Is 'Mothers Day' the biggest load of crap..

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Er, just because you have problems with your own relationship (or empathy deficiencies more like), this doesn't represent the general picture or opinion on 'valueless, commercial holidays'.

Well... yes it does. This is my opinion I've based on personal experience.

Original post by milesofsea

An act of appreciation is generally called for on mothers day - and there's nothing wrong with that being in materialistic form, if that's the type of thing that makes your mother happy. Why's it so terrible to spend money on other people??

Why is it called on Mother's Day? Of all days, why must this day be called for materialistic gifts? This is why I questioned if you read my post because I state, ' I buy her gifts and shower her with affection when she deserves it (which is a lot), not when one day dictates I do.' That ISN'T what makes her happy, per se; when I buy her gifts off-holidays with my own money, she isn't too happy (she gives a general, 'thanks'). Yet when I don't buy her gifts on holidays, she's angry. Obviously I appreciate her because I love her enough to buy her gifts when I'm not expected to, but when I don't buy her material gifts when the world expects me to, she's upset. What. I didn't even forget the day; I made her a homemade card, cooked for her, and showed my affection with hugs and the greetings; but that doesn't mean anything if I don't have a store bought card, chocolate or flowers which I would buy with her money. It's not terrible to spend money on other people, but when it's with her money, why would she ask for such requirements? It's clearly not the thought or sentiment that counts anymore. Mother's Day has become a farce. This isn't even about buying her gifts anymore; this is about people putting value on the wrong things.

When I buy her a gift using her money, there's no love or thought gone into it at all. It's generic and lousy. But when I put effort and thought into non-commercial gifts, there's a problem. That's what's wrong with Mother's Day: mum's have been conditioned by the media to expect the least thought out, last minute gifts because that apparently shows love and devotion. Hilarious.

Reply 41

indigoblue265

We were taught at school (not sure if it's true) that Mothers' Day came from Victorian times when people who worked as servants got the Sunday off once a year to go home and visit their mother.

Reply 42

shushthemonkeys

Mothers day, motheringsunday is a christian holiday that occurs in the 4th sunday in lent. Traditionally, it was a day when children, mainly daughters, who had gone to work as domestic servants were given a day off to visit their mother and family. The names mothers day has come from america, along with the commercial aspect, Just like it has for halloween.

I don't think setting aside a full day to make your mum feel special is bull****, yeah you should make an effort everyday but not everyone does, and because of the commercialisation of the holiday mums are getting more of a recognition which in my mind is great.

I think if you're gonna complain mothers day is a load of commercial bull****, than you need to be making the effort to make your mum and your nan feel valued every day.

Just my thoughts.

Reply 43

Miracle Day

The only mother's day present mine is having is me telling my Dad about her smoking behind his back for months. They both give up together, and she's been lying and cheating for months.

Reply 44

Id and Ego seek

Original post by shushthemonkeys

I think if you're gonna complain mothers day is a load of commercial bull****, than you need to be making the effort to make your mum and your nan feel valued every day.

Agreed.

Imagine if someone didn't make an effort to make their mum feel valued except for Mother's Day. I wonder what people would think then.

Reply 45

H.JJJ

Tbh, I really take my mum (and my dad) for granted sometimes. I am grateful for everything they do. So I don't mind if I have to be part of some commericalised day where giving a card or some flowers to my mum - it makes her happy.

Reply 46

gagaslilmonsteruk

I see Mothers Day as a chance to show appreciation and gratitude for everything she does, in a different way to just saying "thank you".

Reply 47

Id and Ego seek

Original post by gagaslilmonsteruk

I see Mothers Day as a chance to show appreciation and gratitude for everything she does, in a different way to just saying "thank you".

By buying her a £1 card from the corner shop a day before? If I was a mother, I'd appreciate the 'thank you' :teehee:

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Reply 48

xXxiKillxXx

People use this day to make up for all other days they mistreat their mothers.. harsh truth

Reply 49

Dekota-XS

I go out hunting for milfs on this day.

Reply 50

Livingstone

Original post by madders94

People need to lighten the hell up! No-one's forcing you with a gun against your head to buy a card or flowers or chocolates! You can take part if you want to, if you don't want to, good for you now grow up and move on!

My mum did :frown:

Reply 51

Annie72

I didnt get anything from my kids just like last year!!.

Reply 52

Over The Rainbow X

Mothers Day is what you make it.

I don't agree with spending loads and loads of money on tacky gifts, but I do think a card and a present is acceptable. To be honest, I'd rather clean the house or cook my Mum dinner, as I know that is what she would appreciate more.

Reply 53

TheHyacinthGirl

If people get some happiness out of it let them get on with it. Let's face it, our whole lives are commercialised now.

Reply 54

*GoLdSeQuIn*

Like Valentines day, its a commercialised hallmark. In saying that, there's nothing wrong with making your mum feel special and in a way it's kind of sweet. I prefer traditional holidays like Christmas and Easter though :smile:

Reply 55

kiss_me_now9

Original post by u02dpb7

It does have a meaning, it is based on the Christian and pre-Christian celebration on the 4th Sunday of Lent. To celebrate family and more recently mothers. I agree that it has become a farce and that you should honour your family all year round but hey commercialisation is everywhere.

It was also massive in Victorian times as it was the one day a year where servant girls were allowed to go back to their family and visit their mums. Victorians also gave rise to the tradition of bouquets of daffodils on Mothers Day as they were the flower most available to pick on their travel home (in woodland and on greens) to give to their mums as a present.

Valentines Day is a massive farce. Mothers Day is not and has more tradition around it.

Reply 56

milesofsea

Original post by Id and Ego seek

Well... yes it does. This is my opinion I've based on personal experience.

Why is it called on Mother's Day? Of all days, why must this day be called for materialistic gifts? This is why I questioned if you read my post because I state, ' I buy her gifts and shower her with affection when she deserves it (which is a lot), not when one day dictates I do.' That ISN'T what makes her happy, per se; when I buy her gifts off-holidays with my own money, she isn't too happy (she gives a general, 'thanks'). Yet when I don't buy her gifts on holidays, she's angry. Obviously I appreciate her because I love her enough to buy her gifts when I'm not expected to, but when I don't buy her material gifts when the world expects me to, she's upset. What. I didn't even forget the day; I made her a homemade card, cooked for her, and showed my affection with hugs and the greetings; but that doesn't mean anything if I don't have a store bought card, chocolate or flowers which I would buy with her money. It's not terrible to spend money on other people, but when it's with her money, why would she ask for such requirements? It's clearly not the thought or sentiment that counts anymore. Mother's Day has become a farce. This isn't even about buying her gifts anymore; this is about people putting value on the wrong things.

When I buy her a gift using her money, there's no love or thought gone into it at all. It's generic and lousy. But when I put effort and thought into non-commercial gifts, there's a problem. That's what's wrong with Mother's Day: mum's have been conditioned by the media to expect the least thought out, last minute gifts because that apparently shows love and devotion. Hilarious.

My problem with your post is that you're condemning an entire tradition and practice (mother's day), based on your - hope you don't mind me saying - very odd relationship with your mother. I don't know your mother and I don't know if she's really as ungrateful as you say, but it's irrelevant to bring in your own very personal and specific issues about your mother into a thread that disputes the concept of mother's day in a broad sense. My own experiences, and many people's, are entirely different to yours, so in order to make a judgement on whether mothers day should exist, you should be more objective about it and look beyond your own personal experience.

Buying gifts doesn't mean no thought has gone in to it. Have you honestly never recieved a gift (from a horrificly commercial shop), and actually been rather pleased because its exactly what you want, bought for you by someone who knows exactly what you like?
(general observation - most people use their own money to buy gifts for others, another reason why your case is misrepresentative)

Mothers day doesn't have to be all about money. There's no law that says you have to spend anything on mothers day. Some choose to, some don't, and I can assure you that mums haven't been 'conditioned' to expect anything, I think its all in your head, and only in your home (if that's indeed the case, but like I said I don't know your mum so I can't judge).

It should of course be ok to spend no money on mothers day, and I think it is. Conversely, there's nothing wrong with spending some money, especially on your mum of all people. Ultimately, its about making a fuss over your mum to show her you care, which, to all the self righteous people in this thread, doesn't mean we don't love her for the rest of the year.

Should birthdays be abolished too? 'oh but we're ageing all year round, so having a day to celebrate that is a load of crap...'

(edited 12 years ago)

Reply 57

Glow in the dark

I agree to an extent, I haven't bought a card this year but instead offered to do additional housework and I'll buy a take away tonight for us both to enjoy :tongue: