[SpicyStrawberry]

(Original post by LipstickKisses)
I have sensory issues that mean I can't tolerate certain foods. It's difficult to explain to people, so I normally just say to people I'm a 'fussy eater', I'd be quite annoyed that they think I'm just being rude when I'm honestly not.

Yeah that's probably more serious than just simply being fussy, so I now understand what you mean. Well, as I said before there's nothing wrong with letting the person know that you're intolerant to certain foods; being allergic or something is nobody's fault after all.

[lucas13]

yes, you could just tell them what you dont like before you go there.

[Beebumble]

It depends if I made someone a meal and there was something they really hated I wouldn't want them to force themselves to eat it and I wouldn't mind them just leaving that part and eating the rest of it. If they sat there and complained going "eeerrrr that's disgusting" I'd be really annoyed and if they just took a few bites out everything then were suddenly 'full up' I'd be a bit disheartened.

[The Rusty Spork]

(Original post by SpicyStrawberry)
I think we've been brought up very differently then. I think it's childish to refuse to do something because you don't like it tbh, we all have to do things we don't like doing every now and again it's life. You wouldn't refuse to do a task set by your boss at work just because you didn't feel like doing it if you didn't want to get the sack.

I'm not saying it's "your fault" you dislike the food they made you, what I'm saying is it would be impolite to refuse to eat it, you could at least make the effort to try it. You never know, they might have cooked it differently and you might find yourself liking it.

Work is completely different, that is something you have agreed to, in a contract, prior to the work being set. If I had agreed to try the food or eat it before I got there and I then point blank refused then I would be an utter **** who would be childish and impolite.
Yes we all have to do things we dislike sometimes but no that doesn't mean we should just do it all the time. The options in said situations are 'eat food I dislike and feel bad as well as make everyone else uncomfortable due to physical manifestations of this dislike. Be it vommitting, retching or taking an age to eat the food' or 'politely refusing the food, saying thanks anyway and grabbing yourself something else later on'.

I think I know which I would prefer

Tbph I would never be so selfish as to make somebody food without asking them what they wanted beforehand. Not every person is the same so they shouldn't be treated as such.

As for the food being cooked differently, tbh if you dislike fish, you dislike fish regardless of the way it has been cooked. Same with most things, if you dislike something, you dislike it. Smells and textures of certain foods can make me vomit so why would I be trying things out of politeness to then just throw up or retch at somebodys dinner table? I can still be a great and chatty guest without having to eat.

[LipstickKisses]

(Original post by Mess.)
This. I have left rooms because of just the smell of certain foods making me feel like I am going to throw up.

And because I know what I am like in terms of fussiness I will either not go to a restaurant or just find something I like on the menu if a great of friends want to go somewhere. I will never try and force them to do something just because I don't like the menu/place so I expect others to offer me the same courtesy.

So have I, sometimes just seeing it can set it off. It's horrible, and the last thing I need is someone thinking they have the moral highground over me because they happen to be lucky and not have that. I do that too, I'd never impose it on everyone else. I usually just have drinks or something plain like bread. My friends are used to it and afaik don't see it as me being snobby () or rude.

[LipstickKisses]

(Original post by SpicyStrawberry)
Yeah that's probably more serious than just simply being fussy, so I now understand what you mean. Well, as I said before there's nothing wrong with letting the person know that you're intolerant to certain foods; being allergic or something is nobody's fault after all.

It's hard to though because there's more foods I can't eat than those I can, so to people who don't understand, they tend to think it's a bit weird. Usually I just tell people not to bother cooking for me because of it, but I just don't like people thinking I'm being rude for the sake of it when it's something I can't help.

[The Rusty Spork]

(Original post by LipstickKisses)
So have I, sometimes just seeing it can set it off. It's horrible, and the last thing I need is someone thinking they have the moral highground over me because they happen to be lucky and not have that. I do that too, I'd never impose it on everyone else. I usually just have drinks or something plain like bread. My friends are used to it and afaik don't see it as me being snobby () or rude.

The snobby comment was hilarious tbh. I've heard childish and rude but never snobby!

Tbph if somebody was trying to take the moral high ground in such a situation I would just bite the thing and specifically vomit on them. If they want someone to be childish may as well live up to it whilst proving your point

[Sky_Dream]

If I were to go around someone's house and the agreement was that I was going to eat there then I would. I think it's rude to expect someone to cook an alternative for you, and I think that it's rude if the contents of the meal had been discussed before and then when you turn up you announce that you do not want to eat it. Having said that I don't think it's rude to not eat it if you have an allergy to the food, but then again if I am eating at someone's house I would assume that they knew me well enough to know if I had an allergy, or would have asked if they were using an ingredient which could cause an allergic reaction.

[LipstickKisses]

(Original post by Mess.)
The snobby comment was hilarious tbh. I've heard childish and rude but never snobby!

Tbph if somebody was trying to take the moral high ground in such a situation I would just bite the thing and specifically vomit on them. If they want someone to be childish may as well live up to it whilst proving your point

I shall actually do that the next time someone tries to force me to, can't say I didn't warn them

[Imposition]

Imagine what a p instead of an f in the title would do to this thread. That would be such a funny typo.

[SpicyStrawberry]

(Original post by Mess.)
The snobby comment was hilarious tbh. I've heard childish and rude but never snobby!

Tbph if somebody was trying to take the moral high ground in such a situation I would just bite the thing and specifically vomit on them. If they want someone to be childish may as well live up to it whilst proving your point

I'm glad I made you laugh, but there really is some people out there who are snobs about food believe it or not, e.g. turning their nose up at food that is from Farmfoods for example, how childish.

You sound pretty disgusting if you think you should vomit on someone just because they made you food you didn't like... If you have a problem with something I've said, quote me instead of moaning to others

[OU Student]

(Original post by SpicyStrawberry)
I'm not saying it's "your fault" you dislike the food they made you, what I'm saying is it would be impolite to refuse to eat it, you could at least make the effort to try it.

Why would I try something that I know I don't like?

[SpicyStrawberry]

(Original post by Mess.)
Work is completely different, that is something you have agreed to, in a contract, prior to the work being set. If I had agreed to try the food or eat it before I got there and I then point blank refused then I would be an utter **** who would be childish and impolite.
Yes we all have to do things we dislike sometimes but no that doesn't mean we should just do it all the time. The options in said situations are 'eat food I dislike and feel bad as well as make everyone else uncomfortable due to physical manifestations of this dislike. Be it vommitting, retching or taking an age to eat the food' or 'politely refusing the food, saying thanks anyway and grabbing yourself something else later on'.

I think I know which I would prefer

Tbph I would never be so selfish as to make somebody food without asking them what they wanted beforehand. Not every person is the same so they shouldn't be treated as such.

As for the food being cooked differently, tbh if you dislike fish, you dislike fish regardless of the way it has been cooked. Same with most things, if you dislike something, you dislike it. Smells and textures of certain foods can make me vomit so why would I be trying things out of politeness to then just throw up or retch at somebodys dinner table? I can still be a great and chatty guest without having to eat.

I've never heard someone be called "selfish" for taking the time out to cook someone else a meal after spending money on the ingredients.

I just think you need to broaden your horizons and grow up a little bit tbh, if you don't like something sometimes you just have to deal with it and get on with what life has dealt you. We've been brought up very differently and I can see this quite clearly; I've been told to respect what has been given to me even if I might not like it (I absolutely hate mushrooms but if I'm given a meal with them in it I'll just eat around them). I won't purposefully vomit over the person who cooked it for forgetting I hate mushrooms or throw a tantrum over it.

You seriously think someone should make separate meals for all the family according to their particular individual likes and dislikes? It's not a restaurant, it's a home, and children (and adults) should get what they're given and appreciate it. If they don't like it they should cook their own meals. It's just not practical to cook different things for everyone, and encourages people to become fussy eaters. I bet if I wasn't told to appreciate what I was given I'd be refusing to eat a lot of things but I'm thankful my parents didn't pander to my every whim.

[SpicyStrawberry]

(Original post by OU Student)
Why would I try something that I know I don't like?

If you know you don't like it you've already tried it.

[Lizia]

No, I don't think it's rude. If someone has invited you over for dinner, it's their responsibility as host to ask if there's anything you don't eat. If they ask and still serve something you don't like, it's hardly your fault.

[arbaaz]

unless you allergic to whatever they are offering, just eat the damn food - either that or spit it out into a napkin (or nearby plant) when their not looking.

[SpicyStrawberry]

(Original post by Lizia)
No, I don't think it's rude. If someone has invited you over for dinner, it's their responsibility as host to ask if there's anything you don't eat. If they ask and still serve something you don't like, it's hardly your fault.

It's hardly a "responsibility". Nothing states they have to give you something to eat, it's an offer, and you can take it or leave it. I don't see why people think as a host you should have to cook separate meals to please everyone coming.

[Lizia]

(Original post by SpicyStrawberry)
It's hardly a "responsibility". Nothing states they have to give you something to eat, it's an offer, and you can take it or leave it. I don't see why people think as a host you should have to cook separate meals to please everyone coming.

So we can take it or leave it? Emphasis on the "leave it"? Which you've repeatedly said is rude? And who mentioned anything about cooking separate meals? The question was whether it was rude to leave food if you don't like it, no one mentioned insisting you be cooked something else.

And yeah, I would say it was their responsibility. If I cooked a meal and it turned out someone didn't like it, I'd blame myself for not having asked first.

[iamapokemon]

Erm, FYI - being a vegetarian isn't the same as being a fussy eater

[SpicyStrawberry]

(Original post by Lizia)
So we can take it or leave it? Emphasis on the "leave it"? Which you've repeatedly said is rude? And who mentioned anything about cooking separate meals? The question was whether it was rude to leave food if you don't like it, no one mentioned insisting you be cooked something else.

And yeah, I would say it was their responsibility. If I cooked a meal and it turned out someone didn't like it, I'd blame myself for not having asked first.

If you know they are cooking something beforehand that you don't like, you can politely say you're allergic to it or something, however if you didn't say anything it's hardly their fault and out of politeness you should at least give it a go or eat around the things you don't like because otherwise it's a huge waste of food and time.

You people have no manners whatsoever. Do you roll your eyes at your parents when they don't buy you the right mobile phone? Woe is you.

And not really, I strongly disagree. As a host you're inviting people into your home, if the person who bought the ingredients and is cooking it loves that food then they're perfectly within their rights to serve it out. Just because you don't like something doesn't mean you can just complain and say it's the host's fault. Grow up and cook your own food if that's the case. I can't believe people actually think free food offered to you is a bad thing.