[ColourDog]

Ok, so a lots happened in my life recently, and really trying to stay positive. I won't go into detail about everything, but I will brief you on why I created this thread.
A friend of mine had to be cut out of her clothes and car on Monday evening as she had a fatal car crash. She's had to have stitches put into her face where her glasses smashed into her, has fractured her skull, has possible brain damage, the fluid around her brain is leaking out of her ears, she's currently death, blind in one eye and has numerous broken bones. I'm not going into any more details because it's horrendous and I don't want to talk about it, but the point is, it really puts life into perspective?
These days everyone is so negative when really, we all need to try and share a bit more positivity as, lets face it, with most of us, our day-to-day problems could be worse?
As an individual, I know I sometimes get lost in my own little stress head and don't put things into perspective when I really should. I aspire to be a positive person because the power of thinking positively is incredible and, I believe, it really adds a spark to your life and personality.

I know this is constructed completely wrong, and it probably is coming across completely how I don't want it to, but I hope you can get half of the message I wanted to get across. I care for my friend (she isn't a close friend, but a childhood friend who I still see on a day to day basis) and I have my fingers, toes and everything else crossed in the hope she fully recovers and is back to her old bouncy self.

I think one moral you can take from this is: 'Learn to appreciate what you have, before time makes you appreciate what you had.'

[TheGrandmaster]

When life gives you lemons squeeze the juice into your eyes to show life you're not ****ing about.

[GeorgetheAug]

Yeah, make life take the lemons back!
Demand to see life's manager!
Get mad!
Make life rue the day it tried to give you lemons!
etc.


Alright guys I got rid of the CJ jokes for you, continue with your intelligent discussion. My work here is done.

[the666thmessiah]

When life gives you lemon's... I say **** the lemon's and bail.

[Endless Blue]

When life gives you lemons, keep them because hey, free lemons!

[neverlander¾]

...have a tequila shot.

EDIT: 2 people dont like tequila shots.

[sophia_]

Pain and suffering is subjective depending on the individual.

Yes, you could (by you, I mean a person in general) think that your problems could be 'worse', but then again, they could be a hell of a lot better. Sorry to put a downer on things.

I mean, a broken bone to one person can seem like the end of their world. The end of a two month relationship can actually drive somebody to the end of their life because of their own 'perspective'

I personally have always comforted myself by thinking that no matter what I am suffering with, somebody else will be going through something worse and so I should be grateful.. But then again, is that accurate? My pain may be just as bad, regardless of the actual circumstances or unfortunate events. It's about how the individual is as a person, not the actual thing that is causing pain/hurt that dictates the amount of suffering one inherits from their problems.

I'm not saying that what your friend is going through is not a horrible horrible thing for somebody to have to experience and I hope she gets better. I'm also very glad that you're taking a bad occurrence and trying to learn something positive, but I still hold my own opinion.

So I say- when life gives you lemons, make your own lemonade and stay away from the temptation of thinking about what everyone else's tastes like.

[rac1]

make a cheescake
a sorbet
a parfait
some curd (yes that was a c not a 't')
a muffin
a meringue pie

good luck to your friend

[Dr Good Manners]

.....give life melons.

I like how half the reponses so far (including my own) are completely useless. Tee hee

[Lamps08]

(Original post by TheGrandmaster)
When life gives you lemons squeeze the juice into your eyes to show life you're not ****ing about.

Haha, that's beautiful

[Dr Good Manners]

Yikes. I just read the post properly. I feel like a bellend for my flippant post now But I agree with you OP. I was thinking earlier that I may think sections of my life are bad and being resentful of not having certain things or attributes, but I should be greatful for the few small mercies that I do have and to not take those things for granted. Its so easy to forget things like sight, a job, a home, life itself can disappear so easily and we are so fortunate to have them all.

I sincerely hope your friend pulls though.

[yomomalomo]

When life gives you lemons... BECOME LEMON!

No, but seriously, having as optimistic attitude is never a bad thing. We should always hope for the best but expect the worst. I do hope your friend gets better and whatever the final outcome, that you take the positives from your relationship and try to build upon it.

[advent2]

(Original post by ColourDog)
Ok, so a lots happened in my life recently, and really trying to stay positive. I won't go into detail about everything, but I will brief you on why I created this thread.
A friend of mine had to be cut out of her clothes and car on Monday evening as she had a fatal car crash. She's had to have stitches put into her face where her glasses smashed into her, has fractured her skull, has possible brain damage, the fluid around her brain is leaking out of her ears, she's currently death, blind in one eye and has numerous broken bones. I'm not going into any more details because it's horrendous and I don't want to talk about it, but the point is, it really puts life into perspective?
These days everyone is so negative when really, we all need to try and share a bit more positivity as, lets face it, with most of us, our day-to-day problems could be worse?
As an individual, I know I sometimes get lost in my own little stress head and don't put things into perspective when I really should. I aspire to be a positive person because the power of thinking positively is incredible and, I believe, it really adds a spark to your life and personality.

I know this is constructed completely wrong, and it probably is coming across completely how I don't want it to, but I hope you can get half of the message I wanted to get across. I care for my friend (she isn't a close friend, but a childhood friend who I still see on a day to day basis) and I have my fingers, toes and everything else crossed in the hope she fully recovers and is back to her old bouncy self.

I think one moral you can take from this is: 'Learn to appreciate what you have, before time makes you appreciate what you had.'

I'm sorry to hear about your friend and I agree with the sentiment of the thread.

We can't always control what happens to us in life but we can control how we react to adversity. A book recommended by several self-help authors is 'Man's search for meaning' by Vicktor E Frankl-that was a guy who took something positive out of his experiences of being in a Nazi concentration camp.

In my own life, every negative experience I have had has been an absolute blessing. My dad died when I was 16 years of age. I didn't want him to die but sometimes in life you have to make the best of a bad situation. In hindsight, I can see that if he did not die, I could never have afforded going to university. (I wouldn't have received the full student loan because of his earnings.) Going to uni was something he always wanted for me and I graduated in 2008 with a Law degree. He wasn't there to see it but I know if he was alive, he would be crazy with happiness and pride.

I also wouldn't have met my step father had he not died and he had a big influence on my life and directly and indirectly contributed to a lot of great memories in my life.

In 2002 I failed two medicals for the Royal Navy which was my dream job at the time and the only career I ever felt passionate about. It was a huge blow for me at the time but in hindsight I am glad that I failed them because it set me on a path in life which has led to me achieving so many things and having so many experiences which I wouldn't have had, had I joined the forces.

Perhaps the most dramatic example is getting attacked. In 2006 I was mugged and left temporarily blind in one eye (traumatic angle recession-you can google the images) and with 4 stitches in my head. In 2007 I was attacked again and had a small crack on my skull and my face completely bust up. I was drinking out of a straw for a few days. I always say that getting my head stamped on (it left a footprint on my forehead) was the best thing that ever happened to me and I'm serious.

At the time I was living my life in fear on a daily basis and even wore a bullet proof vest for stab protection. To cut a long story short, getting jumped inspired me to overcome my fears and that transformed every single area of my life and it also made me more streetwise. It led me on a path which meant I got to meet my personal heroe last year, the guy whose books and advice literally saved my life and changed it on so many levels. It made me who I am today. My character has been forged in the fires of adversity.

Last Sunday I ran a 10k race in my town and there was a soldier running that race, he had both his legs and one arm blown off in Afghanistan. The guy who organised the race has an incurable form of Cancer and has won an MBE for all the money he raises for charity. There was a 70 year old woman running the race and she finished in a time better than most people.

Adversity only beats you if you let it. Helen Keller was deaf and blind but that didn't stop her achieving things in life.

I pray for adversity because it makes me stronger and I know ultimately it will bring positive things in to my life. 'The iron ore feels itself needlessly tortured as it enters the furnace. The tempered blade looks back and knows better.'

[Pitt1988]

When life gives you lemons, you've got celebrity juice! Happy days.

[-silverfox-]

when life gives you lemons... throw them back at life see if life will make the same mistake again

[Miracle Day]

When life gives you lemons .. ask for limes instead.

[12sophie]

When life hands you lemons......squeeze out a smile x

[ilovelabradors]

I am sorry about your friend and hope she gets better as soon as possible.

Yes, we should try to be positive and not worry too much, finding a balance...

[Blazara]

(Original post by ColourDog)
Ok, so a lots happened in my life recently, and really trying to stay positive. I won't go into detail about everything, but I will brief you on why I created this thread.
A friend of mine had to be cut out of her clothes and car on Monday evening as she had a fatal car crash. She's had to have stitches put into her face where her glasses smashed into her, has fractured her skull, has possible brain damage, the fluid around her brain is leaking out of her ears, she's currently death, blind in one eye and has numerous broken bones. I'm not going into any more details because it's horrendous and I don't want to talk about it, but the point is, it really puts life into perspective?
These days everyone is so negative when really, we all need to try and share a bit more positivity as, lets face it, with most of us, our day-to-day problems could be worse?
As an individual, I know I sometimes get lost in my own little stress head and don't put things into perspective when I really should. I aspire to be a positive person because the power of thinking positively is incredible and, I believe, it really adds a spark to your life and personality.

I know this is constructed completely wrong, and it probably is coming across completely how I don't want it to, but I hope you can get half of the message I wanted to get across. I care for my friend (she isn't a close friend, but a childhood friend who I still see on a day to day basis) and I have my fingers, toes and everything else crossed in the hope she fully recovers and is back to her old bouncy self.

I think one moral you can take from this is: 'Learn to appreciate what you have, before time makes you appreciate what you had.'

If life has given you a penis you can cross you can make way more than lemonade.

[Lil2wkd]

You clone those lemons and make SUPERLEMONS!