Not sure what to do - Do I try it with her?
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Not sure what to do - Do I try it with her?So I've been away on a school trip this past week, and I feel like I've gotten quite close to a girl who I've known since the beginning of the year. She's quite good looking and I'm probably punching above my weight. But she's really friendly, probably tries too hard to fit in and stuff is the general opinion from peers on her, but that's probably cos she was new and from what I've heard has moved about quite a bit previously.
But the last week she's made the effort to talk to me a lot more, but is this just because she had no other 'friends' on the trip?!
On the way home yesterday she told me how she really didn't like a guy who she'd been hanging about with all week and who everybody thought were really into each other. So clearly she prefers me to him if she's talking about that stuff and telling me that? She had a big piss up basically a while back and I wasn't invited but shes already said she wants me to come to the next time, if there is one.
Wow, and just as I was writing this I started talking to her and she sounds really eager for me to go to something tomorrow night. I'm not invited and I'm working, but she really wants me to come it seems.
Do you think she's worth it or is it just a friendship thing?? Either way glad to have become so close to somebody. 
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Re: Not sure what to do - Do I try it with her?"kino" is German for "cinema," so while I know you mean kinetics and touch, you may be confusing some people.(Original post by Foo.mp3)
Just enjoy the friendship, and pick the right moment to go 'kino', gauge her response and take it from there
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Re: Not sure what to do - Do I try it with her?General confusion of n00bs on the net is part of the spice of life mon frere <3(Original post by sweeter than a cherry pie)
"kino" is German for "cinema," so while I know you mean kinetics and touch, you may be confusing some people.
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Re: Not sure what to do - Do I try it with her?Haha right cheers guys, think that's what'll happen.
The thing tonight never went ahead or was interrupted and she text me to let me know this, still sounds alright I suppose, I'll just keep making the effort, but not too much.
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Re: Not sure what to do - Do I try it with her?So what do you mean by 'Gauge' her interest and that?(Original post by Foo.mp3)
Just enjoy the friendship, and pick the right moment to go 'kino', gauge her response and take it from there
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Re: Not sure what to do - Do I try it with her?Spend some time in her company, once she's reasonably (but not too) comfortable have a wee bit of horseplay when you're alone, gauge her reactions and see where it leads(Original post by Anonymous)
So what do you mean by 'Gauge' her interest and that?
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Re: Not sure what to do - Do I try it with her?Yep. Cheers.(Original post by Foo.mp3)
Spend some time in her company, once she's reasonably (but not too) comfortable have a wee bit of horseplay when you're alone, gauge her reactions and see where it leads
She's just died her hair and pictures are on Facebook and... Wow. She's beautiful. Everybody's noticing it now, problem is I think she's a bit of an attention whore.
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Re: Not sure what to do - Do I try it with her?Then you must stretch her, only way an attention whore will ever: a) respect you; b) come down to earth(Original post by Anonymous)
She's just died her hair and pictures are on Facebook and... Wow. She's beautiful. Everybody's noticing it now, problem is I think she's a bit of an attention whore.
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Re: Not sure what to do - Do I try it with her?Lol, and this means?(Original post by Foo.mp3)
Then you must stretch her, only way an attention whore will ever: a) respect you; b) come down to earth
She really does seem decent with me, making up nicknames and stuff, but I just feel like one of many with her and I wouldn't want it to be like that. :P
I'm thinking I may as well go for it, that's the reason for all of this. Just need to see her in person more. -
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Re: Not sure what to do - Do I try it with her?Challenge and inspire her, and be ready to 'strike while the iron's hot' e.g. when you're watching a movie together or at a party o suttin(Original post by Anonymous)
Lol, and this means?
Then it's up to you to ensure you're not. Some girls will be suckers for you from the get-go, others require a guy to set himself apart, by demonstrating 'value', and/or how he is different from the rest(Original post by Anonymous)
I just feel like one of many with her and I wouldn't want it to be like that. :P
Aye you may as well 'take the bull by the horns'(Original post by Anonymous)
I'm thinking I may as well go for it, that's the reason for all of this. Just need to see her in person more.
The beauty of situations such as those given above is that you can take the edge off rejection really easily and excuse it away as just 'getting caught up in the moment'
Think of it as 'a shot to nothing' then, and remember: 'Who dares, wins'
Boy I've excelled myself with all the clichés in this post
Last edited by Foo.mp3; 13-04-2012 at 13:02.
