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    (Original post by yothi5)
    The teenage girl and her partner cannot afford to buy their baby nappies or milk. That's a denying it love, care and a safe and healthy environment to grow up.

    Well, as a ball of cells, I wouldn't know, would I?
    No you wouldn't and if they did you wouldn't exist.

    Your essentially saying someone should decide to deny a baby a life because it may not have the best life. Thats quite a bias view.
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    I feel that many of the posts on here are very harsh. Nobody knows the OP and nobody can say what type of a mother she will be. Hats off to you OP for being mature about this and trying to find out information that is important to find out now, rather than in a few months time. To me that demonstrates above all else that you are trying to work out the future for you and your baby, and trying to do what is best for them.

    You may find some useful info here: http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_ad...ring_pregnancy

    or try contacting your local council to see what help you may be able to get. You should be able to put your name on a list for council housing.

    And to those harping on about tax-payers money, I am assuming that you've never used NHS services, or attended a state school, or gone to university etc etc?
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    (Original post by yothi5)
    The teenage girl and her partner cannot afford to buy their baby nappies or milk. That's a denying it love, care and a safe and healthy environment to grow up.

    Well, as a ball of cells, I wouldn't know, would I?
    Well as long as it's done early on abortion is fine by me
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    Have you seriously considered the impact of having a baby when you can't afford it? Would you be open to adoption?
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    (Original post by DdotT)
    No you wouldn't and if they did you wouldn't exist.

    Your essentially saying someone should decide to deny a baby a life because it may not have the best life. Thats quite a bias view.
    It's not a biasED view. It is the correct view. I suggest you know how to use your/you're and look up what 'bias' is meant.
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    (Original post by Emmaleuk)
    I feel that many of the posts on here are very harsh. Nobody knows the OP and nobody can say what type of a mother she will be. Hats off to you OP for being mature about this and trying to find out information that is important to find out now, rather than in a few months time. To me that demonstrates above all else that you are trying to work out the future for you and your baby, and trying to do what is best for them.

    You may find some useful info here: http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_ad...ring_pregnancy

    or try contacting your local council to see what help you may be able to get. You should be able to put your name on a list for council housing.

    And to those harping on about tax-payers money, I am assuming that you've never used NHS services, or attended a state school, or gone to university etc etc?
    The OP is asking for what benefits she can claim, when she could have quite easily prevented her situation. Contraception and emergency contraception is free.
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    (Original post by yothi5)
    It's not a biasED view. It is the correct view. I suggest you know how to use your/you're and look up what 'bias' is meant.
    heh
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    (Original post by yothi5)
    The OP is asking for what benefits she can claim, when she could have quite easily prevented her situation. Contraception and emergency contraception is free.
    Agreed. Our local Sainsbury's even offers free emergency contraception, for Christ's sake. What more do you want? Condom deliveries to your door when you feel up for it?... What's wrong with the pill? The injection? The implant? Abstinance?!
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    (Original post by Leighcakes)
    Agreed. Our local Sainsbury's even offers free emergency contraception, for Christ's sake. What more do you want? Condom deliveries to your door when you feel up for it?... What's wrong with the pill? The injection? The implant? Abstinance?!
    Haha so just another assumption that I wasn't using birth control, as other posts have said none are 100%!! I know 5/6/7 people who have had the implant and still got pregnant with it! I have not once stated that I never used a condom or whatever.

    Thanks for serious replies. I am doing the best I can...I can guarentee most 18 year old mothers are claiming the benefits that they are entitled to so why not me? You have no right to judge me when you don't know the slightest. I had plans to go to university this September... accidents do happen!!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know 5/6/7 people who have had the implant and still got pregnant with it!
    Well that's hardly surprising :

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/ar...rol-fails.html
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    Hey
    My friend was a teen mum. She had a boyfriend who was working full time, and she had college, so they lived separately in different towns. She was registered as a single mum (though her boyfriend was supporting her financially and emotionally), and with all respect, she used to get s*** loads of money!!! I thought it was really unfair. She always had really expensive clothes, got absolutely EVERYTHING from the government. And me, who actually had a job and didn't have a baby couldn't afford all the things that she had.

    So, don't worry... You'll be fine. Good luck.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Haha so just another assumption that I wasn't using birth control, as other posts have said none are 100%!! I know 5/6/7 people who have had the implant and still got pregnant with it! I have not once stated that I never used a condom or whatever.
    Some people use both because, as accidents do happen, it's good to have a back up and know that they can't look after a child atm. Shocking I know.
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    When your midwife visits you to make your booking appointment which will be before your 12 week scan, she will give you a leaflet (if not, ask for one) which will show what benefits you may be entitled to, as well as a section on budgeting for a baby. If you live in England, you should also be entitled to free doctor's prescriptions andfree dental treatment. Depending on what you and your partner/family earn, you may be able to claim free milk and vitamins, as well as free fruit and veg. Ask your midwife.
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    (Original post by yothi5)
    The teenage girl and her partner cannot afford to buy their baby nappies or milk. That's a denying it love, care and a safe and healthy environment to grow up.

    Well, as a ball of cells, I wouldn't know, would I?
    Breast milk is free, and depending on financial circumstances, (most, if not all, teenage mums qualify for this according to my trust) mothers can claim free milk, and get vouchers for nappies. Or use reusable nappies - that would just mean having to wash.
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    (Original post by Goody2Shoes-x)
    Breast milk is free, and depending on financial circumstances, (most, if not all, teenage mums qualify for this according to my trust) mothers can claim free milk, and get vouchers for nappies. Or use reusable nappies - that would just mean having to wash.
    Well then, this OP won't need benefits! But from her first post, it doesn't like she is prepared to use her breasts or wash soiled nappies though.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Haha so just another assumption that I wasn't using birth control, as other posts have said none are 100%!! I know 5/6/7 people who have had the implant and still got pregnant with it! I have not once stated that I never used a condom or whatever.
    So why did you choose to stick with just that, then? Surely if you know so many people that've become pregnant while using it that's kind of a sign to, you know, switch? Or even just use a condom too...?
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    Jesus, talk about being harsh on the OP. Good on you for asking the questions (Especially in an environment like this full of adolescent hormones trying to take the moral ****ing high ground all of the time). Somebody posted a link with details of what you're entitled to I believe.
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    On most forums there would be a lot of posters banned by now. OP, maybe try asking in a pregnancy forum? Also helpful to pick up tips besides money-saving ones. No need to give up on university, you could go next year instead. Unis tend to be very understanding and loads of them have heavily subsidised creches for staff and students. Really worth looking into.
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    It's not my choice and people are being quite harsh in here but i do agree with them. I would strongly suggest that you get an abortion and go to university. You might be against it, but this is unplanned so i would never rule it out.

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