I went out with this girl for about 15 months, we broke up last October when I left for Uni. A few weeks later I went to see her and we started talking and seeing each other again. By December we were kinda acting like a couple, but had specifically agreed that we aren't together and we can have sex with other people if we like.
We told one another that we loved each other, we Christmas shopped together and spent all Xmas holiday with each other.*
Then after I went back to Uni she said that she thought we'd gotten too couple like and should see each other a lot less, as she felt it was very had for her to have out life outside me while we were together. This wasn't ideal for me but I went along with it anyway.
We talked a little but didn't meet for 7 weeks or so. In that time I slept with someone else and she slept with some people too.
We finally met again at her sister's party where we talked and she told me how she'd been casually seeing a guy but he was a bit of a pain and had slept with others without telling her etc. That she struggled to see a future in it but found it enjoyable and interesting for now.*
That night at the party we had sex, and although I initially felt bad, it turns out the guy she is seeing slept with someone else that night anyway. Such is the nature of their casual relationship I find it hard to show remorse when he clearly doesn't care much.*
Anyway, we text a bit trying to clarify our feelings for one another. She said she still loves me but just needs some space to be a bit more free and doesn't want to jump straight back into something serious with me and ruin any long term prospect we might have.
That was 10 days ago and since then we have been texting a bit and have met up a further two times.
Yesterday when she was at my house she seemed very much like she was back into the swing of loving me and I was the same - I love her very much. We had a nice meal together and the sex was nearer to love-making than a shag.
As we lay in bed she even told me she wanted to marry me, as it was often something we talked of when we were together. Might have been just an emotion over-load from her, but the general mood was very deep. Even though I had been doing the chasing, she told me she loved me as I cuddled her to sleep without me prompting or saying it first.*
Last night she called me saying she thinks we should stop seeing each other, cos although she enjoyed seeing me, she didn't want to have to keep lying to the other guy and she does like him.*
Now, under the pretence that I don't have to show this other guy any moral integrity, as he is clearly lacking in any himself, how should I go about actually keeping in having a shot with this girl whom I love so much?
1) Try to keep some sort of texting going so I stay in the picture somewhat?
2) Show both resilience and an appreciation for her needing some space by refraining from texting much? Might this mean I'll drop out of her life completely? Like what may have happened had we not met at the party?*
3) Anything you can suggest?
Would like to hear your thoughts on helping me out, the truth is that I really have a special love for this person and want to do what is best to nurture our long-term prospects.*