[bambi_eyes]

I'm really close to my brother and sister so I want three kids. But I want to have them early on because when they're grown up I want to be a foster parent

[rose.151786]

3
Two boys (twins) and one girl

[labanlieu]

I'd be more than happy with just two kids but I'd want them to be close in age. I have one brother who is nine years younger than me but most of the time I feel a mother to him more than anything else.

[Chillaxer]

(Original post by ForgettingWhatsername)
Not sure if I want children, but if I were to have any I'd have two - an only child would be lonely and three would be too much work.

Do

[Chillaxer]

(Original post by ForgettingWhatsername)
Not sure if I want children, but if I were to have any I'd have two - an only child would be lonely and three would be too much work.

Don't know why it's assumed that about onlies. I like time alone quite a lot, I have a sibling but the age and sex gap means very little relationship or talking. I'm like an only in some ways. I think an only can focus on their own dreams a lot, and put a bigger priority on forming outside relationships, which is good for them. Apparently a lot of them are quite confident too. A fair few famous actors are only children. Also, people can have a lot of responsibility to look after parents anyhow, even with siblings, and feel alone, that happens. My mum got more support from us than she did her sis looking after my gran.
I know as well that with an only, I'll still be a young enough Dad more likely, I'll have more energy left for other things, and they will have a safer, bigger financial inheritance. I'd rather that the circumstances were right and it was a happy only than just making it so I could have more in the wrong circumstances. Just my two pennies.

[PlanetTea]

(Original post by Dragonfly07)
I wouldn't like any children of my own. There are many starving children out there and I believe that using some of the earth's resources to have a child of my own for my own satisfaction would be selfishness.

I would either not have any children at all, or adopt a child from a third world country. Alternatively I'll just foster some kids.

It would be interesting to see how long this lasts before the hormones kick in. Having a baby is a really beautiful experience, its very nice that your thinking with your head and don't want to be selfish. But I suspect when your a bit older selfishness with win out.

[Dragonfly07]

(Original post by PlanetTea)
It would be interesting to see how long this lasts before the hormones kick in. Having a baby is a really beautiful experience, its very nice that your thinking with your head and don't want to be selfish. But I suspect when your a bit older selfishness with win out.

I am a bit older. I'm 21 and my hormones are at their peak. I don't think they're going to get any worse.

Plus I like to think that my logic precedes my instincts. If I were to follow my instincts I would have done some very stupid things by now.

Edit: I feel very strongly about this. So strongly in fact that other people find it scary/extreme. I can guarantee you that no hormones will be able to change my mind.

[Chillaxer]

(Original post by PlanetTea)
It would be interesting to see how long this lasts before the hormones kick in. Having a baby is a really beautiful experience, its very nice that your thinking with your head and don't want to be selfish. But I suspect when your a bit older selfishness with win out.

Having a child is selfish? To me, it's the opposite. It would risk stopping all my dreams and romantic fantasies, things that inspire me

[ummdhibun]

As many as they come

[Anna150]

At the moment I don't think i want children, or at least i would still lead a happy life if i never had children. But circumstances change and maybe in 10 years i'll think differently. If i did decide to have children I think i would seriously consider adoption.

[anniemagnificent]

NONE NONE NONE NONE

Never thought of having them, never wanted them, never been interested in them. The human race isn't going to die out any time soon so the ONLY reason to have a child is because you and your partner want one and have the love to give one and are able to look after one. Or two, or whatever.

I am a lucky lucky girl because I am in the tiny minority of women who have ever existed who have a choice in this matter. I give thanks for that every day.

[mel0n]

~4

[Apixe]

Ew children.
I will do my bit for the community and adopt cats instead.

[TRS-T]

It's not good to me an only child.

[PlanetTea]

(Original post by Dragonfly07)
I am a bit older. I'm 21 and my hormones are at their peak. I don't think they're going to get any worse.

Plus I like to think that my logic precedes my instincts. If I were to follow my instincts I would have done some very stupid things by now.

Edit: I feel very strongly about this. So strongly in fact that other people find it scary/extreme. I can guarantee you that no hormones will be able to change my mind.

I'm 21 and I don't want any children at the moment. I don't really think 21 is the hormonal peak, your desire for children can come much later in life then that. I know somebody who didn't want any until she reached her early thirties and suddenly she wanted it, a lot.

Why are you so set on having none of your own children? Is it purely because their are other children in need of parents? Because surely you could still have one of your own... Why does that make you a bad person?

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by anniemagnificent)
I am a lucky lucky girl because I am in the tiny minority of women who have ever existed who have a choice in this matter. I give thanks for that every day.

Well we all have a choice really, but many don't realise it because of societal/family/cultural expectations. Many are conditioned into believing that they will become parents one day.

For myself, in terms of wanting kids I am a little bit on the fence. My main aim in life is a have a successful career, and to totally make my life fulfilling. I am a woman but I don't think I have an obligation to become a mother. I may even adopt. But if I ever want to have kids of my own, it will be because I want kids and because I want to be a mother and because I have love to give.

[Dragonfly07]

(Original post by PlanetTea)
I'm 21 and I don't want any children at the moment. I don't really think 21 is the hormonal peak, your desire for children can come much later in life then that. I know somebody who didn't want any until she reached her early thirties and suddenly she wanted it, a lot.

Why are you so set on having none of your own children? Is it purely because their are other children in need of parents? Because surely you could still have one of your own... Why does that make you a bad person?

I personally believe that the reason people become "broody" in later life is mostly because they're either lonely or bored. I can't see any reason why it'd be due to hormones... your peak reproductivity is at around the age of 20.

I have many reasons for not wanting to have children. The ones I listed were just a few. I'm not a very healthy person and I'm very prone to anemia, so having a baby would ruin me physically. A baby would also ruin my life goal of becoming a non retiring researcher. I also just don't like the idea of a living thing being inside my womb for 9 months and leeching off me. It just doesn't sound pleasant.

I don't think you're necessarily a bad person for wanting to have children, but having children is very overrated. In fact people who have children are seen as "good" and I don't see the reason for that.

Is bringing life into this world good? Or is the good part the one where you look after them?

[Deema]

(Original post by Chillaxer)
I am genuinely interested to survey this. I want an only child, for factors like quality of life, raising them best financially and resources wise, not being too older Dad etc. Anyway, if you could just vote that'd be grand.

I'm aiming for 2, because it's a good number and they won't be lonely. But also because I wouldn't mind having 3 or 4 either but I'm allowing room for broken condoms and forgotten pills because if I aim for 3 or 4 and end up with 5 or 6 I'm ****ed.

[Cognition]

3

[twinlensreflex]

One, if not none. Not sure I'm cut out for childbirth. I'd much prefer a girl tbh.