[Kibalchich]

(Original post by AverageExcellence)
Those nanny'ing shows are clearly scripted and dont reflect true reality. You dont solve a lifetime of a child's problems in a weekend with some foolish sitting on step rules the like. Spanking can be used to assert authority, it doesnt have to be the first resort, only when children show blatant disrespect and ignore the less physical methods deliberately.

if you're a crap parent, yeah

[AverageExcellence]

(Original post by Kibalchich)
if you're a crap parent, yeah

Why would that be bad parenting?

[LowRider]

(Original post by AverageExcellence)
Those nanny'ing shows are clearly scripted and dont reflect true reality. You dont solve a lifetime of a child's problems in a weekend with some foolish sitting on step rules the like. Spanking can be used to assert authority, it doesnt have to be the first resort, only when children show blatant disrespect and ignore the less physical methods deliberately.

Mostly agree. This is the student room and most don't have kids or deal with them and will say don't spank kids it's abuse their tune may change one day .

Most kids are good but you get the few who just need a good old spank and the old sit in a corner or you've been a bad kid routine will have little to no effect.

[ROYP]

(Original post by diggy)
I got spanked and it's done me no harm as long as your not proper beating the kid like your in a fighting match it's not to bad

But the key is too explain to the child why they are being spanked because if you don't it just defeats the point.My parents also told me why i was being hit then in the future i obviously didn't do it again and I also stopped doing the wrong thing because I could see they weren't enjoying it and it hurt them to spank me

but admittedly i'd rather warn the child and if they continue spank

Overall I'd leave spanking as a last resort

I can only speak from my own experience, but even though it hurts to get 'spanked' (such an American word) it never made me change my future behaviour.

It might just be me though because I never really used to respond to any punishments at home or at school

[Kibalchich]

(Original post by AverageExcellence)
Why would that be bad parenting?

'cos theres no need to hit yer kids

[Kibalchich]

(Original post by LowRider)
Mostly agree. This is the student room and most don't have kids or deal with them and will say don't spank kids it's abuse their tune may change one day .

Most kids are good but you get the few who just need a good old spank and the old sit in a corner or you've been a bad kid routine will have little to no effect.

I didn't agree with hitting kids when I didn't have any. I still don't and I have 2 kids now.

[AverageExcellence]

(Original post by Kibalchich)
I didn't agree with hitting kids when I didn't have any. I still don't and I have 2 kids now.

You may not agree with it and its your choice how you people raise kids but it doesnt make someone a bad person or parent for using reasonable force to discipline their children. The non spanking thing is a relatively new method for the younger generations. If we followed the 'spanking screws kids up' argument then all of our parents and grandparents and all those before would be as described

[Kibalchich]

(Original post by AverageExcellence)
You may not agree with it and its your choice how you people raise kids but it doesnt make someone a bad person or parent for using reasonable force to discipline their children. The non spanking thing is a relatively new method for the younger generations. If we followed the 'spanking screws kids up' argument then all of our parents and grandparents and all those before would be as described

Have a look at the world around you.

My parents didn't hit me btw (I'm 40), they didn't get hit either by their parents. This idea that everyone used to hit their kids is just wrong.

[sammyjade92]

I think... if its not literally beating the child it should be done!
but there is no judgement on what is hitting too hard and what is a tap, for example, a small child crawling towards a a hot object, a smack on the hand and saying no firmly .. is acceptable

kicking and punching your child because they were 1 minute late to school. not acceptable.

Aversion therapy, associating a unpleasant stimulus with something bad, makes the person not do the bad thing. (in simple terms)

[AverageExcellence]

(Original post by Kibalchich)
Have a look at the world around you.

My parents didn't hit me btw (I'm 40), they didn't get hit either by their parents. This idea that everyone used to hit their kids is just wrong.

Why do you think spanking within reason is wrong?

[Eponym]

(Original post by T-Toe)
White people: 'No spanking is sooo wrong, that child should say F U to the parent and call childline'

Black people: 'Naa it's cool. I got beats and I turned out fine'

LMAO that is so true. I got spanked and I'm glad I did, I wasn't one of those kids who sat quietly in the corner and did as they were told. I was the one screaming their head off in the supermarket because I didn't get the sweets I wanted. It's called discipline and there is nothing wrong with it. Also when you get spanked it's often not the first resort, you get warnings, children aren't stupid they know what they are doing, I know I certainly did. Also it was never that hard, I cried because I was getting told off, not out of pain. Heck, it even turned into a game, my sibling and I would see who could outrun my mum the fastest. Child abuse and spanking are two different things.

[Kibalchich]

(Original post by sammyjade92)
I think... if its not literally beating the child it should be done!
but there is no judgement on what is hitting too hard and what is a tap, for example, a small child crawling towards a a hot object, a smack on the hand and saying no firmly .. is acceptable

kicking and punching your child because they were 1 minute late to school. not acceptable.

Aversion therapy, associating a unpleasant stimulus with something bad, makes the person not do the bad thing. (in simple terms)

So you can show me some studies showing the efficacy of negative reinforcement in affecting behaviour change.

[Kibalchich]

(Original post by AverageExcellence)
Why do you think spanking within reason is wrong?

Because you're supposed to love and care for your kids.

[AverageExcellence]

(Original post by Kibalchich)
Because you're supposed to love and care for your kids.

Just because you spank them when theyre naughty doesnt mean you dont love them. Some people let their kids get away with whatever they want and they grow up to be spolit and full of attitude because theyve never learned respect.

punishment is only a tiny part of being a parent as im sure you would know

[FunkeyMunkey]

I'd say majority of the world's population parents hit their children if they are bad, its only middle-upper class English people who seem to find it so appalling.

[Rtcw]

This is student website. What did you expect to get? The truth is, majority of people on here are students and are the same ones who don't want get spanked by their parents.

Ask the same question to general public in any town you would get 2:1 to yeses and nos.

[Chwirkytheappleboy]

I'm pretty sure that if my parents hadn't disciplined me appropriately when I was a kid then I'd be in jail by now. I'm grateful to my parents for having used effective punishments on me when I was younger, and will ensure that my own children receive the same, loving, discipline that holds their best interests at heart

[Sharri5]

I say beat that ass. If the child is misbehaving, whip him good. Pull a switch from the tree like they used to do in the old days and whoop him till the neighbors ask what's going on. A good ass whoopin will produce a strong and well mannered child. What's wrong with society today is that parents don't whoop their kids like they need to. This is why Susie is spreading her legs at 14 and popping out brats and johnny is doing drugs and trying to impregnate anything that has a hole in it.

[burgergetsbored]

Well you should explain it to them the first couple of times but if its something that's going to keep recurring, I think It's probably one of the only ways to teach them.

[lauren_a]

(Original post by Bonged.)
"I can't explain why what you're doing is wrong so I'm just going to hit you"

sums up spanking.

Exactly this. It communicates to children that in times of anger or confusion, it is reasonable to resort to violence. Studies have shown that children who are smacked at home are more likely to become violent in later life, and therefore more likely to get into fights regularly, be expelled from schools, etc etc.