Well I have been going out with this girl for 18 months then at the start of January she started chatting to this guy who she has know for a bit longer than me but only recently got back in contact with him. She has been very stressed at home recently and at college but I have ALWAYS been there for her.
We had a few rough patches but it was mainly us deciding what to do as a couple in say the evening, she started getting annoyed (as she lives 150 miles away and comes to visit her family who live me every other week) because when she came down I did not instantly go round there to see her and etc etc which is BS as I always made the effort to go see her as she was my life. Then things started to get really bad, she went and met this guy she had been chatting to for coffee and we both decided it was time to talk about our future.
The week that followed was just terrible, we were both in tears and upset as neither of us wanted to break up. I opened up to her fully with how I felt and I managed to get her to type how she was feeling in a word document. We ended up breaking up on the Friday which destroyed me, I went out and did some things I should not have but I get a text at 1:24am saying "Can you come outside please" So I met up with her and we were both upset crying and everything and arranged that she would pop round my house the next day for a bit for a chat.
So the next day came and we chatted and cried a lot and agreed that we would work on making it better, so she went out for the day with her dad and I stayed at home feeling better. Then when she came back we talked and sat and it was really nice, even on the Sunday it felt so normal as if everything was perfect which I thought, then she went back home 150 miles away and I was fairly happy by this time.
Then it just got mega worse, this guy she was chatting to but on twitter "Is sharing someones girlfriend and she tastes mother fuking delicious" which made me go insane, I called her up saying wtf is this and she assured me it was not to do with her but after the call he had deleted it from twitter so she lied to me then. When I got home after work I chatted to her and she said that she does not have any feelings for me anymore, so I was mega confused as within the space of a week she lost all feelings for me and has been lying to me. Then again we argued a bit on msn and text and on Tuesday I ended it between us as it was ruining me inside it was mad and she didn't even seem to care. She lied to me multiple times saying that she didn't feel for anyone else and even when I saw the proof she still denied it.
The following week she ran away from home to be with this guy she was chatting too, doing stuff with him even though all he his doing is emotional blackmailing her and manipulating her which was hurting me as she was missing college to see this guy who is pretty much scum. She felt that being with him made her feel like she was in a different life where nothing mattered and she was stress free, but she was caught in this fantasy world caused by him.
I have even told her that I was prepared to move up to be with her or change job and all she had to say to that was "You have said you will do all these things but you have yet to do any of them" which made me so upset as she clearly didn't care at all.
I have tried to get over her but I can't unlike her I can't just drop all feelings for her as I still lover her but only want the best for her as well. She is still seeing this guy but has finally seen sense and has gone back to college but its all a big mess.
I just don't know what to do, my friends say to just delete her from my life and ignore her but my heart just says keep holding on as I care for her so much. Even after what she has put me through I just want things to get back to normal, I can't even look through my Facebook photo albums as there are pictures of her I have been tagged in with her and we just look so perfect
I mean all I want is for her to be happy and do well in life but theres that human part of me which just wants her back :'(
Sorry for the wall of text I'm just so confused.
Edit: I asked her to tell me she got home safe as she was driving over 200 miles and I got a text at like 12:20 saying she got home fine which I was surprised to see. We still chat via text and msn sometimes but i don't know
Last edited by LiteCrowd; 05-03-2012 at 11:15.
In short... You're being mugged off and you haven't got the sense/confidence to realise it. She's a wrongen simple as.
(Original post by LiteCrowd)
So I have deleted her completely from my life and can't wait to see her come crawling back.
Last edited by FrostyLemon; 07-03-2012 at 11:16.