How can people think homosexuality is a choice?

Because it is better for society as a whole, it encourages people to be more understanding, it keeps marriage safe and also it can help to keep levels of HIV infections in gay people down. I wouldn't be so edgy if it wasn't for the fact the ban on gay marriage is in a precarious position at the moment and I feel society is in a much worse position now. I'd be happy if I knew gay marriage wasn't gonna be legalized and if gay adoption was banned. When you push for gay marriage it only upsets those who don't agree with it.



Why do you feel the need to provoke me like that?



I don't dislike gays. I really don't. Also, that was supposed to be a PM, if I had wanted to say it in the open, I would have put it better.

I love reactions like that happy your friend reacted in such a cool way. Slowly but surely telling more of my friends, though I feel like it's only fair to tell my parents before I tell anyone else, but I keep chickening out. I don't think they'd exactly have a problem with it, but there's still that element of irrational doubt saying they could flip haha! Also, don't really want to be known as just 'the lesbian in the sixth form', which is stupid and pretty irrational, but I never said I was a rational human being!!

I don't dislike gays. I really don't. Also, that was supposed to be a PM, if I had wanted to say it in the open, I would have put it better.

Because it is better for society as a whole, it encourages people to be more understanding, it keeps marriage safe and also it can help to keep levels of HIV infections in gay people down. I wouldn't be so edgy if it wasn't for the fact the ban on gay marriage is in a precarious position at the moment and I feel society is in a much worse position now. I'd be happy if I knew gay marriage wasn't gonna be legalized and if gay adoption was banned. When you push for gay marriage it only upsets those who don't agree with it.



Why do you feel the need to provoke me like that?



I don't dislike gays. I really don't. Also, that was supposed to be a PM, if I had wanted to say it in the open, I would have put it better.

it can help to keep levels of HIV infections in gay people down.


When you push for gay marriage it only upsets those who don't agree with it.

if it helps one of my good friends at college has been out since she was 14/15 and no one thinks twice about it, like no one defines her as "that lesbian". she's also been in a good relationship for the past 2 years.. we're in quite a middle class area too, but on the other hand there aren't many chavs.

i know it's different for everyone and depends on the people you have around you, but i think some people can surprise you even if you are expecting them to have the worst reaction ever
if someone rejects you for it then they don't deserve your company and you can do better... i know that doesn't really help much but at least you know what kind of person they really are and you don't need fairweather friends around you, it's better to have a few good friends who accept you for something that has no relation to who you are as a person.

Why do you feel the need to provoke me like that?

It's the same way that paedophilia is a choice.

So, not then. As with paedophilia you can choose to struggle with it but you can't choose to be or not to be it. But unlike paedophilia, with homosexuality there is no clear reason to strive for one thing or another.

yeah, of course you don't...

and that makes it so much better

How does BANNING something encourage more understanding, it just breeds intolerance. And how is it better for society as a whole; do you not think that it could lead to a bitterness towards politicians perhaps, for not allowing gay marriage to be legalised? Also, you are incredibly naive if you think that not legalising gay marriage will stop gay people having sex - anyway, that is beside the point, because HIV is not caused by gay people, it's because people have unprotected sex.

Provoke you? I said I'd originally intended to use a picture of me and my boyfriend, would that have provoked you? What if you'd seen us in the street, or in a bar, would that have been provoking you? The reason I see no need to censor or spoiler the picture is that it's nothing which you should expect to be shielded from if you were to walk down the street on, say, a sunny Sunday afternoon.

wut

So, not then. As with paedophilia you can choose to struggle with it but you can't choose to be or not to be it. But unlike paedophilia, with homosexuality there is no clear reason to strive for one thing or another.

I know you won't believe me when I say that I don't want to be homophobic and I don't think I am, but it's true - I really don't hate gay people.

i am still waiting to hear your factually and statistically backed up theory on how gay marriage being illegal keeps HIV rates down.... or can't you do that because it is in actual fact another thing to add to the "unfounded opinions that DYKWIA treats as facts" list?

I feel this message should be brought to peoples attention, dickwaya told me fi he had a gay child he would force it to have therapy to become straight, when told therapy is barbaic and cruel, this was his reply, the first it refers to homosexuality:

No, there's nothing wrong with it, but I wouldn't want it on a child and it's better to be straight. It would be what the child would want and it would be in the kids best interests. I care about society and I care about our futures.

Please just admit your a homophobe now and shut up

I know you won't believe me when I say that I don't want to be homophobic and I don't think I am, but it's true - I really don't hate gay people.

Gay people get on just fine without having to marry. Are you being serious? A bitterness towards politicians? I'm bitter towards those who want gay marriage legalized. HIV occurs in gay people way more often than in straight people, at least in the US. The majority of new infections are men who have sex with men.

I don't think it's right for children, who are more likely to be bullied, more likely to have a confused childhood, more likely to be gay (or maybe metro) etc.

You have equality. Also, it's clearly not about equality. Someone asked if I'd be okay with civil partnerships (with equal rights) and I said that I'd accept it if it was between that and gay marriage, yet even that wouldn't be enough for you people. You want blood, that's why.

I don't like that either. But in those cases I don't normally say anything for fear of being beaten up.


'Encircling me in gayness'. Do you know how stupid that sounds? You just want to mentally abuse me

Also, it's not that homosexuality is a blind choice, but it can be changed/influenced. I guess it is like an accent, you pick up your parents' accent but you can change it later if you want and it is influenced by genes (depth of your voice) and also how you are raised (accent and mannerisms).

with each post he makes i become more and more sure that he is just a big fat homophobe and general close minded idiot who likes to think his opinion is fact even when he can't properly defend it.

Gay people will have less gay sex. Heck, some gay people may decide to live a straight lifestyle or even go through therapy and that way they are less likely to get and spread HIV, which is very expensive to treat.