[Anonymous]

I really like this guy, and I want to tell him how I feel.

BUT is it best to wait for him to make a move?

What do guys think about girls telling them that they have feelings for them?

And girls would you ever make the first move?

[trapzbrah]

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[gingerben]

i think if you like him tell him
its no big deal who tells who so if you need to tell him then do it

[SweetsAndSugar]

It's probably better to show him you like him rather than telling him outright. You can always backtrack if you test the waters first, so to speak, and avoid potentialy damaging your friendship. If you dive in the deep end and spill your feelings, and he doesn't feel the same, your friendship may become awkward.
So drop hints (if he responds then make them slightly more obvious each time), and take it from there.
Best of luck

[Anonymous]

(Original post by SweetsAndSugar)
So drop hints (if he responds then make them slightly more obvious each time), and take it from there.
Best of luck

What type of things could be hints?
Thanks!

[Pink Gravy]

I wouldn't tell a guy personally. I would make it obvious so that he knows when to make the move.

e.g touching him, smiling at him, saying his name often, asking for help often, just things like that

[SweetsAndSugar]

(Original post by Anonymous)
What type of things could be hints?
Thanks!

You know, just subtle flirting. If he says something funny, laugh (laugh a little more than normal but not in an ott kinda way) and lightly touch his arm, if you go out for a drink sometime or happen to be drinking with him do the whole 'playing with the rim of your glass' thing and look up at him through your eyelashes with a doe-eyed look, lightly brush your hand on his arm, etc.
Gage his reaction after each one though, and only keep it up if you see him responding.
Hopefully he'll get the idea and take it from there if he likes you back.

[Zenmatters]

A good hint is texting him, or if you want to be more personal ask him in private, "So I thought it'd be nice if we could do something together, maybe go see "x" at the cinema because I've been waiting to see it and I think you'l like it." If he goes with you make sure you're constantly close to him, maybe make physical contact a few times? Erm, if he offers you a hug before you part then hold it for as long as possible.

Try to talk or zone in on him more than any other guy?
Give him a pet name, something that links you both?
Organise more stuff where it's just you two, or if you go out with your group of friends then pair up with him, he'l get the message.

If you get very close with him, but he's quite shy, just tell him, but do it in person, or else he might think it's a joke. That's what i did and I missed out big time.

[Mamiya]

I kinda disagree with most of the posts here.It really depends on the guy.(Many of my male friends have said they'd prefer the girls to make the first move.)
I've made the first move with a few guys and I find I prefer being the "chaser" as I'm sorta in control (to an extent).But I do think you shouldn't be TOO forward as that can put some guys off.

[dgeorge]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I really like this guy, and I want to tell him how I feel.

BUT is it best to wait for him to make a move?

What do guys think about girls telling them that they have feelings for them?

And girls would you ever make the first move?

Seriously, what do you have to lose?

You tell him you like him, he does too, you can get things going.

You tell him you like him, he doesn't feel the same way, then you know you can move on

Win-win

[Anonymous]

Hi guys
With exams and everything I kind of haven't seen him as much, but we recently re connected so I've decided to reply properly because I still want to pursue the situation .

(Original post by gingerben)
i think if you like him tell him
its no big deal who tells who so if you need to tell him then do it

How would you like to be told? Would you prefer a girl to initiate things?

(Original post by SweetsAndSugar)
If you dive in the deep end and spill your feelings, and he doesn't feel the same, your friendship may become awkward.

Yes that's what I'm afraid of :/ thanks for the advice

(Original post by Pink Gravy)
I wouldn't tell a guy personally. I would make it obvious so that he knows

Yeah but I don't seem to be getting a response :/

(Original post by Zenmatters)
A good hint is texting him, or if you want to be more personal ask him in private

Yeah I'd love to go on a date, but I just don't know how to bring it up, because in person we are never really alone :/

(Original post by Mamiya)
I kinda disagree with most of the posts here.It really depends on the guy.(Many of my male friends have said they'd prefer the girls to make the first move.)
I've made the first move with a few guys and I find I prefer being the "chaser" as I'm sorta in control (to an extent).But I do think you shouldn't be TOO forward as that can put some guys off.

Yes I prefer being the chaser too, yeah I think I need to find a balance

(Original post by dgeorge)
Seriously, what do you have to lose?

You tell him you like him, he does too, you can get things going.

You tell him you like him, he doesn't feel the same way, then you know you can move on

Win-win

Yes but I guess I just don't want to get hurt at the end of it :/

[Flying_Manboobs]

(Original post by SweetsAndSugar)
It's probably better to show him you like him rather than telling him outright. You can always backtrack if you test the waters first, so to speak, and avoid potentialy damaging your friendship. If you dive in the deep end and spill your feelings, and he doesn't feel the same, your friendship may become awkward.
So drop hints (if he responds then make them slightly more obvious each time), and take it from there.
Best of luck

WRONG WRONG WRONG!!!! Guys are stupid. We cant recognise subtle hints. Especially from girls as they are confusing and scary at the best of times

If you like him tell him.

If he doesnt like you back then it wont be awkward if you dont allow it to be awkward.

[gingerben]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Hi guys
With exams and everything I kind of haven't seen him as much, but we recently re connected so I've decided to reply properly because I still want to pursue the situation .


How would you like to be told? Would you prefer a girl to initiate things?

i think if you just told him, dont mess about with games just be honest about what you feel and want

[Studentus-anonymous]

Flirt with him.

[aspirinpharmacist]

Yes, do it. 100%. Believe me when I say that waiting for the guy to make a move is a colossally idiotic plan.

[aftrglw]

Don't tell him. It's usually just awkward and won't accomplish what you're hoping it will because usually you tell him you like him, and even if he likes you too, you're kinda left wondering where to go from there. Unless he kisses you right afterwards or something, it'll be awkward. You have two real options that involve you taking the initiative: ask him out or kiss him, but don't tell him you like him. Try to find a way to somehow isolate him (that sounds a bit date-rapey, but you know what I mean) and either suggest doing something with just the two of you or if you're brave... just kiss him and see what happens. With my ex, we'd lived across the hall for awhile and I went out drinking with her flatmates one night. As I left their flat after our night out she just came with me, pushed me against the wall as soon as we were out of sight of her flatmates, and kissed me. I didn't really like her at the time because I didn't really know her(she was cute, but that's all), but after that one thing lead to another and we dated for a year... and I had a lot of respect for her forwardness. You don't have to be that forward, (maybe be slower to pull away from a goodbye hug and then lean in) but it's definitely a worthy strategy. The point is, don't just tell him and also, try to take things slow... I know many guys who try to pretend they don't know a girl likes them when they want to get laid, and that just leads to drama and broken hearts. Good luck!

[gtfcmariner]

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[Anonymous]

(Original post by Flying_Manboobs)
If you like him tell him.
If he doesnt like you back then it wont be awkward if you dont allow it to be awkward.

To be honest I think I may of made it obvious I like him, and he hasn't said anything to me since we last spoke at last weekend, but then again maybe he's just waiting til we next see eachother?

[Anonymous]

(Original post by gingerben)
i think if you just told him, dont mess about with games just be honest about what you feel and want

Yeah, but its just finding the right time, I'd love to meet up over coffee or something but I just don't think it will happen.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Studentus-anonymous)
Flirt with him.

Most of the time when he flirts with me I never really know how serious he is being so I never want to show my true feelings.