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[minimarshmallow]

(Original post by oomzee)
thanks for the reply

it's different in my family, everyone has such high expectations for eachother, my brother completed his Masters in economics at the LSE at age 23. the prblem i ahve is that people always compare me to him, and its such a blow to my morale, i honestly cannot describe the depression i go through at times.

My auntie used to constantly compare me to my cousin because we both applied to the same university - she was about 5/6 years older. She kept saying that my a-levels wouldn't be as good and I wouldn't get in. Or if I did get in that I'd just drop out anyway. My cousin got BBB (which was the requirement when she came) and I got A*AB. She dropped out after 8 weeks, I'm 2/3rds of the way through my second year.
I can't say I've had that problem with my parents, they never went to university, my mum only recently got GCSE maths. But you do just have to remember its your life. If you want to switch just do it. If they say anything then you just have to try and shrug it off and keep going.
In the long run you'll probably end up proving them wrong anyway by doing incredibly well in a field you love - exactly like I did with my auntie and my female cousin, although she compares me to her son - even though he graduated with a low 2:1 and I'm target to probably get a 1st.
But you'll never even have the potential for this opportunity if you don't try. Its your life, nobody should have any say except you!

[Spairos]

(Original post by minimarshmallow)
My auntie used to constantly compare me to my cousin because we both applied to the same university - she was about 5/6 years older. She kept saying that my a-levels wouldn't be as good and I wouldn't get in. Or if I did get in that I'd just drop out anyway. My cousin got BBB (which was the requirement when she came) and I got A*AB. She dropped out after 8 weeks, I'm 2/3rds of the way through my second year.
I can't say I've had that problem with my parents, they never went to university, my mum only recently got GCSE maths. But you do just have to remember its your life. If you want to switch just do it. If they say anything then you just have to try and shrug it off and keep going.
In the long run you'll probably end up proving them wrong anyway by doing incredibly well in a field you love - exactly like I did with my auntie and my female cousin, although she compares me to her son - even though he graduated with a low 2:1 and I'm target to probably get a 1st.
But you'll never even have the potential for this opportunity if you don't try. Its your life, nobody should have any say except you!

Lol your auntie is a stupid, egoist, low IQ b**tch
And she brags about accomplishments that arent even hers

[oomzee]

(Original post by Spairos)
And since you can clearly see that this choice had led you into depression do you still think that it's the right choice for the remaining of your future?

no, definetly not.

but again... i will have to do another foundation year, if your own family is dissapointed in you... it makes your self esteem drop

[SnoochToTheBooch]

(Original post by Iron Lady)
You actually have a point, but you don't need to be so aggressive.

I was going for emphatic rather than agressive.

[oomzee]

(Original post by minimarshmallow)
My auntie used to constantly compare me to my cousin because we both applied to the same university - she was about 5/6 years older. She kept saying that my a-levels wouldn't be as good and I wouldn't get in. Or if I did get in that I'd just drop out anyway. My cousin got BBB (which was the requirement when she came) and I got A*AB. She dropped out after 8 weeks, I'm 2/3rds of the way through my second year.
I can't say I've had that problem with my parents, they never went to university, my mum only recently got GCSE maths. But you do just have to remember its your life. If you want to switch just do it. If they say anything then you just have to try and shrug it off and keep going.
In the long run you'll probably end up proving them wrong anyway by doing incredibly well in a field you love - exactly like I did with my auntie and my female cousin, although she compares me to her son - even though he graduated with a low 2:1 and I'm target to probably get a 1st.
But you'll never even have the potential for this opportunity if you don't try. Its your life, nobody should have any say except you!

wow such a positive story... thank you for sharing it, hopefully i will have a similar story soon. x

[Spairos]

(Original post by oomzee)
no, definetly not.

but again... i will have to do another foundation year, if your own family is dissapointed in you... it makes your self esteem drop

I can trully understand you, however you're experiencing situations which will help you for the rest of your life.

Additionally, what is ONE foundation year vs lets say 60 following years of your life?

[oomzee]

(Original post by Spairos)
I can trully understand you, however you're experiencing situations which will help you for the rest of your life.

Additionally, what is ONE foundation year vs lets say 60 following years of your life?

i suppose you are right, i'm not sure though wether or not i can still apply for the maths/economics foundation year at kingston, if i can't then i am trully screwed

[Milesness]

Well my one main piece of advice for you is that if your heart isn't in the subject, which it sounds like it isn't, then you obviously won't enjoy it and you'll be very likely to not do very well.

The problem is you're listening to your parents desires for what they want you to do. Think of it like this: They don't realize what they're even thinking. They're just blindly assuming you need to be like your siblings without even considering why it matters so much.

Here's my advice: I'm guessing you're eighteen, which makes you an independent adult, so you can do what you want. Hell you could leave your family and never talk to them ever again if you wanted (Not that I recommend that). Assuming you can carry on with this year to the end, I suggest you apply to do the course you really wanted to do, for next year. Since you'll have completed this foundation year it will be clear that you can see things through to the end, so as long as you have the sufficient A levels, you should be likely to get onto the course.

The main issue is with your family. You need to live for yourself, and make it clear to your parents that you don't like the fact they compare you to your siblings. I guess you should directly tell them this and start talking with them. If they shrug you off when you start trying to talk to them about how you feel and still don't talk to you at dinner then I'd recommend you try your best to ignore them, and just follow what you want to do.

You'll be happier in the long run AND day by day if you do what feels right for you. Trust me, making choices just to please others is a dead end and wasted energy.

I would have more to put but I can't quite articulate my thoughts.

[LowRider]

(Original post by oomzee)
before i start i need people to know; My mum is a surgeon; dad and brother are city traders and many members of my indirect family went to LSE/ Yale/ Oxford etc...

now me,
I'm 20
studied a BTEC in applied sciences
am now doing a foundation year in aerospace engineering at kingston uni london
and i hate it

everyone looks down on me like a failure and make me feel like **** even though they aren't really saying it. I wanted to study economics/ politics, but my family insisted on me becoming an engineer.

i feel as though there is nothing going for me anymore, i want to switch course, but i think it may be too late, even if i do another foundation year in economics/ i'll be 21 when i finish that, then 24 when i finish undergrad.
...now i think this is okay but my family would just be dissapointed.

but i have no idea what to do from here, either i get into debt to learn something i wont get a good grade in, or i face 4 more years of torment.

can anyone please help or advise me on anything i can do?

thanks for reading x

What do you hate about it if I may ask?

I did a foundation year for engineering also and found it quiet horrible but once it was over I found the content to improve as it wasn't just solid maths & physics like foundation year. In terms of workload & material it does get much harder I know plenty of people who kinda hate (including me) it at times but we manage I guess but if you really are finding it hard and horrendous maybe it is best to change early then later.

[oomzee]

(Original post by LowRider)
What do you hate about it if I may ask?

I did a foundation year for engineering also and found it quiet horrible but once it was over I found the content to improve as it wasn't just solid maths & physics like foundation year. In terms of workload & material it does get much harder I know plenty of people who kinda hate (including me) it at times but we manage I guess but if you really are finding it hard and horrendous maybe it is best to change early then later.

hey,

im fine with the maths element, but the engineering mechanics/ design/ engSci is not something i particullarily want to learn. x

[yothi5]

(Original post by oomzee)
before i start i need people to know; My mum is a surgeon; dad and brother are city traders and many members of my indirect family went to LSE/ Yale/ Oxford etc...

now me,
I'm 20
studied a BTEC in applied sciences
am now doing a foundation year in aerospace engineering at kingston uni london
and i hate it

everyone looks down on me like a failure and make me feel like **** even though they aren't really saying it. I wanted to study economics/ politics, but my family insisted on me becoming an engineer.

i feel as though there is nothing going for me anymore, i want to switch course, but i think it may be too late, even if i do another foundation year in economics/ i'll be 21 when i finish that, then 24 when i finish undergrad.
...now i think this is okay but my family would just be dissapointed.

but i have no idea what to do from here, either i get into debt to learn something i wont get a good grade in, or i face 4 more years of torment.

can anyone please help or advise me on anything i can do?

thanks for reading x

Either you're a troll, or you really really don't fit into your family. How can there be that much of a disparity between you all?!

[LowRider]

(Original post by oomzee)
hey,

im fine with the maths element, but the engineering mechanics/ design/ engSci is not something i particullarily want to learn. x

Well think hard and well it's still a good degree to have (even if you don't want to go into that career) but like I said best to leave now then hate it to death and mess up as a result or drop out and waste more time.

[Nightufury]

Play the lottery and win the jackpot. Goodluck

[oomzee]

(Original post by LowRider)
Well think hard and well it's still a good degree to have (even if you don't want to go into that career) but like I said best to leave now then hate it to death and mess up as a result or drop out and waste more time.

ive heard its one of the best degrees to have, aswell as a maths/law/economics/medicine degree

[LowRider]

(Original post by oomzee)
ive heard its one of the best degrees to have, aswell as a maths/law/economics/medicine degree

But it also takes a lot out of you and I personally think I could get a higher degree classification in another degree for the amount of time I put into this one

You said you want to do economics?

Maybe go to some lectures for 1st years in aero and economics ( go to a different modules too) to get a feel for what the teaching is like ? It may be that you find economics crap too

[POWCATTY]

(Original post by oomzee)
before i start i need people to know; My mum is a surgeon; dad and brother are city traders and many members of my indirect family went to LSE/ Yale/ Oxford etc...

now me,
I'm 20
studied a BTEC in applied sciences
am now doing a foundation year in aerospace engineering at kingston uni london
and i hate it

everyone looks down on me like a failure and make me feel like **** even though they aren't really saying it. I wanted to study economics/ politics, but my family insisted on me becoming an engineer.

i feel as though there is nothing going for me anymore, i want to switch course, but i think it may be too late, even if i do another foundation year in economics/ i'll be 21 when i finish that, then 24 when i finish undergrad.
...now i think this is okay but my family would just be dissapointed.

but i have no idea what to do from here, either i get into debt to learn something i wont get a good grade in, or i face 4 more years of torment.

can anyone please help or advise me on anything i can do?

thanks for reading x

forget about your family and do want you want, firstly. as people always say...its your life and you have to live with the consequences of your actions. its tough to go against their wishes, but you will feel so much better for it .
as for feeling too old...please...im going to be starting my first degree when im 21, and thats medicine so im olny going to finish when im 26/27. now thats old! and thats after recieving 9 straight rejections from unis.
i doubt your family would be disappointed if you changed degree and came out with an excellent grade. if you stay on the course you dont like you will get a lower mark (you always do with subjects you dont like) which is worse then starting the degree older.
i dont want to sound patronising or anything because i obviously know nothing about you or your family, but ive often found that people misinterpret their families feelings for disappointment. often its concern, or they are trying to push them to do well (and then when they feel they messed up, they think that their family is disappointed when infact they are satisfied as they did try their best even though they didnt get the best mark). have a chat with them and see what they think, if you havent already.
in the end, its your choice. personally i would go with the subject i enjoy as it will make your life so much better.

[moonymeen]

Hi there, first of all, I can empathise with you choosing a course that you dislike and aren't enjoying, because I withdrew from university because of the same reasons. If you are very unhappy with the course, then obviously you should plan on doing what you really what to do. I advise you to think strongly about your reasons and what you will do next, although I have no doubt that you haven't (in regards to wanting to study economics/politics). However, I'm getting a sense that you feel totally inferior to your family members, because of the route you've gone down in contrast to them; they have been to prestigious universities and are enjoying the really high flying careers - are you sure that the intention to change course isn't due to your own pressure in becoming as "successful" as they are, and always feeling like you should become one of them. I'm honestly not trying to criticise you or claim things, but I'm just wondering how you are feeling. : )

[milesofsea]

Listen here. Change course. Do NOT do something you hate, there is no reason to do something you loathe when the option was always there to do something you love. It makes no sense whatsoever, in the end YOU'RE the one who has to bury your head in the work, YOU'RE the one who has to put the hours in and sit the exams and pass and do this year after year.

Yuu should have taken the option you wanted to do first time round, but you didn't; never mind. Change course now, it's never to late, the horrific idea that you might graduate at 24 is redundant, that doesn't matter.

You can blame your family and pressure bla bla but ultimately I'm guessing that no one pinned you down and made you do the course you're doing now. Take control, take responsibility, work your ass off, and you'll stop feeling like a failure

[Implo]

It'll be a lot of hassle and pain to drop out of engineering, but it sounds like it's really what you want to do, in the end when you get to the stage where your studying a subject your interested in, your family have gotten over you dropping out etc, I bet you won't want to have it any other way.