21 and still never had a girlfriend. Is it ever going to happen? :(

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    Re: 21 and still never had a girlfriend. Is it ever going to happen? :(
    (Original post by starkey)
    There's somebody out there for everyone, and despite your evident low self-confidence you have to believe that. The right person will come along and you'll just know. In the meanwhile, maybe try and approach someone you like and ask- if you don't ask you'll never know. Get a few drinks inside of you first, I know it can seem daunting but really, what is there to lose? You're no different from when you started or you've ended up with a relationship.
    Good luck!
    Thing is, even when i'm steaming drunk i've had some of my friends tell me to go over to someone but i'm still too nervous

    I don't think i'm bad looking at all, i just don't believe anyone could find me attractive. Don't know why my confidence is so low when its fairly high in everything else.
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    Re: 21 and still never had a girlfriend. Is it ever going to happen? :(
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thing is, even when i'm steaming drunk i've had some of my friends tell me to go over to someone but i'm still too nervous

    I don't think i'm bad looking at all, i just don't believe anyone could find me attractive. Don't know why my confidence is so low when its fairly high in everything else.
    Then what you need to do is improve that self confidence
    best way to do that is by doing things that take you out of your comfort zone

    you could try chatting up girls which you find attractive but don't know
    this will help you see that rejection isn't that bad and you may get a buzz off the challenge
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    Re: 21 and still never had a girlfriend. Is it ever going to happen? :(
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    maybe you're gay
    good man, post anonymously! Your cool!

    be confident lad, all ye can do and as for that site which i see being mentioned by that midlands guy, do share. If there was an award for cockblocking ones self i'm pretty sure I'd be a good contender. I can't read girls at all haha
  4. Anonymous's Avatar
    Re: 21 and still never had a girlfriend. Is it ever going to happen? :(
    (Original post by midlandsman)
    Anyway, if you really want to crack this, PM me and I'll show you an amazing website that'll massively help.
    Hate to bump this, but any chance i can get that website off you if i PM'd you?

    If it would help at all i'd be interested because this is still really getting me down. Especially when the rest of my life couldn't be better right now.
  5. jtnf's Avatar
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    Re: 21 and still never had a girlfriend. Is it ever going to happen? :(
    You sound like you've got a lot going for you so be confident! Confidence (but not cockiness) is a very attractive quality to a lot of people. Don't put yourself down people live life at different paces but that doesn't mean that yours won't 'catch up' so to speak. Stop worrying, relax, start socialising and take things from there.
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