[bolly_mad]

Despite how often I see Asian girls badmouthing Asian guys on TSR, I just want to say one thing....

I LOVE ASIAN GIRLS. That silky, galaxy-chocolate brown skin drives me insane.

That is all.

[IndianDancer]

(Original post by brownicecream)
Did you neg me because i have a different opinion to you. That's nice. it would be nice if more asians had a sense of humour and stopped taking everything so personally. Brown people can be eccentric but maybe their eccentricity is diff erent to that of white people..maybe thats what she meant. why rush to conclusions.
im sorry if it sounded like i got up in your face. I just think quite a few brown people on tsr judge quite harshly and i don't think thats warranted. Maybe i hold Indians to a higher standard and from your name you sound Indian. Why not give someoen a chance before labelling her a self hater. i don't get this need to hurt other people's feelings which comes quite a bit from asians here. nothing wrong with an apology but whatever. your choice.
btw, I'm a guy. not that it should matter.

i wasn't the one that negged you. everyone judges. get over it. sense of humor? there was nothing in her post that was funny? i did give her a chance to explain and she still made it sound like that. that's how it sounded to me anyway. look....people are people at the end of the day. i just don't understand how a brown person's 'eccentricity' can be different to a white person's just because they're brown. IF the said brown person had grown up in their native country then i can sort of understand due to cultural differences and stuff. you just sound like you've made up your mind about this and are making excuses for her. hold indians to a higher standard? do you realise how patronizing that sounds? to be honest i think you making too big of a deal out of this.

[indianaussie]

(Original post by bolly_mad)
Despite how often I see Asian girls badmouthing Asian guys on TSR, I just want to say one thing....

I LOVE ASIAN GIRLS. That silky, galaxy-chocolate brown skin drives me insane.

That is all.

I would like to also say that i have heard Asian guys on here badmouthing asian women calling them slags and other disgusting words as well as playing on stereotypes such as them being more hairy. Also there are a number of tsr threads started by asian guys on how to attract white females. Very few by asian girls. So i think it does go both ways.

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show...&page=3&page=3

People are attracted to who they're attracted to and that's their choice.
Despite the badmouthing of asian girls by some asian guys i still love asian guys and they have a number of positive qualities that are overlooked even by themselves.
I do believe personality comes before looks and people should choose who they are most compatible with.

[ZizziHikaru]

(Original post by CogitoErgoSum)
If you were born here how is it sensible or logical for your parents to look for matches in pakistan? Your first language is English. Why would you not sit down and explain to them that you'd want someone born in the UK?

Don't think I haven't talked to them about it. But they have old allegiances in the village that they'd like to strengthen and use emotional blackmail to support their wishes : "your father is ill, he's getting sicker from the stress of your marriage", "your mother will kill herself", "you've already ruined your honour, don't do this to our family again" etc.

[CogitoErgoSum]

(Original post by ZizziHikaru)
Don't think I haven't talked to them about it. But they have old allegiances in the village that they'd like to strengthen and use emotional blackmail to support their wishes : "your father is ill, he's getting sicker from the stress of your marriage", "your mother will kill herself", "you've already ruined your honour, don't do this to our family again" etc.

I'm sorry to hear that. :[

[jess_888]

Just like to add that I'm Chinese, and the only boyfriends I've had are all white...
But that's just my personal preference!!

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Foo.mp3)
I like latin women too Aww, maybe one day eh

Can't blame you.Latins are extremely attractive and charming.Unfortunately , that would never happen, my parents would freak out

[mysterygirl64]

sweet jesus these types of threads just causes race riots

to answer your question: maybe it's the type of place you live in, and since you mentioned south-asian girls. well i'm one of them and the pressure to get married to someone from the same race is strong and unfortunately white boy + south-asian girl relationships don't always last long because of family issues; cultures/religion.

but i have seen these type of couples around london

i just wanted to make something clear just because a south-asian girl has lots of white friends, it doesn't mean she's all that or whatever insults some people were throwing.

because i live in a white majority area and to be honest i don't even look at people regards to their skin colour or religion. i've seen attractive guys in all races

right now i'm just waiting patiently to find my Mr.Right when i get to uni and i don't a shizzle if he doesn't turn out to be an asian guy like my family wants it to be, because i've done the service of following my culture until i get to uni: my momma's contract

[purplesnowdrops]

It's not that rare. I've seen many Asian's with white guys

My mums south Asian and my dads white...

[Anonymous]

I'd date a white man, but never a black man.

[aaavipa]

I didn't notice this thread last time, but since it's become a reasonable sized ****storm, now that I saw it, I can't help but want to join in.

The 'white guy > asian guy' people are not acknowledging various factors..

1. There's a very limited number of those types in the country. In any sample of people of any race, there are a few attractive ones, there are a larger number of average ones, and some that just aren't that nice to look at or be around. ~Attraction is more then looks after all, albiet looks do help.

It is a little unfair to talk about these sorts of things, when the samples are of such differing sizes.

I mean, as a man who likes beautiful things, the most ~sexy man I've ever 'encountered' is Jung Woo-sung. Of course, there are many that ~look better then him but there's just ~something about him. After watching ~A Moment to Remember~, I'd be lying if I said he didn't make my heart throb a little.

2. Asian men have very few male role models in the western world.

Well, it is not always the case these days*, but still. Men are born into the world not knowing a lot of things. These things are taught to them by their fathers and etc or more realistically, the other men that surround them, the ones that they see on flashy magazines and etc ~ men that they generally look up to.

* If you go to China Town for example, it's more common to see asian guys dressed stylishly exuuding confidence and etc. And at uni's and colleges I've been to it's not rare to see some asian guys copying some korean guy and dressing like them, again, exuuding confidence and self-belief.

It's the same for girls really. They buy clothes worn by 'celeb girls' because, they believe in those people and want to put themselves in their shoes. And here's a question for you, how many asian people do you see on all the media that surrounds you.

Immigrants or whatever you want to call its, have few role models so unless they are a monster*, generally they live 'smaller' lives. They are not able to push the boundaries shall we say. They won't dress up so much, or be a little more risky with their actions. Role models are a big deal. The asian girls also have it rough I might add.

* Meaning people who are able to be assertive regardless and just do whatever themselves without needing other peoples approval. Rare are these.

Anyway the important thing is, these guys then will not always be the most ~societially attractive things, because they had no role models to teach them what is ~attractive to society. These are the type that will stick to their own sort and etc.

If you think otherwise, can you honestly say that you would be able to act the way you do when surrounded by 'different people'? Where you are the minority and have very very few role models? Let's say you were brought up there as well, lacking no people to imitate and learn from, would you be as confident as you are now?

Chances are that is a no. Unless you are one of the blessed ones such as I, being an immigrant who has had no real role models (my father was a drunk gambler for most of my young life) yet has always been loved regardless of race or whatever. I've had girls of all types fight over me, I can befriend who ever, I can adapt to whatever situation.

It's tough, being awesome.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KozJ0Wlqkd8

[brazilll]

(aavipa btw - think i got blocked or hellbanned so i changed my proxy)
(am just saying I'm me, because then I can reread this and think of how great I am)

I didn't notice this thread last time, but since it's become a reasonable sized ****storm, now that I saw it, I can't help but want to join in.

The 'white guy > asian guy' people are not acknowledging various factors..

1. There's a very limited number of those types in the country. In any sample of people of any race, there are a few attractive ones, there are a larger number of average ones, and some that just aren't that nice to look at or be around. ~Attraction is more then looks after all, albiet looks do help.

It is a little unfair to talk about these sorts of things, when the samples are of such differing sizes.

I mean, as a man who likes beautiful things, the most ~sexy man I've ever 'encountered' is Jung Woo-sung. Of course, there are many that ~look better then him but there's just ~something about him. After watching ~A Moment to Remember~, I'd be lying if I said he didn't make my heart throb a little.

2. Asian men have very few male role models in the western world.

Well, it is not always the case these days*, but still. Men are born into the world not knowing a lot of things. These things are taught to them by their fathers and etc or more realistically, the other men that surround them, the ones that they see on flashy magazines and etc ~ men that they generally look up to.

* If you go to China Town for example, it's more common to see asian guys dressed stylishly exuuding confidence and etc. And at uni's and colleges I've been to it's not rare to see some asian guys copying some korean guy and dressing like them, again, exuuding confidence and self-belief.

It's the same for girls really. They buy clothes worn by 'celeb girls' because, they believe in those people and want to put themselves in their shoes. And here's a question for you, how many asian people do you see on all the media that surrounds you.

Immigrants or whatever you want to call its, have few role models so unless they are a monster*, generally they live 'smaller' lives. They are not able to push the boundaries shall we say. They won't dress up so much, or be a little more risky with their actions. Role models are a big deal. The asian girls also have it rough I might add.

* Meaning people who are able to be assertive regardless and just do whatever themselves without needing other peoples approval. Rare are these.

Anyway the important thing is, these guys then will not always be the most ~societially attractive things, because they had no role models to teach them what is ~attractive to society. These are the type that will stick to their own sort and etc.

If you think otherwise, can you honestly say that you would be able to act the way you do when surrounded by 'different people'? Where you are the minority and have very very few role models? Let's say you were brought up there as well, lacking no people to imitate and learn from, would you be as confident as you are now?

Chances are that is a no.

Unless you are one of the blessed ones such as I, being an immigrant who has had no real role models (my father was a bastard for most of my young life) yet has always been loved regardless of race or whatever. I've had girls of all types fight over me, I can befriend who ever, I can adapt to whatever situation.

It's tough, being awesome.

[brazilll]

Also, it seems I was probably hellbanned or something like that. F U moderators. Continue living your worthless lives why don't you.

UK ~ the land of the average at most.

[TheDubs]

Its not that uncommon. Long may this glorious tradition exist!

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by ZizziHikaru)
Don't think I haven't talked to them about it. But they have old allegiances in the village that they'd like to strengthen and use emotional blackmail to support their wishes : "your father is ill, he's getting sicker from the stress of your marriage", "your mother will kill herself", "you've already ruined your honour, don't do this to our family again" etc.

Oh dear who'd want family like that????

[Ray Barone]

(Original post by nevertoomuch)
I am actually surprised when I see a Asian female with an White guy, it's very rare.

Asian girls - you just don't know what you're missing.

I'm assuming you mean Pakistani. Well if they went out with a white fella then their dad, uncles and brothers wouldn't be very happy to say the least.

[bolly_mad]

Asian men have very few male role models in the western world.

Well, it is not always the case these days*, but still. Men are born into the world not knowing a lot of things. These things are taught to them by their fathers and etc or more realistically, the other men that surround them, the ones that they see on flashy magazines and etc ~ men that they generally look up to.

It's the same for girls really. They buy clothes worn by 'celeb girls' because, they believe in those people and want to put themselves in their shoes. And here's a question for you, how many asian people do you see on all the media that surrounds you.

Immigrants or whatever you want to call its, have few role models so unless they are a monster*, generally they live 'smaller' lives. They are not able to push the boundaries shall we say. They won't dress up so much, or be a little more risky with their actions. Role models are a big deal. The asian girls also have it rough I might add.

Anyway the important thing is, these guys then will not always be the most ~societially attractive things, because they had no role models to teach them what is ~attractive to society. These are the type that will stick to their own sort and etc.

If you think otherwise, can you honestly say that you would be able to act the way you do when surrounded by 'different people'? Where you are the minority and have very very few role models? Let's say you were brought up there as well, lacking no people to imitate and learn from, would you be as confident as you are now?

True that Asians (by Asian I mean Indian/Pakistani, etc) don't have that many role models in the Western world, but they do have a few - Jay Sean, Amir Khan, Sendhil Ramamurthy.

But don't forget that many Asians do not solely take influence from Hollywood/British media. They also take influence from Bollywood, Asian music scene, etc. Bollywood provides Asians with the central/leading role/positive representation that Western media does not. Hence why Bollywood is popular amongst South Asian communities in Western Countries (and growing more popular in other territories in Asia, the Middle-east, UAE, even Russia).

This is despite them being surrounded with a Western media overwhelmingly (and understandably) depicting 'White people'' as the center of everything and Asians on the fringe/othered. Bollywood offers Asians the representation of being 'central'. This can give Asians confidence in positive representation and does influence their attitudes/actions. I and many of my male, Indian-origin friends are fit, toned and keep ourselves in top shape, why, because of Gerard Butler? No, because of all the buff, toned Bollywood actors we see nowadays in Bollywood movies. I'll be honest, personally I've found myself seeking to emulate some of Shahrukh Khan's hairstyles, but never Brad Pitt's or David Beckham's.

And believe it or not, not all Indian men are creepy, mummy-boys who use girls for sex until we get an arranged marriage. Some of us have been influenced by Bollywood's positive depictions of relationships and how to treat women. We don't need to be affected in real life by Hollywood's/British media's ignorant depiction of us. We have our own movie industry to depict us in a much more flattering light. This gives us the confidence to be the best men we can be, and although that confidence is mainly directed at women in our own community, it doesn't make us any less confident when interacting with women from other communities.

Thank goodness for Bollywood.

EDIT: Quoted wrong guy.

[Anonymous]

I believe that this type of couples are really rare, many people find there own ethnic race attractive and tend not to be attracted to others because it would be hard to have a proper relationship. I don't think it matters.. people have the right to chose who they want to be with regardless of religious beliefs. Speaking from a relationship where this type of couple is present i think it is one of the hardest things, it is not easy maintaining a relationship that is not accepted. Too many people worry about what other people think and it's wrong.

[paniking_and_not_revising]

Gee, some people on here need to chill and accept everyone has a different idea of what is attractive.

[Boogaloo_Shrimp]

Ahh it seems these threads will never die down.

IMO we're attracted to individuals, not races. I don't like asian men in particular, but my current boyfriend is indian and he is very attractive to me