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Ways your parents treat you that you promise you wont do to your kids?

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    Somethings thats been on my mind for some time

    For example, i would give my children a bit more freedom than my parents give me right now

    When i want to go out, my parents are like where are you going? who are you going with? what will you be doing? what time will you be back? :rolleyes:

    and after i get there theyll call me at random times to check whether im drunk or to find put what im doing

    I think i'll try to teach my children to think for themselves and use their best judgement instead of being so 'protective'

    So in what ways would the way that you bring up your kids be different from the way that your parents raise you?
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    I'd have to agree with you about giving them freedom. I can understand why my parents were so protective (and being an only child doesn't help), but I wish I'd learnt to be more independent at a younger age.
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    Listen to them when they have an opinion instead of just shooting it down! Because maybe it makes more sense than what I believe.

    Also so that they can feel they can talk to me about anything
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    not send them to a military school -_-
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    I’d hopefully not give the
    “when I was a child…” or the “young ladies have to act in a certain way…” lectures
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    Don't try and make them learn from your mistakes ... it's just annoying and usually difficult to believe, until/unless the mistake has been made.
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    (Original post by Ladyliesel)
    I'd have to agree with you about giving them freedom. I can understand why my parents were so protective (and being an only child doesn't help), but I wish I'd learnt to be more independent at a younger age.
    Pretty much this.

    Sometimes parents don't understand than by restricting their kids' freedom are not protecting them, but making them be useless and unexperienced in many ways!
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    I'm really happy with the way I was brought up, so in most ways I want to raise my kids just like my parents raised me.

    The only thing I'd do differently, is that I'd teach my children to be assertive and stand up for themselves. When I was little and people bullied me, my Mum either tried to get me to empathise with the bullies if they were kids with difficulties at home, or she got really angry and called the bullies' parents. As you can guess, the latter course of action usually led to more bullying And while I do think it's important to teach children to empathise, they shouldn't do so to an extent where they basically let people walk all over them. I know she meant well though, bless her
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    Trust them to go out late sometimes.
    Teach them a sport from a young age.
    Don't let him walk around wearing football boots like it's cool. ¬.¬
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    I'd let my children be themselves instead of molding them into something I want them to be.

    I'll let them come up with their own conclusions as to what they want to do with their life.

    Same goes to faith, I would never teach my kids that there is a God or that there is no God... I'm pretty sure they can figure it out for themselves whichever they see fit.
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    I would never be telling them how much I want to kill myself when they are very young, would not constantly criticise them or constantly remind them how I am paying for their food and clothes (you chose to have the kid,) nor throw tantrums in front of them, and leave any issues I might have between their other parent completely out of it. Oh, and I sure as hell wouldn't go diagnosing them with a bunch of disorders/illnesses based on basically nothing.
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    (Original post by Jackal The)
    I would never be telling them how much I want to kill myself when they are very young, would not constantly criticise them or constantly remind them how I am paying for their food and clothes, nor throw tantrums in front of them, and leave any issues I might have between their other parent completely out of it.
    Uh, it seems like you had a tough childhood. Feel sorry to read that
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    I'd try not to exclude them from conversations when they come of age.

    I also would allow them more privacy. Especially maybe go out for dinner and leave the house when he/she wants to have friends over.
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    (Original post by cl_steele)
    not send them to a military school -_-
    you go to military school?
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    (Original post by cl_steele)
    not send them to a military school -_-

    Francis?
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    Not live in the middle of no-where. I swear, that was the worst decision my parents ever made.

    They need to know about the countryside, but they do not need to live there...
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    (Original post by mia =))
    you go to military school?
    Many of us did..

    :smug:
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    (Original post by Ahotaru)
    Uh, it seems like you had a tough childhood. Feel sorry to read that
    Sorry, I actually didn't really, my parents divorced when I was very young and it was mainly just a lot of issues with my dad, who I no longer speak to.
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    i will have an honest open relationship with my kids and will not be overprotective (i know that society is no longer the same as it was when your parents were our age but still you need to loosen up a bit otherwise they will not grow up).

    I will also give them some of their own space and not intrude in their private lives too much.

    I will not hit them but sit them down and explain to them why I think what they have done is wrong.
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    (Original post by Spontogical)
    Many of us did..

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    kay spon

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