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Do you love your parents?

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    I love them both with all of my heart.

    I've put them through far too much stress and hardship over the years, the least I can do is be grateful to them. It's pretty unconditional really, at times I dislike them because of an arguement or whatever, but I know I will love them forever and always.


    ............Awwwwwwwww.
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    Hmmmm I dunno really. I do love my parents, in that I'd be upset if either of them died or if anything massively bad happened to them, but no, I don't have a huge emotional attachment to them. I wouldn't be "devastated" to the point of being non-functional, and to be honest, it wouldn't massively affect my life at all. But then, while I do like my dad, he wasn't the most emotionally available person when I was a child... and while my mum was when I was a young child - when I was 8 she went completely off the rails and became a complete train wreck. Would be a lie to say that it didn't create a permanent distance. On the other hand, it's simple biological fact that, in general, males have less attachment to their parents (and grandparents / extended family) than females do. Males are simply bilologically hardwired to be more inclined to want to "forge their own path".

    It probably doesn't mean anything about your "ability to love" at all, OP, so don't worry about it too much. I have a partner, a 2 year old and another on the way now and I'm basically obsessed with all of them :lol:. It definitely doesn't mean you'll never feel love for anyone.
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    They drive me absolutely insane (major understatement actually!) and we're not particularly close but I know they will always be here for me through thick and thin and I will be for them too. So yeah I do although I've never said it. I've had a good upbringing and I appreciate that.
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    (Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
    Do they tell you they love you?

    My husband and his mother are like that. They love each other, but they never ever say it. I remember about 5 years ago my husband had an urge to tell his mother that he loves her, and it took him about two months to pluck up the guts to tell her. When he finally told her she was flabbergasted. She said it back, and asked him if he was ill or something lol.
    They've not said it since.

    I tell my mother I love her every time I speak to her. Same for my dad. And I tell my kids (and they tell me) about 27359723598234 times a day haha. I can't imagine not telling them that I love them, or vice versa.
    Your husband has a lot of guts, more than you probably realise. I would die for my parents, but I don't think I'd ever have the courage to tell them. If it doesn't seem too much like prying, are either of your children boys?
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    I love my mum, but we're not all that close. I love my stepdad like a real father and genuinely like and respect him as well. My dad... I love but I wish I didn't, because he's kind of a dick. I said I loved him once and he just didn't say anything back.
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    Despite our ups and downs, I loved ( and still do) my parents.Neither of them are around anymore unfortunately and they are missed immensely. I never got the chance to say goodbye to them which hurts so much . I'm a parent myself now.I know my kids love me cos they're always telling me.
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    I love my mum and dad so much, I really can't think of any words to really describe how much I appreciate them. They've been there for me through everything. When my ex ended it with me last month I was in absolute pieces and I don't know what I could have done without them.
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    I have a lot of love for my dear mother, and I do love my Dad too.

    Unless they've been bad to you, I don't really see how you wouldn't love them, parental love is kind of unconditional.
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    (Original post by TheQuietOne)
    I don't really feel much for my parents.

    Any love I felt just vanished and the trust I had for them has gone. I can't find any feeling for them at all. I can't wait to leave home.
    Same here :cry2: All the love, respect and trust I had for mine is now firmly dead and buried, never to be brought up again. It's all lost.

    I don't want to sit here and start explaining, but these are the reasons why:
    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show...php?p=30457186

    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=1907161
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    (Original post by Freier._.lance)
    Your husband has a lot of guts, more than you probably realise. I would die for my parents, but I don't think I'd ever have the courage to tell them. If it doesn't seem too much like prying, are either of your children boys?
    Yep - got a 6 year old girl, 4 year old boy, 2 year old boy
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    (Original post by kka25)
    I'm sure you're a great mom and they will grow loving you even more :hugs:
    aww thanks
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    I do love them, even though they can be absolute nightmares at times, so can I
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    (Original post by Medx5)
    You're grateful for them having completed their role and this love is shown by your acknowledgment, gratefulness and appreciation of that. Thereby, you do love them.
    However, you distinguish between your sense of self and individuality and know that just because they are your parents, you do not have to follow and do everything as they wish and be them. You are not them.
    You don't expect anything from them and nor do they expect anything from you.
    You do love them, but you know that you are a separate person and you are you.
    Probably the same thing is there with me considering the fact that I am going through the 'rebellious' age. (teenager)
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    That's quite selfish, they have given you so much. There are a lot of people out there that would love parents like yours.
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    (Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
    Do they tell you they love you?


    I tell my mother I love her every time I speak to her. Same for my dad. And I tell my kids (and they tell me) about 27359723598234 times a day haha. I can't imagine not telling them that I love them, or vice versa.

    Good. Keep it up. wheeee
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    (Original post by screenager2004)
    I love my parents (and my sister) very much and would gladly die for any of them. I've got nothing but loyalty for them.
    This. I can't imagine not loving my family.
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    (Original post by Freier._.lance)
    are either of your children boys?
    Good question.
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    Yes -- I love them for the countless things they've done for me, but I can honestly say that they're just objectively wonderful people. I have a lot of respect for them and their opinions on things, and I hope they're proud of the person I'm turning out to be. I have a great relationship with my family, I get quite homesick if I go for too long without visiting home. :cry2:

    Awft, I'm all emotional now.
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    (Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
    Yep - got a 6 year old girl, 4 year old boy, 2 year old boy
    Nice. You sound like you have the perfect 'family life'. I have two nephews myself, and I sometimes feel like I have a small idea of what having children would be like.

    (Original post by Kittythecat)
    Good question.
    Thanks, lol. I thought so.
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    (Original post by Coeusful)

    I'd prefer it if I weren't cast off as an ungrateful sod because I can't love my parents when they give me everything, gave me life, etc., etc.... As I said, I am grateful for their generosity. I was just wondering if anyone else is like this. I'm marginally worried about it.


    Thanks!
    I guess if something caused problems in childhood it's likely to result in detachment. I can never find the words to say I love them tbh, even if they say that, I still don't really feel it's really true, and when I say it, it just seems unreal too and just really cheesy. - not that I don't appreciate them or what they do for me... I do appreciate it.. but I don't know. I usually get a bit guilty when they've bought me stuff and then I've never used it but thats as far as I go.

    Maybe it's because I'm just not physical in general. If someone tries to hug me I usually just tense up and end up giving them a half hearted pat on the back or simply refusing (ie. I become "paralyzed") and unable to embrace.. although it is a sweet gesture . I actually feel pretty guilty afterwards. :/.

    Hmm Im not sure.. all I can say is.. I think I understand what you mean.

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