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    (Original post by Christianlady)
    Hello Gofre,

    Thanks for explaining to the person who did not understand. As for what the Bible says, I did not write it. However yes, I do believe it is true. I do not hate homosexuals, nor do I want to kill them or hurt them in any way. Some of my favorite people in the world, including Jim Parson who is an awesome actor, as well as Anderson Cooper, who is a handsome news reporter, I think are homosexuals. I adore them.

    I believe that people are free to believe what they believe is true and that they should not hurt people who are different in any way. For people who do believe that the Bible is true and who had/are experiencing homosexual thoughts and want not be, that is between them and God, and Exodus International is a group of people who experienced that. I am not their Judge.

    Thankfully in most Western nations, there is freedom of religion. I exercise my right to freedom of religion and speech, and advocate others to do so as well.

    There are many bigots in the world. There are people who are bigoted against Christians, against Muslims, against Hindus, against Jewish people, against Atheists, against other beliefs, as well as practices and opinions.

    I am bigoted against murder for many reasons. I am also bigoted against stealing, sexual immorality, and hurting someone's feelings by calling them insulting names, bullies, and so on. What are you bigoted against?

    Peace and God bless you
    The distinction you're failing to make is bigotry towards things which are justified and unjustified. Bigotry against murder, theft and other things that directly harm other people is justified, bigotry against things that do no harm and are just an element of human nature, like homosexuality, is not, it's inherently despicable.
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    (Original post by Gofre)
    The distinction you're failing to make is bigotry towards things which are justified and unjustified. Bigotry against murder, theft and other things that directly harm other people is justified, bigotry against things that do no harm and are just an element of human nature, like homosexuality, is not, it's inherently despicable.
    Hello Gofre,

    I understand why you think that. However, again I have to say, I didn't write the Bible. I just believe it's true.

    Anyways, my hubby is coming home soon from work and I want to freshen up a bit and look all beautiful for my husband, so I gotta get off the computer!

    (I can study later)

    Peace and God bless you
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    (Original post by Christianlady)
    Hello Gofre,

    I understand why you think that. However, again I have to say, I didn't write the Bible. I just believe it's true.

    Anyways, my hubby is coming home soon from work and I want to freshen up a bit and look all beautiful for my husband, so I gotta get off the computer!

    (I can study later)

    Peace and God bless you
    And people say atheists are the amoral ones :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by Christianlady)
    Hello,

    I believe monogamous marriages are the ideal that God has for a man and a woman. I do not believe that one has to get married officially by the government or even by a religious organization. However, I do believe marriage is a commitment before God between one man and one woman who decide to be live life together, enjoy God's gift of sex, have (or not have) children, and ideally grow old together!


    My Dad and my Mom were both virgins when they got married at 18 years old. Both had been raised in Christian families where purity was strictly emphasized. Sadly, nowadays purity is not held in such high esteem, even tragically in some Christian families, as in the time of my parents (they are in their 50s now) but both grew up with the idea that sex is a precious gift between a husband and wife, and they both grew up with a monogamous mindset. Both had been raised in families where the husband and wife did not get divorced, the husband did not have other wives or girlfriends or mistresses, but rather each couple were a team. I still have pictures of my Mamaw and Papaw, my Mom's parents, when they were younger and together with their kids, and then together with their grandkids, before my Mamaw passsed away from cancer, before her and Papaw's 50th wedding anniversary.

    My parents have had ups and downs in their relationship. No marriage is perfect. However, my Dad is faithful to my Mom, and my Mom is faithful to my Dad. They trust each other, and are faithful to each other, which is a beautiful thing and a beautiful security for them and for their children.

    Now, there is nowhere in the Bible that specifically prohibits polygamous marriages, but I hope people can understand that there are many benefits to monogamous marriages. Below are the following, which I have personally seen by observing the marriage of my parents, as well as experiencing my own marrige with my amazing husband (though sometimes I nickname him "El Dictador" lol, but that's another topic.

    1. God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Eve and Jane and Kathryn and Bianca. A man and a woman = Adam and Eve, are a beautiful team, two flesh becoming one. (Genesis 2:20-25) So, why not follow the original plan that God had for humans, for a man and a woman to become one flesh? It is beautiful!!!

    2. Women are by nature very sensitive. I am living proof of that. It is so easy to get upset, and I have put my husband through very wild roller coasters of emotion. However, my husband is very good at balancing my emotions with his patience and gentleness and strength. If, however, more women were added into the equation of "us', it would be very hard for the chemistry to flow in as beautiful a way as it does now...

    3. Children love seeing their mom and dad show each other in kind ways that they love each other. Everytime I see my Mom and Dad smile at each other, and laugh and enjoy time together, my heart beams. I have seen some children, both kids and adult sons and daughters, have visible pain in their eyes when they see their Mom and Dad not showing love to each other. Now, it is very possible in polygamous marriages for parents to show their love to each other. However, the competition between wives (and from what I've heard, there is almost always a favorite) that it makes it hard because there is always the comparing going on. However, children who are the offspring of a happy monogamous marriage do not worry about their Mom being their Dad's favorite or being loved, or not.

    Below is the ideal that Christians believe concerning what marriage is.


    Genesis 2 (NIV) - I boldened some.

    "21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[Or took part of the man’s side] and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib[Or part] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

    23 The man said,

    “This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
    she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man.”

    24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. "

    To me, the above is so romantic!!! Matthew Henry says the following... I don't know if it's originally written by him or is a quote from someone else? I boldened his quote.

    "“The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved.”
    ― Matthew Henry, Matthew Henry's Commentary on the Whole Bible: Complete and Unabridged in One Volume "

    I believe that is so true!!! Women are not sexual objects, not temporary gratification devises to be used then cast aside for a "newer model" Rather, a woman is a person who is equal with man, though different. Most men are stronger than most women. However, the strength is not to use to hurt, but rather to protect the woman he loves.

    Back to monogamous marriages: Healthy monogamous marriages include a connection that is more than just physical, but is also emotional, mental, and spiritual! Jesus confirms God's ideal of marriage when talking about divorce, accounted in Matthew.


    Matthew 19 (NIV) - I boldened some.

    "1 When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2 Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.

    3 Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”

    4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[Gen. 1:27] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[Gen. 2:24]? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

    7 “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”

    8 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning."

    So, for many people who believe in God, monogamous marriages are the ideal. Marriage takes work... it takes commitment and shared goals and shared convictions, communication, comprise, and a sense of humor! I am grateful to be married to one man who I love very much and who I know loves me. We share convictions and goals, and even though we are very different from each other, we appreciate our differences and enjoy the life-long process of getting to know each other!

    Concerning you, what do you think? Do you prefer a monogamous marriage or a polygamous one or an "open marriage" or no marriage, and why? Thanks!

    Peace and God bless you
    As long as everybody consents and is happy I don't see how it's any of anybody else's business.
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    I just read something about God at the beginning and I could not be bothered to read any more.
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    (Original post by Christianlady)
    Hello,

    I believe monogamous marriages are the ideal that God has for a man and a woman. I do not believe that one has to get married officially by the government or even by a religious organization. However, I do believe marriage is a commitment before God between one man and one woman who decide to be live life together, enjoy God's gift of sex, have (or not have) children, and ideally grow old together!


    My Dad and my Mom were both virgins when they got married at 18 years old. Both had been raised in Christian families where purity was strictly emphasized. Sadly, nowadays purity is not held in such high esteem, even tragically in some Christian families, as in the time of my parents (they are in their 50s now) but both grew up with the idea that sex is a precious gift between a husband and wife, and they both grew up with a monogamous mindset. Both had been raised in families where the husband and wife did not get divorced, the husband did not have other wives or girlfriends or mistresses, but rather each couple were a team. I still have pictures of my Mamaw and Papaw, my Mom's parents, when they were younger and together with their kids, and then together with their grandkids, before my Mamaw passsed away from cancer, before her and Papaw's 50th wedding anniversary.

    My parents have had ups and downs in their relationship. No marriage is perfect. However, my Dad is faithful to my Mom, and my Mom is faithful to my Dad. They trust each other, and are faithful to each other, which is a beautiful thing and a beautiful security for them and for their children.

    Now, there is nowhere in the Bible that specifically prohibits polygamous marriages, but I hope people can understand that there are many benefits to monogamous marriages. Below are the following, which I have personally seen by observing the marriage of my parents, as well as experiencing my own marrige with my amazing husband (though sometimes I nickname him "El Dictador" lol, but that's another topic.

    1. God created Adam and Eve, not Adam and Eve and Jane and Kathryn and Bianca. A man and a woman = Adam and Eve, are a beautiful team, two flesh becoming one. (Genesis 2:20-25) So, why not follow the original plan that God had for humans, for a man and a woman to become one flesh? It is beautiful!!!

    2. Women are by nature very sensitive. I am living proof of that. It is so easy to get upset, and I have put my husband through very wild roller coasters of emotion. However, my husband is very good at balancing my emotions with his patience and gentleness and strength. If, however, more women were added into the equation of "us', it would be very hard for the chemistry to flow in as beautiful a way as it does now...

    3. Children love seeing their mom and dad show each other in kind ways that they love each other. Everytime I see my Mom and Dad smile at each other, and laugh and enjoy time together, my heart beams. I have seen some children, both kids and adult sons and daughters, have visible pain in their eyes when they see their Mom and Dad not showing love to each other. Now, it is very possible in polygamous marriages for parents to show their love to each other. However, the competition between wives (and from what I've heard, there is almost always a favorite) that it makes it hard because there is always the comparing going on. However, children who are the offspring of a happy monogamous marriage do not worry about their Mom being their Dad's favorite or being loved, or not.

    Below is the ideal that Christians believe concerning what marriage is.


    Genesis 2 (NIV) - I boldened some.

    "21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs[Or took part of the man’s side] and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib[Or part] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

    23 The man said,

    “This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
    she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man.”

    24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. "

    To me, the above is so romantic!!! Matthew Henry says the following... I don't know if it's originally written by him or is a quote from someone else? I boldened his quote.

    "“The woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved.”
    ― Matthew Henry, Matthew Henry's Commentary on the Whole Bible: Complete and Unabridged in One Volume "

    I believe that is so true!!! Women are not sexual objects, not temporary gratification devises to be used then cast aside for a "newer model" Rather, a woman is a person who is equal with man, though different. Most men are stronger than most women. However, the strength is not to use to hurt, but rather to protect the woman he loves.

    Back to monogamous marriages: Healthy monogamous marriages include a connection that is more than just physical, but is also emotional, mental, and spiritual! Jesus confirms God's ideal of marriage when talking about divorce, accounted in Matthew.


    Matthew 19 (NIV) - I boldened some.

    "1 When Jesus had finished saying these things, he left Galilee and went into the region of Judea to the other side of the Jordan. 2 Large crowds followed him, and he healed them there.

    3 Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”

    4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[Gen. 1:27] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[Gen. 2:24]? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

    7 “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?”

    8 Jesus replied, “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning."

    So, for many people who believe in God, monogamous marriages are the ideal. Marriage takes work... it takes commitment and shared goals and shared convictions, communication, comprise, and a sense of humor! I am grateful to be married to one man who I love very much and who I know loves me. We share convictions and goals, and even though we are very different from each other, we appreciate our differences and enjoy the life-long process of getting to know each other!

    Concerning you, what do you think? Do you prefer a monogamous marriage or a polygamous one or an "open marriage" or no marriage, and why? Thanks!

    Peace and God bless you
    Largely agree.
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    I think polygamous marriages are fine as long as all the partners are aware of this and are ok with it.
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    It's usually the females who give their heart and soul to the idea of monogamous marriages because every girl wants her Mr-Prince-Charming-3-Kids-Happily-Ever-After-zzzz.


    Do a poll on how many men in monogamous marriages would marry / court another woman if they could 100% get away with it. Welcome to real life.



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    Okay - a monogamous marriage might be fine for you - and if so, I wish you all the best.

    But some people want a polyamorous marriage. What reason do you have against giving people the right to marry more than one other person, if they so wish?
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    (Original post by Retrodiction)
    As long as everybody consents and is happy I don't see how it's any of anybody else's business.
    Exactly.

    And if someone wants to be able to get married to themself, it's no-one else's business.

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