How do you act towards people you dislike?
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Re: How do you act towards people you dislike?I always try to be as nice as I can be to people if they're only irritating, but without indicating that I want to spend any more time with them than I have to.
If I disapprove of them morally or just think they're incredible d-bags then I'll acknowledge them when they directly make contact with me, but other than that try to stay away from them.
However, if I am in a situation where somebody is being unnecessarily rude to somebody I like then I try to say as politely as I can that they are being rude and that they should stop it, though I always try not to be rude myself, say things that aren't true as then I'd lose my credibility in any argument I may put forward. I think what I try to do is difuse the situation unless something really needs to be done and distance myself as much as possible from people I don't like without being rude.
Edit: I also have a tendancy to bitch behind peoples backs, which I do feel bad about, but at least it helps me be decent in person? I know that makes me a person I probably would think is morally questionable, but I accept that about myself. I go to an all girls school. Bitching is necessary to live.Last edited by fishfan01; 05-04-2012 at 23:21. -
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Re: How do you act towards people you dislike?Act civil but if they have really done something to annoy me then I'd prefer to pretend not to notice them if possible, but if it's not easy to ignore/pretend I haven't seen them then I do the customary greet and smile.
Unless its my sibling, in which case they get the whole sarcasm treatment
+1 I always seem calm but tend to vent things out by ranting to my best friends afterwards haha. Also have some passive aggressive tendencies. So if they have really riled me off then if they need me, I'll just happen to be 'busy'.(Original post by RobertWhite)
Civil towards them but then have a nice bitch behind their back...Last edited by Supermassive_muse_fan; 05-04-2012 at 23:29. -
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Re: How do you act towards people you dislike?Man up.(Original post by RobertWhite)
Civil towards them but then have a nice bitch behind their back...
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Re: How do you act towards people you dislike?Haha exactly what I'd do(Original post by Supermassive_muse_fan)
Act civil but if they have really done something to annoy me then I'd prefer to pretend not to notice them if possible, but if it's not easy to ignore/pretend I haven't seen them then I do the customary greet and smile.
Unless its my sibling, in which case they get the whole sarcasm treatment
+1 I always seem calm but tend to vent things out by ranting to my best friends afterwards haha. Also have some passive aggressive tendencies. So if they have really riled me off then if they need me, I'll just happen to be 'busy'.
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Re: How do you act towards people you dislike?I just try and avoid them, or if i can't just be civil. Depends how bad the dislike is and why. I tend not to find very many people annoying though. I don't mind excessively loud people, where most have found them annoying for e.g. It all just washes over me. When I dislike someone it's usually because they are sadistic/bullying types or have done something morally reprehensible.
Sometimes I can't control my facial expressions however, and end up giving the people i have disliked contemptuous looks, when I don't mean to (or rather, don't want to reveal my true feelings). This has gotten me into trouble in the past.Last edited by plimsolls; 22-04-2012 at 13:45. -
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Re: How do you act towards people you dislike?Just behave civilly towards them if I'm in a situation where I can't really avoid them. Although tbh at the moment, with the people who I hang out/work we're all pretty close knit, so there's no dislike or bitchery between us.
EDIT: Cheers for the neg, what was so offensive?Last edited by cosmobear92; 22-04-2012 at 14:39. -
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Re: How do you act towards people you dislike?If its someone I have to deal with regularly eg a friend of a friend then I just put up with it and act as if I like them. If it is someone I can avoid then I just avoid them, if they talk to me I am polite. Once in a while I dislike someone so much that I can't bear to hold my feelings in and then I am a little rude if they speak to me but I still would avoid them if possible.
If someone is pissing me off by what they are doing at that moment, I have a strong facial expression which I use on whoever it is. Its especially useful to use on children when their parents are around or mates girlfriends.Last edited by Sternumator; 22-04-2012 at 14:14.
