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    Recently I have started to drift away from my 'best friends' we had loads of arguments when I had depression because I felt that they could never understand my side of the story, for example one of them went out with my ex who treated me like **** and basically said he only went out with me because I've never had a boyfriend before. Then a year later she goes out with and expects me to be fine about it because i've had a year to get over it, but it was just 2 massive confidence knocks. We made up about that but me and him attempted to be friends but with the depression I admittedly took a lot of my anger out on him. Now we don't talk, all my friends think he's amazing though and so now they make plans right in front of me but never invite me along. I started hanging out with another group and they were so supportive and we have so much more in common, but am I just over reacting about their actions?
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    Recently I have started to drift away from my 'best friends' we had loads of arguments when I had depression because I felt that they could never understand my side of the story, for example one of them went out with my ex who treated me like **** and basically said he only went out with me because I've never had a boyfriend before. Then a year later she goes out with and expects me to be fine about it because i've had a year to get over it, but it was just 2 massive confidence knocks. We made up about that but me and him attempted to be friends but with the depression I admittedly took a lot of my anger out on him. Now we don't talk, all my friends think he's amazing though and so now they make plans right in front of me but never invite me along. I started hanging out with another group and they were so supportive and we have so much more in common, but am I just over reacting about their actions?
    Your friends seem toxic, you are right to hang with the new group of friends.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Recently I have started to drift away from my 'best friends' we had loads of arguments when I had depression because I felt that they could never understand my side of the story, for example one of them went out with my ex who treated me like **** and basically said he only went out with me because I've never had a boyfriend before. Then a year later she goes out with and expects me to be fine about it because i've had a year to get over it, but it was just 2 massive confidence knocks. We made up about that but me and him attempted to be friends but with the depression I admittedly took a lot of my anger out on him. Now we don't talk, all my friends think he's amazing though and so now they make plans right in front of me but never invite me along. I started hanging out with another group and they were so supportive and we have so much more in common, but am I just over reacting about their actions?
    This is good, stick with this group of friends. I don't think you are overreacting, you seem upset. The other group of friends sound toxic so I'd cut them out if I were you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Recently I have started to drift away from my 'best friends' we had loads of arguments when I had depression because I felt that they could never understand my side of the story, for example one of them went out with my ex who treated me like **** and basically said he only went out with me because I've never had a boyfriend before. Then a year later she goes out with and expects me to be fine about it because i've had a year to get over it, but it was just 2 massive confidence knocks. We made up about that but me and him attempted to be friends but with the depression I admittedly took a lot of my anger out on him. Now we don't talk, all my friends think he's amazing though and so now they make plans right in front of me but never invite me along. I started hanging out with another group and they were so supportive and we have so much more in common, but am I just over reacting about their actions?
    It really isn't fair for so called 'best friends' to start dating someone who they knew treated you badly, and then to shower him with praise in front of you.. that's really not cool. You definitely aren't overreacting, everyone deals with things in their own way.

    If they never invite you along to things, treat you harshly, and generally aren't there for you in the way that friends should be, that can be really damaging to your self-esteem. You should hang out more with the new group, as they sound much nicer, plus you have more in common with them.

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