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Do girls like virgins?

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Original post by Tomac
Real world girls don't like guys with no experience.

Please, I was having a cigarette outside my block and I overheard a guy say to the girl that he was a virgin, she said (in a rather excitable voice) "good, now I can teach you to have sex my way"... the funniest thing to overhear :lol:

But yeah she was a "real world girl", presuming you mean non-TSR that is, and she did not mind in the slightest.
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Original post by alawhisp
The answer to this question depends entirely on the age of the respondent and their own experience..

Teens + low/no experience = "yay virgins!"
Woman + experience = "hmmm.."

Personally, relationship experience is more important to me than sexual experience. Sexual tricks can be learned but emotional maturity is something built up through experience. I don't want to have to deal with the "first love" problems like possessiveness, jealousy, insecurity, coldness etc. So I'd prefer a man who has learned to know and control his own mind and heart prior to meeting me. And that will involve having participated in adult, sexual, committed relationships prior.

I'm not looking for a virgin and would be very hesitant to become involved with one. The age range I date in means that 99.9% will not be virgins. If they are, it's likely to be because of religious beliefs, or emotional, intimacy or physical issues. I can't stand religion, I'm not looking to be a therapist, and I want a healthy sex life without the added pressure.. So no, thank you.


Out of curiosity, why would teenage girls with low experience be happy with the idea of a virgin? and how much is low experience?
I'm not a virgin but I do prefer virgins. Everytime I've met a guy, both of us have always questioned and had on the back of our minds how many people we've slept with and also who of these previous partners were good. Sex just becomes sex and not loving because insecurities arise and you're always thinking, 'Am I as good as x, y, z?' When the relationship ends, you feel more insecure and realise the sex was just sex for the sake of it, but no substance in the relationship.
If the person was a virgin, none of this would occur or go through the mind.
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Original post by 4RealBlud
Out of curiosity, why would teenage girls with low experience be happy with the idea of a virgin? and how much is low experience?

Mostly because teenagers are exceptionally prone to insecurity.. Many are more comfortable with virgins because the virgin will have nobody to compare them to. That is due to a lack of confidence in their sexual ability/desirability.

It also takes time to grow as a sexual being and to become truly comfortable in your sexuality. Teenage girls suffer remarkably because of the ton of shame heaped on them by society and their peers for being sexual - masturbation is frowned upon, and an interest in sexual exploration supposedly makes you a "slut". Hence, women who have been sexually active for years, and who have had more than 1 partner, are usually more liberated/confident in the sack.

Low experience is subjective. A girl could have sex one time each with 6 different boys, or a girl could have sex 100 times with 1 boy. The person having sex with just 1 person would somehow be deemed to be more "pure" in the eyes of many TSR males.. Strange logic. When I referred to low experience there, I was meaning a few unsatisfying fumbles with 1 or 2 partners.
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Original post by tehFrance
Please, I was having a cigarette outside my block and I overheard a guy say to the girl that he was a virgin, she said (in a rather excitable voice) "good, now I can teach you to have sex my way"... the funniest thing to overhear :lol:

But yeah she was a "real world girl", presuming you mean non-TSR that is, and she did not mind in the slightest.


I'm not saying girls mind, I'm saying girls prefer guys who know what they're doing
Original post by Tomac
I'm not saying girls mind, I'm saying girls prefer guys who know what they're doing


Would it help if they were confident that they knew what they were doing?
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Original post by Anonymous
Would it help if they were confident that they knew what they were doing?


Don't seem to understand what you're trying to ask in relation to what I said :s-smilie:
Original post by Tomac
Don't seem to understand what you're trying to ask in relation to what I said :s-smilie:


You say women prefer a man who knows what he's doing. Virgins generally don't, but if a virgin was confident that he DOES know what he's doing, would he at least partially make up for his lack of experience?
I was really glad that my boyfriend, who was my first, wasn't a virgin when we got together - he was a bit more experienced, knew what to do, was reassuring and everything, but at the same time he hadn't had so many sexual partners that I felt he'd be comparing me to them, and it wasn't like he had experience so he felt like I was holding him back :smile:

In short, I wouldn't.
No most girls don't like guys who are virgins. They are inexperienced therefore awful and shy in bed. Takes awhile for the confidence to build up and to actually get good.
I think when some girls say they like virgins what they mean is the idea of someone untouched is rather appealing, especially when it comes to your partner- but can we have a guy who's a virgin and a sex god in bed? :biggrin:
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Original post by parasitic
No most girls don't like guys who are virgins. They are inexperienced therefore awful and shy in bed. Takes awhile for the confidence to build up and to actually get good.
I think when some girls say they like virgins what they mean is the idea of someone untouched is rather appealing, especially when it comes to your partner- but can we have a guy who's a virgin and a sex god in bed? :biggrin:


Sweetheart, i think you'll be very pleasantly surprised :smug:
Original post by parasitic
No most girls don't like guys who are virgins.

I don't know, I was speaking to some girls at lunch today and everyone was celebrating one of the guys finally losing his virginity which made me ask them would they mind if a guy they hooked up with was a virgin 4 said no, 1 said yes and the rest were indifferent to it. It was a very small sample but still :tongue:

Although to the 4 that said no, why didn't they do the lad a favour :tongue:
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Original post by Anonymous
You say women prefer a man who knows what he's doing. Virgins generally don't, but if a virgin was confident that he DOES know what he's doing, would he at least partially make up for his lack of experience?


Confident being the most important party of what you said, yes.
If he is confident, then that would generally make up for the lack of experience, untill the actual sex takes place and it's clear that he doesn't :colone:
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Original post by Tomac
Confident being the most important party of what you said, yes.
If he is confident, then that would generally make up for the lack of experience, untill the actual sex takes place and it's clear that he doesn't :colone:


I dont understand what's so difficult about sex that you'd apparently be a retard about the whole thing on your first time. You're having sex, not attempting to ride a unicycle on a beam. How can you not know what you're doing? You've never watched porn, ffs? Not that porn should be the frame of how to do it, but surely it'd give you some idea of what to do. It'd at least teach you the positions. As for lasting long, well, most guys have been jerking off since their early teens. If you haven't learn to control yourself in all that time, well then what the hell have you been doing? Surely if you're enthusiastic and a bit more exploratory on your first goes then you'll AT LEAST be adequate and satisfactory.
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Original post by 4RealBlud
I dont understand what's so difficult about sex that you'd apparently be a retard about the whole thing on your first time. You're having sex, not attempting to ride a unicycle on a beam. How can you not know what you're doing? You've never watched porn, ffs? Not that porn should be the frame of how to do it, but surely it'd give you some idea of what to do. It'd at least teach you the positions. As for lasting long, well, most guys have been jerking off since their early teens. If you haven't learn to control yourself in all that time, well then what the hell have you been doing? Surely if you're enthusiastic and a bit more exploratory on your first goes then you'll AT LEAST be adequate and satisfactory.

It's simple to last long, in fact it took me almost an hour to finish when I was getting head from my ex...that says it all about virgins.
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Original post by jam277
It's simple to last long, in fact it took me almost an hour to finish when I was getting head from my ex...that says it all about virgins.


Well how long do you want head to last lol? I can't imagine it lasting longer than 45 mins maybe an hour tops including foreplay, because you'd eventually get tired, bored and maybe sore. And tbh, it's not hard to control yourself, you've just gotta know when to slow down. Anyone could in theory last as long as they want.
Original post by jam277
It's simple to last long, in fact it took me almost an hour to finish when I was getting head from my ex.

You're clearly still a virgin as getting head and having sex is not the same. I can last between 15 and 30 minutes during the actual sex act, and lasting near the 30 minutes mark is not good, it is boring after a while. 15-20, fine but after that it is just tiring and no point.
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Original post by tehFrance
You're clearly still a virgin as getting head and having sex is not the same. I can last between 15 and 30 minutes during the actual sex act, and lasting near the 30 minutes mark is not good, it is boring after a while. 15-20, fine but after that it is just tiring and no point.


I know, I've had dry sex, but I'm just saying that it's easy to last long.
Original post by jam277
I know, I've had dry sex, but I'm just saying that it's easy to last long.

WTF then you don't know what it is like, Dry sex is also nothing like sex... it isn't easy to last long on your first time, it takes practice.
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Original post by 4RealBlud
I dont understand what's so difficult about sex that you'd apparently be a retard about the whole thing on your first time. You're having sex, not attempting to ride a unicycle on a beam. How can you not know what you're doing? You've never watched porn, ffs? Not that porn should be the frame of how to do it, but surely it'd give you some idea of what to do. It'd at least teach you the positions. As for lasting long, well, most guys have been jerking off since their early teens. If you haven't learn to control yourself in all that time, well then what the hell have you been doing? Surely if you're enthusiastic and a bit more exploratory on your first goes then you'll AT LEAST be adequate and satisfactory.

Um.. Probably because masturbating and having sex are two different things, that feel very different. Controlling masturbation is completely different to controlling yourself during sex.. It's a tad harder to stay focused when you're inside a hot, naked woman than it is when you're jerking it to Japanese schoolgirls :rolleyes:

And if you're getting your sex education from porn, then you're going to have unrealistic expectations.. Most porn is male-centric, you don't really learn much about how to please a woman by watching it. Certain things you learn from experience.. The right rhythm for each girl, the right angle, the right foreplay and the right level of passion.. Every girl is different. No point moaning about it, everyone starts off a virgin.

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