wanted to try to say something but it was like I was being suppressed. (It's the first time I've felt like it in months, I feel so humiliated and stupid afterwards, but I can't hold it back and snap all my stationery) :'( Does anyone else feel like this when a routine gets disturbed or placed in a new situation, and possibly how to stop it? Probably need a stress-ball or something similar as well to stop myself from breaking my pens :P

[chicagowonderland]

(Original post by Anonymous)
2 months on and I'm still waiting for my report. Getting ridiculous now. They lost it, apparently.

I just received mine today after waiting for 4 months.

[OU Student]

No idea why it keeps going on to Anon...

I was signed off sick last week due to the way I'm being mistreated by the work programme. I have just been sent a form to fill in, to assess whether I can work.

I could really do without this right now.

[suicidaloverbusiness]

I think I took someone's sarcasm literally and became quite hostile, as I thought they were taking digs at me. Now, it seems i've upset them and they've been particularly hostile back, despite offering my apologies.

[Anon420]

(Original post by suicidaloverbusiness)
I think I took someone's sarcasm literally and became quite hostile, as I thought they were taking digs at me. Now, it seems i've upset them and they've been particularly hostile back, despite offering my apologies.

Do they know about your aspergers/autism? If so then ask to them to gain a better understanding of it. If not and you don't want to tell them (I don't blame you, I tell no one outside my family about my autism, on here as I'm anon)

I generally avoid social interaction myself, in all honesty... I think i prefer it. But everyone is different, give it a couple of days and reconnect and patch things up, if you don't want them to know about your aspergers/autism, just say you were having a bad day.

[suicidaloverbusiness]

(Original post by Anon420)
Do they know about your aspergers/autism? If so then ask to them to gain a better understanding of it. If not and you don't want to tell them (I don't blame you, I tell no one outside my family about my autism, on here as I'm anon)

I generally avoid social interaction myself, in all honesty... I think i prefer it. But everyone is different, give it a couple of days and reconnect and patch things up, if you don't want them to know about your aspergers/autism, just say you were having a bad day.

We've made up and, yes, they do know about my Aspergers'. I've made a whole-hearted effort to socialise more, but, incidents like the one I mentioned tend to get me pretty low.

[Anon420]

(Original post by suicidaloverbusiness)
We've made up and, yes, they do know about my Aspergers'. I've made a whole-hearted effort to socialise more, but, incidents like the one I mentioned tend to get me pretty low.

Well if they know about it, then they should be a lot more understanding than what you've portrayed their behaviour to us on here. I don't tell people, but if I did... and I went through that, I'd wonder if my friend fully understood me and my disability.

[suicidaloverbusiness]

(Original post by Anon420)
Well if they know about it, then they should be a lot more understanding than what you've portrayed their behaviour to us on here. I don't tell people, but if I did... and I went through that, I'd wonder if my friend fully understood me and my disability.

Well, from asking advice from some understanding friends, i've reached the mutual conclusion that they're a douche. And, not exactly worth my time. Although, on the upside, they have apologised. I'm still not satisfied because I, now, have to be extra vigilant with what I say and need to understand certain connotations, which has completely deflated interesting conversations.

I rarely speak to the guy now. His loss, not mine.

[Anon420]

(Original post by suicidaloverbusiness)
Well, from asking advice from some understanding friends, i've reached the mutual conclusion that they're a douche. And, not exactly worth my time. Although, on the upside, they have apologised. I'm still not satisfied because I, now, have to be extra vigilant with what I say and need to understand certain connotations, which has completely deflated interesting conversations.

I rarely speak to the guy now. His loss, not mine.

Yeah, I used to try so hard on being social and being around people... going out, then thought to myself why?

I didn't enjoy it, majority of people aren't interested and I got let down constantly. So now I hold a few friends, but keep my distance... see them every month or so. I enjoy my own company, going to the cinema... gaming, programming, designing and photography. I often visit cities/towns around the UK by myself to take snaps and enjoy a day or two out.

Was meant to extend that to abroad this year but funds have put that on hold, being a student and all :P

In terms of social interactions, I did learn to read body language and micro expressions... so now it comes across as obvious when someone is BSing me, so that makes me annoy people even more.

[suicidaloverbusiness]

(Original post by Anon420)
Yeah, I used to try so hard on being social and being around people... going out, then thought to myself why?

I didn't enjoy it, majority of people aren't interested and I got let down constantly. So now I hold a few friends, but keep my distance... see them every month or so. I enjoy my own company, going to the cinema... gaming, programming, designing and photography. I often visit cities/towns around the UK by myself to take snaps and enjoy a day or two out.

Was meant to extend that to abroad this year but funds have put that on hold, being a student and all :P

In terms of social interactions, I did learn to read body language and micro expressions... so now it comes across as obvious when someone is BSing me, so that makes me annoy people even more.

Fair enough, you're clearly doing far more than I am.

My 18th is coming up next week and everyone is pestering me to throw a massive do, but, frankly, that's not what I want. I'd rather go out with maybe two friends i'm comfortable with and have a nice day out. Why is there always such a hype when someone turns 18. I don't even drink, so it's not like that's such a great plus factor either.

[Anon420]

(Original post by suicidaloverbusiness)
Fair enough, you're clearly doing far more than I am.

My 18th is coming up next week and everyone is pestering me to throw a massive do, but, frankly, that's not what I want. I'd rather go out with maybe two friends i'm comfortable with and have a nice day out. Why is there always such a hype when someone turns 18. I don't even drink, so it's not like that's such a great plus factor either.

Same for all big ages, 18/21/30/40 etc are all big birthdays, I never get it myself. People say age is only a number but like to celebrate them in a big way when they hit the above ages.

Nice day out with friends sounds much better, tell people that is what you want to stop trying to get you to do something you don't enjoy. It's your birthday after all. Happy birthday, mine is next week too!

[suicidaloverbusiness]

(Original post by Anon420)
Same for all big ages, 18/21/30/40 etc are all big birthdays, I never get it myself. People say age is only a number but like to celebrate them in a big way when they hit the above ages.

Nice day out with friends sounds much better, tell people that is what you want to stop trying to get you to do something you don't enjoy. It's your birthday after all. Happy birthday, mine is next week too!

Oh, happy early birthday then.

I completely understand, I think I will just have a small get together and that's about it. I don't fancy all this clubbing malarkey.

[DR20]

I have Asperger's Syndrome and recently started a forum for anyone with Aspergers or Autism.

www.spectrumforums.com

[Zottula]

(Original post by suicidaloverbusiness)
I completely understand, I think I will just have a small get together and that's about it. I don't fancy all this clubbing malarkey.

I'm the same. I'm not a fan of loud noise and crowds. Small get togethers are nice .

(Original post by DR20)
I have Asperger's Syndrome and recently started a forum for anyone with Aspergers or Autism.

www.spectrumforums.com

Will check it out.

[suicidaloverbusiness]

(Original post by Zottula)
I'm the same. I'm not a fan of loud noise and crowds. Small get togethers are nice .



Will check it out.

Indeed, I completely agree. We aspies are on the same wavelength.

[DR20]

We are a pretty new forum, so appreciate your time for looking