Anyone else having a crap time at uni?

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me 2 man me 2 sum1 i need help wiv dis urgently

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1908664

Read the original post in this thread... it's brilliant and something you should take on board indefinately.

Uni is just a challenge of your independence and mental strength... if you get through the **** times you'll come out a waaaayyyyy stronger person.

My only advice is to find a sport or hobby you really enjoy and also never take your eye off the overal goal... a degree.

Reply 22

331sam331

This thread pretty much sums up how I feel. I can really relate to you OP and I am sorry to hear you are going through what you are. I came to uni all wide eyed and wanting to change myself for the better. I have realized that I was in no way ready for university, and this environment is making me even more depressed than when I came here.

I can function OK at uni, but everything is a massive effort for me. I go out the house with a false front, just so I don't seem like the boring depressed person. Inside I am screaming and I can't wait to get back home. I get so nervous that I bite the insides of my cheeks until they are bloody. When I am not putting a front on I spend most of the time frowning without even knowing it, it's like I'm hard wired to be unhappy.

Anyway, I can't cope with uni at this point in my life. I am dropping out at the end of this academic year and going home to get help. The last few years of my life have been a complete mess, and I need to find out what I really want to do with my life.

Reply 23

Lyde

Original post by Anonymous

I'm a first year student and uni for me has been pretty crap so far. In the 4 months i've been here I haven't made any proper friends which is making me depressed as I spend most of my time in my room on my computer. I joined a few societies but failed to make any friends in these too. Also most of my flatmates are international students who stay in their rooms most of the time and mainly make friends with other international students. The worst thing is that the depression is affecting my studies. When i go out i see everyone else having the time of their lives and then there's me always on my own :frown:

Anyone else having a crap time at uni?

I'm sorry you are having a rubbish time...I have been too, but for different reasons. I've gone back as a mature student and we had to rearrange quite a lot to make it happen. I felt awful when I realised I'd made a mistake, wrong course and wrong university. I reapplied for 2012 and am starting all over again in September, but still staying on my current course for extra experience (I've been out of education for quite a while).

Can you see your GP about your depression? Perhaps move into your own place next semester? I wish I had better advice for you :redface:

Reply 24

Wave

Original post by hannahchan

- um if you're so lonely why are you glamming up your facebook? Just goes to show how false it is. Just show how your life is really like people.

Exactly. it just serves to a) make none aware that you really have a problem so you dont get support b) depressing the hell out of others who are having a crap time. I swear to god Satan coming to me and informing me I have a guaranteed place in hell as soon as I die would be less depressing than having to see another one of those ****ing "omg im such a social butterfly" facebook profiles.

I took a year out of university made no friends while there and considering whether to bother again when I return in september. I dont understand what drives people to be unfriendly. It was like banging my head against a brick wall the amount of times I invited my coursemates places, tried to strike up a conversation with them and getting the cold shoulder everytime. As for my hallmates they did stuff but just treated me as a tag along basically.

Reply 25

SoulfulBoy

Original post by Anonymous

Anyone else having a crap time at uni?

Which are you in? And why is this in mental health?

Reply 26

willbee

University is the best thing that ever happened to me. If any of you are at Aberystwyth, send me a private message and we can meet up. :smile:

If you don't like the people you live with, move halls. My friend Jess moved 4 times to combat this problem. Most people spend the majority of their spare time with the people they live with. It might take more effort to integrate now people are settled but it can be done. The problem with depression is that it makes you despondent and inactive but with a push you can do something about your situation.

If you don't like your course or uni, change next year?

All universities have support systems in place for students with depression. Reach out to people, you're at university, there will be thousands of students living around you, thousands of potential friends. And don't convince yourself that it's hopeless, that you can't enjoy university. You can, you just have to make it work for you. I go to uni and I love it. Enjoying university can be done.

Read this thread: http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?p=36237413

the OP has experienced similar problems to you, but has now resolved these issues and is integrating with a friendship group in her accommodation :biggrin:

Reply 27

DontWantYourBloodMoney

Are you a member of any clubs or societies? These are good ways to make friends, and obviously they all have their own nights out/activities which you can do as part of a group.

Reply 28

Dalejh01

you should all stop being boring, posting on tsr and go socialise with some people and make some goddamn friends.. what good is complaining on here? buy an xbox and fifa 12 and invite the lads round or whatever = problem solved.

Reply 29

hannahchan

Original post by Wave

^ this. bravo.

Reply 30

tory88

Do you not have any good friends from previously? Go and stay at their university, have them come up to yours. That should remind you that there are still people out there for you. Join a sports team, any sport, and start to socialise with them - they tend to be much more social than societies. Other than that, hang in there and keep at it. It will get easier.

Reply 31

kka25

Original post by Sabertooth

I hated university, very much felt the same as you OP. This is the only thing that got me through those 3 years.

I wish I was there in your Uni. Could have given you a good friendship :hugs:

Reply 32

rosee92

Original post by Anonymous

Yeah i'm just trying to concentrate on my studies but being depressed is making it so hard.

I wouldn't mind transferring uni but I think everyone will already be in their own friendship groups in 2nd year, so i'll probably end up in the same position.

I thought the same :frown:

Anyway good luck

It's the only thing that's keeping me going atm, and i know if i drop out i'll have nothing else to do but get a crappy minimum wage job. So i'm pretty much stuck here.

I'll look into it, but tbh i'd find it awkward talking to someone about this face to face.

I'm at Hertfordshire.

What's your plans for second year? I take it you're not living with your current flatmates, I suggest moving in with other people. If you go to the various student housing offices around the end of the summer term/ start of next academic year, you'll find lists of houses that need to replace people because they have dropped out etc. You obvs can't be too picky, but this could introduce you to lots of new people. I know people who did this, my friend's boyfriend lived with international students last year, moved in with different people for 2nd year and is having a great time now. There's always plenty of places looking for extras. good luck :smile:

Reply 33

lukarkston

life is tough, nobody needs friends, OP. get over it.

Reply 34

Mr.Scott

Hey, Im at hertfordshire uni to in my first year often find myself feeling the same im staying on De hav campus if you message me?

Reply 35

SoulfulBoy

Original post by Anonymous

Anyone else having a crap time at uni?

Which uni are you at? If it is London, Manchester, Birmingham it should be kinda of easy. :smile:

Reply 36

Srone

Original post by Anonymous

I'm at Hertfordshire.

I am at Hertfordshire, where are you staying... Halls ?

Reply 37

Nutella:3

Original post by hannahchan

- um if you're so lonely why are you glamming up your facebook? Just goes to show how false it is. Just show how your life is really like people.

It's amazing how much people can judge you based on your facebook profile though
If you have hardly any pictures of yourself on it you're considered a loner and if you don't have many posts on your wall people must not like you or you must be strange.
And don't even get me started on numbers of friends!!!