Hey there Sign in to join this conversationNew here? Join for free

Biggest fear when starting uni?

Announcements Posted on
    • 10 followers
    Online

    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by nm9801)
    Please believe me when I say this but you will be perfectly fine!! I'm in my first year and when I started in September I was petrified because I actually don't drink at all. You are guaranteed to find at least one person in your flat/floor who doesn't want to stay out late as well so you always have someone to come back with. During freshers week I went out clubbing, only stayed out for an hour. And now I go along to pre-drinks but just go back to my room when they go out. They're fine with it, I'm fine with it and we have good fun together. We do a movie night every week and once a month or so we have "family meals" where my whole floor gets together and each flat brings food. Clubbing and drinking is NOT the only way to make friends at uni.
    Thanks, that was exactly what I wanted to hear I know it is not impossible, I just imagine it more difficult since so many people seem to be all into clubbing and this is the way to meet people in freshers. But as you said, I'll just go for pubs and bars, meet people on my floor and in lectures and - hopefully - will be fine
    • 7 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    Having no friends, or worse, having "friends", ie people that don't actually care about you/are two faced or bitchy

    Failing the course/being totally lost with the work
    • 82 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Sir Fox)
    Not making any friends because I literally hate clubbing and getting drunk. I know there are many people like me, but normally you get to know most people in freshers' week and this is supposed to be all about getting drunk and partying until the morning ...
    Bin damit einverstanden

    But yeah, not going drinking and therefore ISOLATION, not having any friends (and I've struggled with this since I was four, so it's justified), that my boyfriend and I will grow apart, that my family will change loads and see me as an outsider
    • 10 followers
    Online

    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by such_a_lady)
    Bin damit einverstanden

    But yeah, not going drinking and therefore ISOLATION, not having any friends (and I've struggled with this since I was four, so it's justified), that my boyfriend and I will grow apart, that my family will change loads and see me as an outsider
    If all people at British unis have the same attitude you express with your avatar, I'll be perfectly fine

    But if your family will ever see you as an outsider, either you changed a lot (in a negative way) or your family is quite strange. Or probably both. Ich kenne deine Familie nicht, gehe aber mal stark davon aus, dass das nicht passieren wird
    • 4 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    Being seen as weird by housemates.
    • 0 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    Mine's that people won't like me
    • 0 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    Being alone in the crowd.

    And getting a reputation as the one who is always sick after drinks........ aha
    • 0 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    Biggest fear at the moment is getting there and realising I don't like my course.

    That and getting hallmates who are unfriendly/snobby/'morning people'
    • 0 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    I don't get why everyone's greatest fear seems to be not making friends. Shouldn't it be not keeping up with the workload? You're not spending £9k a year to make friends. You can have friends when you've got your degree.
    • 3 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    That I hate my course.
    • 15 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    that i'm going to be the only non-drinker?
    doesnt bother me to much but it would be nice not to be on my own surrounded by drunk people haha
    • 34 followers
    Online

    ReputationRep:
    My worries are that I won't have any friends, won't find anyone who likes the same sort of music as me and will make enemies purely because I am odd. u__u

    (All of those things happened when I started my new sixth form, however, overcame them within the first 3 months. Here's hoping I beat that record come September!)
    • 1 follower
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by JBateman)
    I don't get why everyone's greatest fear seems to be not making friends. Shouldn't it be not keeping up with the workload? You're not spending £9k a year to make friends. You can have friends when you've got your degree.
    Youre socially inept arent you?
    • 5 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    My biggest fear is my dad not eating properly or being unhappy. We're really close because it's just us in the house.
    • 10 followers
    Online

    ReputationRep:
    I guess the best idea would be to open a thread for every single university where all those people (me included) who are afraid to not make any friends can chat and arrange meeting each other when starting university
    • 82 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by Sir Fox)
    I guess the best idea would be to open a thread for every single university where all those people (me included) who are afraid to not make any friends can chat and arrange meeting each other when starting university
    My amazing first choice already does have that and Facebook ...aaand quite a few of us have met up in real life anyway, which is reassuring
    • 1 follower
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    I'm not worried that I won't make any friends at all, I'm just not looking forward to being lonely the first few weeks until I actually get to know some people. I won't know anybody for miles until I get close to people.

    I'm also worried that I'll get along with people, but I won't find anyone I can really be true best friends with.
    • 6 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    I'll be starting in Sep 2012 as well,
    I'm worried about being homesick as I've never lived away from family and setting my self a money budget cos at the moment I'm VERY spoilt and get anything I want
    • 1 follower
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    (Original post by JBateman)
    I don't get why everyone's greatest fear seems to be not making friends. Shouldn't it be not keeping up with the workload? You're not spending £9k a year to make friends. You can have friends when you've got your degree.
    Maybe we're all just very confident in our academic abilities :P
    • 0 followers
    Offline

    ReputationRep:
    Being somewhere different I will end up spending 3 years of my life in. That scares me the most.

Reply

Submit reply

Register

Thanks for posting! You just need to create an account in order to submit the post
  1. this can't be left blank
    that username has been taken, please choose another Forgotten your password?

    this is what you'll be called on TSR

  2. this can't be left blank
    this email is already registered. Forgotten your password?

    never shared and never spammed

  3. this can't be left blank

    6 characters or longer with both numbers and letters is safer

  4. this can't be left empty
    your full birthday is required
  1. By joining you agree to our Ts and Cs, privacy policy and site rules

  2. Slide the button to the right to create your account

    Slide to join now Processing…

Updated: April 20, 2012
New on TSR

Ways to improve university

Should university be free and harder to get in to?

Article updates
Reputation gems:
You get these gems as you gain rep from other members for making good contributions and giving helpful advice.