[Anonymous]

(Original post by Sherkba)
Wow, it's a pattern that just keeps coming back, isn't it? You 3 ''Anons'' - the recurring theme is that you weren;t getting attention you wanted, and it pissed you off (in your case, he was on the computer, not paying attention to you).

I think you guys have some serious confidence issues. Apart from the attention-seeking theme, there's also how each one of you portrays yourself in a wounded little girl way. Anon 2 mentions in two seperate posts how lucky she was to have ''big strong men'' to protect delicate feminine little her. You subtly (or not so subtly) drop into your story a scratched wrist, and then emphasize how big and strong he is, and how it wouldn't take much for him to restrain your delicate self.

Just interesting, is all. Reading between the lines, all 3 of you who have hit your boyfriends have a need for attention, and a need to feel more feminine. You should work on that.

I think most people would feel similar to how I felt if they were being belittled by somebody whose opinion they care about. How exactly would you feel if somebody very close to you made some nasty remarks and then turned away having decided nothing you have to say is worth listening to?

Its not about getting attention because of low self esteem, its because I am close to him that he has the ability to make me feel terrible.

The only reason I posted anonymously is because of people like you being judgemental. I mentioned the scratch on my wrist to make a point that if me and him to get physical in an argument, I am the only one that leaves with bruises or scratches. And he IS bigger and stronger than me - fact. There was no deeper meaning to it besides the obvious.

[kka25]

(Original post by Anonymous)
*sigh* if you really wanted to anaylse everything I wrote, you'd notice WHY I said that. It wasn't in my original post, or my recount on what happened. It was in a response to one of the other anon's to clarify that's it's a pretty standard response to want to lash out violently, after you've just been hit but her ex was in the wrong for acting on it - two wrongs don't make a right. My boyfriend had the same instinct, but controlled himself and I really respect him for it. He's in no way rough and he's a lot better a man than I am a woman. I wasn't trying to engage sympathy so I'm glad you don't feel sorry for me? If you read my originaly post, you'd know that back then I was just in want of advice (which I no longer need). What I did was wrong and nowhere have I denied that.

No. I still do not feel any sympathy for you. At first I was neutral about it because this is a touchy topic, but once I read your post replies and how defensive you're being, I began to know what kinda person you really are; you just want people to back you up of what you did and say what you want to hear. You put an emotional argument so people can feel sorry for you but once people give an opposing view that actually labels you of what you really are, you become defensive; hardly a person that is repenting of her sins. Strange girl.

(Original post by gintoki)
If you are not open to criticism then shouldn't even have opened a thread.

Exactly. I don't see the point of this thread after the 2nd post. It's like now she's relief that there are some other abusers out there!

[kka25]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I think most people would feel similar to how I felt if they were being belittled by somebody whose opinion they care about. How exactly would you feel if somebody very close to you made some nasty remarks and then turned away having decided nothing you have to say is worth listening to?

Its not about getting attention because of low self esteem, its because I am close to him that he has the ability to make me feel terrible.

The only reason I posted anonymously is because of people like you being judgemental. I mentioned the scratch on my wrist to make a point that if me and him to get physical in an argument, I am the only one that leaves with bruises or scratches. And he IS bigger and stronger than me - fact. There was no deeper meaning to it besides the obvious.

What a silly response.

You provoked him, and you hit him twice, and you shook him; you think he had no rights to at least defend himself?

In those circumstances, you could have acted like a fu.cking adult and just go somewhere instead of provoking him. If he acted all childish, why didn't you be the better person and go somewhere else instead of provoking him? You didn't hit him once, but twice; can't you count!?

Of course people are going to judge; it's a public forum! What do you expect? We become your cheerleader and give you a piece of cake?

I am the only one that leaves with bruises or scratches.

Owh, funny that you want to add that you were bruised now. Just now it was just a scratch.

And he IS bigger and stronger than me - fact. There was no deeper meaning to it besides the obvious.

WELL, the fact is, THAT didn't stop you from hitting him TWICE and SHOOK him? What is it that you can't get into your feminist head I don't know.

[Sherkba]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Perhaps I just don't take kindly to insults by randomers, especially when I think the other anon's came forward because this wasn't a judgemental thread beforehand. I think the real question is, why do you get kicks out of putting other people down? Surely if we are all so 'attention seeking' you shouldn't feed it by responding.

Well that's an interesting development - so you're also someone who blatantly over-exagerrates. You claim I've insulted you, which I clearly haven't: I simply gave my opinion on the situation.

Based on that, when you say your boyfriend grabbed your arm and threw you on the bed, did you mean he shouted at you?

[Sherkba]

(Original post by Anonymous)

The only reason I posted anonymously is because of people like you being judgemental.

What do you honestly expect?

And if this were a thread about a guy having hit his girlfriend, what would you expect? ''Mate, don't worry about it, you obviously feel bad, we're all human, we all lose our tempers''?

[kka25]

(Original post by Sherkba)
Well that's an interesting development - so you're also someone who blatantly over-exagerrates. You claim I've insulted you, which I clearly haven't: I simply gave my opinion on the situation.

The more she posts, the more we know her true colour.

(Original post by Sherkba)
What do you honestly expect?

And if this were a thread about a guy having hit his girlfriend, what would you expect? ''Mate, don't worry about it, you obviously feel bad, we're all human, we all lose our tempers''?

Exactly. I've 0% respect for the OP. She's just appealing to emotions and manipulating people to get them to her side. You can even see how she's glad now some other abusers are replying to her posts and she concludes, she's not the only devil here; sad really.

I wonder if a guy post this sort of situation, and he says he's sorry sorry and sorry, I think people will ask him to go and see a counselor or get help; I have yet see any posters here asked her to do that.

To the original poster, no one on this forum will buy your pathetic excuse really. You may tell your friends about this whole thing, they might not say anything, but they are smart enough to realize what kind a person you really are.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by kka25)
What a silly response.

You provoked him, and you hit him twice, and you shook him; you think he had no rights to at least defend himself?

In those circumstances, you could have acted like a fu.cking adult and just go somewhere instead of provoking him. If he acted all childish, why didn't you be the better person and go somewhere else instead of provoking him? You didn't hit him once, but twice; can't you count!?

Of course people are going to judge; it's a public forum! What do you expect? We become your cheerleader and give you a piece of cake?



Owh, funny that you want to add that you were bruised now. Just now it was just a scratch.



WELL, the fact is, THAT didn't stop you from hitting him TWICE and SHOOK him? What is it that you can't get into your feminist head I don't know.

Its becoming quite obvious that you're judging me by something that has happened to yourself. You have a handful of details and with those you've put words into my mouth and made some heaving assumptions about my character. I don't know what your actual problem is - because I'm sure you can't feel this strongly about my situation - but you need to calm down and stop being so aggressive. You sound like a woman hater.

[PlanetTea]

Heavy*

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Sherkba)
What do you honestly expect?

And if this were a thread about a guy having hit his girlfriend, what would you expect? ''Mate, don't worry about it, you obviously feel bad, we're all human, we all lose our tempers''?

I think I've made it quite clear what I expected aka there were going to be people like yourself who were judgemental and people like kka25 who have now become aggressive. That is why I posted as anonymous. It really isn't more complicated than that.

[PlanetTea]

(Original post by kka25)
The more she posts, the more we know her true colour.




Exactly. I've 0% respect for the OP. She's just appealing to emotions and manipulating people to get them to her side. You can even see how she's glad now some other abusers are replying to her posts and she concludes, she's not the only devil here; sad really.

I wonder if a guy post this sort of situation, and he says he's sorry sorry and sorry, I think people will ask him to go and see a counselor or get help; I have yet see any posters here asked her to do that.

To the original poster, you need help. You're just a manipulative cunning ass.hole. No one on this forum will buy your pathetic excuse really. You may tell your friends about this whole thing, they might not say anything, but they are smart enough to realize what kind a person you really are.

Hi.

You aren't supposed to avoid the filters by using full stops. Would you mind editing your posts so we can't see the swearing?

Thanks.

[kka25]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Its becoming quite obvious that you're judging me by something that has happened to yourself. You have a handful of details and with those you've put words into my mouth and made some heaving assumptions about my character. I don't know what your actual problem is - because I'm sure you can't feel this strongly about my situation - but you need to calm down and stop being so aggressive. You sound like a woman hater.

This post proves further more that you're just a manipulative cunning ass.hole. Now you're turning this whole situation towards me? Accusing me of being aggressive? How rich.

Who's the aggressive one here? Who hits their partner? I'm not the one who hit their partner twice and shook them. You're a big cunning hypocrite. Who makes more and more claim to assert the she's not to be blamed here, where's in fact she's in the complete wrong? Who said that (big) men must tolerate psychological abuse here? You sound like a cunning feminist men hating piece of shi.t really.

I hate people who hit people without a justifiable reason. That's a fact. And the post shows. You? You're just a bitter cunning deceitful ass.hole.

[kka25]

(Original post by PlanetTea)
Hi.

You aren't supposed to avoid the filters by using full stops. Would you mind editing your posts so we can't see the swearing?

Thanks.

Opps. I'm very sorry. I'll edit it for you

*But I want her to read what she deserves first.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by kka25)
This post proves further more that you're just a manipulative cunning ass.hole. Now you're turning this whole situation towards me? Accusing me of being aggressive? How rich.

Who's the aggressive one here? Who hits their partner? I'm not the one who hit their partner twice and shook him. You're a big cunning hypocrite. Who makes more and more claim to assert the she's not to be blamed here, where's in fact she's in the complete wrong? Who said that (big) men must tolerate psychological abuse here?

I hate people who hit people without a justifiable reason. That's a fact. And the post shows.

Well for starters, I'm not calling you names and swearing at you, so I don't think I'm being aggressive at all - however you are. Secondly, I haven't said that its ok that I've hit my boyfriend in the arm and shook him, in fact I've said the opposite. I also didn't say that men deserve 'phychological abuse', when did I say this exactly?

I wouldn't say I'm particularly a feminist. Although what I do know about what feminist's did in the 60/70s I find admirable and brave.

Why am I bitter and deceitful? You're just making up insults.

I imagine you to be a lonely, very angry 20-something, who sits in his room alone too much. Go outside, its a nice day. You're just wasting your time on here.

[kka25]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Well for starters, I'm not calling you names and swearing at you, so I don't think I'm being aggressive at all - however you are. Secondly, I haven't said that its ok that I've hit my boyfriend in the arm and shook him, in fact I've said the opposite. I also didn't say that men deserve 'phychological abuse', when did I say this exactly?

I wouldn't say I'm particularly a feminist. Although what I do know about what feminist's did in the 60/70s I find admirable and brave.

Why am I bitter and deceitful? You're just making up insults.

I imagine you to be a lonely, very angry 20-something, who sits in his room alone too much. Go outside, its a nice day. You're just wasting your time on here.

Are you talking about yourself? Go find a man; and tell him this story. Let us know what he would say Owh wait! Do you feel insulted? Want to hit me now? Want to shook me now? I bet you're fueling with anger now; because that's you, an abuser. A very angry emotional person that always thinks that she's a woman, she can't get away with this sort of things.

I'm waiting what kind of accusations you would put after this. Come now, give it a shot. We are all waiting because the more you post, the more it proves my point.

Why don't you stop hiding yourself behind anon? Why don't you just woman up and put your name here? Why not? Afraid no one wants you? Of course they won't. Because they know and would acknowledge that you're an abuser, manipulative hypocrite and a liar.

Really? READ back your own post. I will say this again; you are really a manipulative person. Now you're denying what you wrote. How rich.

[kka25]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I think I've made it quite clear what I expected aka there were going to be people like yourself who were judgemental and people like kka25 who have now become aggressive. That is why I posted as anonymous. It really isn't more complicated than that.

If you don't want people to judge you, what do you post in the first place? No one would want to understand you, because you're wrong. Period. Now you're turning this to other folks? Labeling them with labels that are stuck on your head? Typical.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Well for starters, I'm not calling you names and swearing at you, so I don't think I'm being aggressive at all - however you are. Secondly, I haven't said that its ok that I've hit my boyfriend in the arm and shook him, in fact I've said the opposite. I also didn't say that men deserve 'phychological abuse', when did I say this exactly?

I wouldn't say I'm particularly a feminist. Although what I do know about what feminist's did in the 60/70s I find admirable and brave.

Why am I bitter and deceitful? You're just making up insults.

I imagine you to be a lonely, very angry 20-something, who sits in his room alone too much. Go outside, its a nice day. You're just wasting your time on here.

If I were you I wouldn't further respond to him, he's not worth the time. Although it's quite funny how far he objects about one slap - an accident - but repeated, deliberate, verbal abuse is just fiiiinneee - guess you've got to be thankful for the amusement.