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    Would a muslim go out with a christian for example? More a muslim female and non-muslim male relationship than the other way about.
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    No its forbidden, and muslim women aren't allowed to marry anyone other then muslim men.
    Well going out with someone before marriage is forbidden anyway.
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    (Original post by dotdotdotdot)
    No its forbidden, and muslim women aren't allowed to marry anyone other then muslim men.
    Well going out with someone before marriage is forbidden anyway.
    then how the do they get married in the first place?
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    Depends how strict they are and if the follow islam to the letter. Some do date christians, but they're (usually) the ones who don't practice islam.
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    (Original post by bestofyou)
    then how the do they get married in the first place?
    The marriage is arranged, the parents look for suitable partners and the woman or man chooses whether or not they want to be with each other, well that's how it's supposed to be, unfortunately there are some women who are pressured or forced into accepting a marriage.
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    (Original post by bestofyou)
    then how the do they get married in the first place?
    Then shes a not a muslim?
    Qur'an says - Disbelieving men are for disbelieving women. << SAYS same thing for men.
    However men are also allowed to also marry christian/jewish women, but not others e.g. sikh women, athiest women.

    Marriage for muslim women/men - probably organised by parents with consent of childrne,
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    yes she would
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    Ok generally Muslims are not allowed to go out with anyone regardless of them being muslim or non muslim well due to many reasons and requires alot of explanation.

    However some muslim that are not practising like non practising Jews and Christians do think its ok to date.

    So basically in Islam (The muslim faith) you have a personal choice to do something or not do something.

    A muslims faith (Islam ) does not permist them to date but their personal choice is to either abide by that or not abide by it so they may date or may not date depending on the individiual.


    Its the same with Terrorism. Islam does not permist terrorism but people choose to do what 'they' feel is right. Its the individuals personal choice.
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    (Original post by Petro_99)
    yes she would
    why?

    you are saying the opposite of everyone else. Are you even muslim?
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    (Original post by bestofyou)
    why?

    you are saying the opposite of everyone else. Are you even muslim?
    yes i am

    i dated an athesist (christian when it came to christmas)
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    (Original post by bestofyou)
    then how the do they get married in the first place?
    Its like speed dating...not a good example but friends or family find out if their are any good single boys/girls...you have a 'date' with them....like you meet them as long as you want and find out how theyre like, whether you have similar ambitions etc then you choose to marry them or not....its like 'dating' but no sex/touching allowed....so rather than an 'arranged' marriage its more like an 'agreed' marriage...people need to stop using 'arranged' marriage as not everyone understands the difference...

    everyone thinks arranged marriages are those that you get forced into marrying....but its not always the case....some girls/guys regardless of culture or religion dont mind their parents picking them/finding a guy after losing hope themselves or that could be theyre personal choice and end up marrying them....depends on the indiviual...
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    Muslims should be with Muslims but there are people who do otherwise. That's it really.
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    (Original post by NannyD)
    Its like speed dating...not a good example but friends or family find out if their are any good single boys/girls...you have a 'date' with them....like you meet them as long as you want and find out how theyre like, whether you have similar ambitions etc then you choose to marry them or not....its like 'dating' but no sex/touching allowed....so rather than an 'arranged' marriage its more like an 'agreed' marriage...people need to stop using 'arranged' marriage as not everyone understands the difference...

    everyone thinks arranged marriages are those that you get forced into marrying....but its not always the case....some girls/guys regardless of culture or religion dont mind their parents picking them/finding a guy after losing hope themselves or that could be theyre personal choice and end up marrying them....depends on the indiviual...
    You forgot the part where a third party must/or should be present.
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    (Original post by dotdotdotdot)
    Then shes a not a muslim?
    Qur'an says - Disbelieving men are for disbelieving women. << SAYS same thing for men.
    However men are also allowed to also marry christian/jewish women, but not others e.g. sikh women, athiest women.

    Marriage for muslim women/men - probably organised by parents with consent of childrne,
    Please dont base your ignorant views on Ignorance.
    Disbelieving men are for disbelieving women has many meanings it could mean disbelieveing MUSLIM men are for disbelieveing MUSLIM woman....so non practising for non practising etc....

    ''However men are also allowed to also marry christian/jewish women, but not others e.g. sikh women, athiest women.''

    Not this in day and age....a muslim man can marry woman who believe in previous books from God and believe in one God and follow his rules...so that would mean people who DEVOUTLY follow the Torah and the Bible so jews and christians....woman are not allowed too because for fear of their safety...since being a muslim means you have to treat your wife properly with equal rights etc providing for her, taking care for her, not beating her etc etc (I know not all muslism men do this but their are many who are good husbands you just have to find the right partner)
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    (Original post by NannyD)
    Its like speed dating...not a good example but friends or family find out if their are any good single boys/girls...you have a 'date' with them....like you meet them as long as you want and find out how theyre like, whether you have similar ambitions etc then you choose to marry them or not....its like 'dating' but no sex/touching allowed....so rather than an 'arranged' marriage its more like an 'agreed' marriage...people need to stop using 'arranged' marriage as not everyone understands the difference...

    everyone thinks arranged marriages are those that you get forced into marrying....but its not always the case....some girls/guys regardless of culture or religion dont mind their parents picking them/finding a guy after losing hope themselves or that could be theyre personal choice and end up marrying them....depends on the indiviual...
    Only the ignorant believe than an arranged marriage is a forced marriage, that's not a reason to stop using the term, instead it should be a reason to raise awareness of the difference between an arranged and a forced marriage.
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    (Original post by Final Fantasy)
    You forgot the part where a third party must/or should be present.
    Oh yeah Lool just so that no funny business gets going....no one takes advantage etc...
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    (Original post by Politricks)
    Only the ignorant believe than an arranged marriage is a forced marriage, that's not a reason to stop using the term, instead it should be a reason to raise awareness of the difference between an arranged and a forced marriage.
    True but its sickens me that even intelligent people think that way. In university you have to explain the difference to soo many people....although tiring its nice seeing people say Omg really I never though of it that way...
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    (Original post by NannyD)
    Oh yeah Lool just so that no funny business gets going....no one takes advantage etc...
    Hmm... meeting a stranger and potential partner is awkward enough, personally I'd feel really uncomfortable and not myself with someone watching us!
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    Well there are quite a few who do. However, Muslims aren't supposed to "date" as it may lead to other desires emerging and the need to fulfil those desires. Hence to avoid committing sin, they should avoid dating. But there are many who date to find their own marriage partner but don't partake in sexual activities until they are bound by marriage as it secures the two together and prevents the prospect of, for example, the man leaving the woman after using her just for his pleasures which is most likely to occur outside of marriage. It depends really how strict the Muslim is- I know one girl who has a non-believing boyfriend- she believes in Islam but is not practising. A lot of Muslims are dating nowadays but with no sexual activities involved which legitimises it for them. Some girls are willing to date the non believing guy if he intends to convert to Islam at some point. Essentially it depends on who this girl is and how strong her attachment to her faith is.
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    (Original post by NannyD)
    True but its sickens me that even intelligent people think that way. In university you have to explain the difference to soo many people....although tiring its nice seeing people say Omg really I never though of it that way...

    Unfortunately, even those who are intelligent and appear to be open minded can sometimes be very ignorant.

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